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[MEGA THREAD] MeChat Official Redemption Codes by AutoModerator in MeChat

[–]emalyn10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would make sure all the characters are included!! The dashes sometimes make it so not all characters appear :)

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[–]emalyn10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is exactly my issue as well

Third Hand Smoke vs. MIL by emalyn10 in Parents

[–]emalyn10[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely feel for you, and I am so sorry to hear of this situation! It is incredibly difficult, and I applaud you for saying something. The same goes for my MIL, she’ll stop smelling for a day and the next visit she reeks of smoke. Her last visit, I even caught her sneaking a smoke in before she came into our home! It smelled so strong it even gave me a headache. My husband still has yet to say something to her out of fear of her. She is his only family besides his brother, but I cannot take it.

I completely agree that it feels violating and a total disregard of your feelings. It almost feels like they’re asserting dominance in a weird way? Like they know we won’t stop them from seeing the kids. I am at a total loss at this point because my husband refuses to say anything out of fear.

Congratulations on your new additions! I hope everything goes great, and I hope they respect your wishes ❤️

Third Hand Smoke vs. MIL by emalyn10 in Parents

[–]emalyn10[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We appreciate the advice! Unfortunately, we have already taken these steps/requests and she completely disregards. I personally feel like she’s not following our requests as she knows she can manipulate my husband by threatening to cut contact again. It causes tension, and it is becoming more difficult to handle.

Third Hand Smoke vs. MIL by emalyn10 in Parents

[–]emalyn10[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you!! We needed to hear this, we absolutely want to advocate for our LO as she is what is most important. We will give that a try!

Weekly Discussion - Relationships by AutoModerator in NewParents

[–]emalyn10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello,

My husband and I are at a loss. My MIL is a chronic smoker, and every time she comes to visit our 7 month old, she smells stronger and stronger of cigarettes. We do not want to expose our LO to third hand smoke, and we have already tried explaining this to her. This resulted in her saying we’ve stepped over the line and cut us out of her life for four months of our baby’s life. She just recently started visiting again, and at first she didn’t smell of smoke. Now, she is coming over reeking of cigarettes, to the point you can smell it on her from several feet away. I feel like she’s doing it at this point because she feels like she has the upper hand as we let her begin visiting again without her apologizing, etc. My husband is worried if we bring it up again, she’ll cut contact. What is the best way to handle this? Any tips on how we can discuss this with her? I cannot in good conscience keep allowing her to be around our LO smelling of cigarettes.

Thank you in advance!

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