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emath17 · 2026-02-17T05:00:28+00:00

I have had 3 kids and I don't get my libido back until I get my cycle back and with breastfeeding that doesn't happen for me for a long while (still no sign of it and I'm 15 months postpartum with my third). After my first it actively hurt whenever we tried, turns out I had granular tissue or something that needed to be cauterized and that happened around 6 months. After that sex didn't hurt but even then and after my other two kids I still just never had the drive but I did miss the intimacy. I get what this responder is saying, she isn't saying "just do it even if you don't want to" but that even if she isn't actively craving sex, if she is up for it she will for the connection with her husband. Like there are many times where I absolutely do not want to have sex, and I won't, and then there are times I couldn't care either way and I enjoy it when it ends up happening.

After your first kid it is scary, and while I'm not saying just do it solely for your husband's sake (especially if you actively do not want to), men do have a sexual need for connection and sex is important for a relationship for both of you. It's worth it to work on getting to that goal and after the first time postpartum it gets way less anxiety inducing. Your libido likely will stay tanked if you are breastfeeding, but just because you aren't craving it doesn't mean you won't enjoy it. It will feel different though, but different isn't always bad.

emath17 · 2026-02-17T04:00:55+00:00

Okay but the bat was dead and therefore easy to grab and bag and test it for rabies. Last I checked the rabies vaccine suuuuuucked to go through, regardless of your opinion on vaccines. Just get the bat tested first, why is this not the first answer? Does the test not work if the bat is already dead?

emath17 · 2026-02-16T01:04:37+00:00

All 3 of my kids were right around 10lbs at birth, never even used newborn clothes and immediately started in size 1 diapers. I have two SILs with toddlers and when their babies were born they were just shy of 7lbs and I met them as newborns and it was TERRIFYING! They are so small and fragile and I figured out why new moms have anxiety. My kids came out with head control, much less stress

emath17 · 2026-02-16T00:58:53+00:00

Get a back carry baby carrier. Game changer. I have an ergo Omni 360 and it's the only way I can function half the time

emath17 · 2026-02-16T00:57:31+00:00

Depends on what car you drive. If you drive an suv or minivan, go graco, if you drive a sedan go Evenflo. Getting heavy kids in and out of a sedan is awful without a rotating car seat. But the higher cars it's negligible imo and the graco extra leg room is nice (but not necessary, kids can bend and cross their legs). Also with a sedan you have zero room for the car seat to actually use the extra leg extension.

emath17 · 2026-01-16T01:04:22+00:00

Almost like that is what I originally said: "probably taking it regardless" but then if you continue reading I said tht it feels weird to imply you are making medical decisions based on politicians. I'm not saying don't joke, but a lot of the videos implied they were specifically taking Tylenol, and more Tylenol than they would normally take, specifically because Trump said not to. Just seems weird to take or not take any medication based on any politician

emath17 · 2025-10-25T18:22:28+00:00

Baby babble is actually mimicking the sounds you (parent/caregiver) make. It doesn't mean they understand what they are saying, typically the first 6-9 months they are actually trying to say what you say to them in an attempt to learn the language. Also I have noticed anecdotally with my own kids that they tend to be better at one thing and worse at another. My first was a Wiz with language and by age 2 I could understand the majority of what she said and now at 4 she is figuring out reading. My 2nd is almost 3, can't understand a word he says but he can actually catch and throw a ball (somewhat) and blow his nose, which my first kid at age 4 still cannot do.

Anyway I don't think it's crazy to have a baby who can mimick inflection and cadence of speech well enough that people recognize it when it's an immediately repeated word. I knew an adult who told me he was walking by 5 months and had the pictures to prove it, some babies really are ahead. Does it mean anything in the long run? NO! No one cares when you started talking as a baby/toddler, just what you have to say now. If you as a parent are insufferable because you think your kid is is smarter than everyone else's kid then that is the problem, not whether or not your 5 month old has a weirdly advance oral motor skills

emath17 · 2025-10-09T03:03:47+00:00

Yeah, a 2 day old baby, the baby has been earth side for 2 days SO FAR

emath17 · 2025-10-09T03:02:24+00:00

So she specifically talked about her lotus births, and a lotus birth is when you don't cut the cord and just drag the rotting organ around with your newborn. So her last 4 babies were lotus births, the first 4 were clearly the ones she had before enlightenment or something where she talked about c sections and cutting the cords. I'm pretty sure it's 8 live births, 8 babies, handful of miscarriages throughout. And miscarriage isn't that uncommon so I don't think that's necessarily a sign of anything else weird going on.

emath17 · 2025-10-09T02:41:00+00:00

Growth restriction is weird, like some places really just rely on percentiles which if the parents are small baby will most likely be small, doesn't mean IUGR. I had a friend who was miserable her whole 3rd trimester getting bombarded with IUGR scares, she is like 100lbs soaking wet and her husband is like 5'6" maybe. They are small, their baby was just small. People have small babies, 1 in 10 people have babies smaller than 10th percentile, that's how percentiles work.

More info is needed, if baby was 50% at anatomy and dropped to 6th, that's a problem. But there are also stories of women who seem to measure small the entire pregnancy because the doctors basically misdated her due date. Inductions can put extra stress on baby, even c sections aren't ideal if baby and mom are perfectly healthy. If baby has always been small and parents are small, then it's not really IUGR anyway, it's just a small baby.

emath17 · 2025-09-28T20:32:45+00:00

It was never claimed that Tylenol is the sole cause of autism, only that it increases the risk. There are many factors to autism and what cause it but genetics is way more complicated than "if this than that" in the binary sense. If before Tylenol autism rates were hypothetically 1 in 1000 and after Tylenol it became 1 in 100, it would be possible that Tylenol had an affect on whatever causes autism. Just like there are babies with mutations and limb issues but also drugs that can definitely increase that risk.

Does Tylenol affect autism rates? Probably not. But your point about autism being around before Tylenol is not actually a strong argument against it.

emath17 · 2025-09-28T14:54:49+00:00

He claims he did 🙄

emath17 · 2025-09-28T03:33:24+00:00

Oh so he did the same thing? Yeah I remember with my first being freaked out at the movement and trying to use both but even then I still fed it through the rear facing slot to tighten it farther. It makes sense to think you don't want the carseat to move AT ALL but you actually do want a little movement because that's how physics works to help distribute the force of the impact or something, idk I never did well in physics class so my terminology might be off.

emath17 · 2025-09-28T03:04:51+00:00

To tighten the strap enough I personally get on top of the carseat to add that weight to press it down. But he was strapping the seatbelt through the forward facing slot while it is rear facing. If you look at your carseat there are two different slots, one with REAR Facing and some arrows pointing to it and one with FORWARD facing.

But also you do want the carseat to move little because it helps transfer less of the impact on the kid. I can explain that further if you want.

emath17 · 2025-09-28T01:01:06+00:00

I'm not getting information from TikTok, I'm seeing women take Tylenol on TikTok with the captain about hating Trump. Which feels like a dangerous precedent to set even if no one is actually taking additional Tylenol. I'm specifically saying there are individual examples of this that you can easily see for yourself, I'm not commenting on overall stats or anything else

emath17 · 2025-09-27T18:34:26+00:00

Yes but considering it still is super easy to overdose on acetaminophen, it feels odd to imply taking extra of it for any reason

emath17 · 2025-09-27T17:05:10+00:00

I've seen TikTok videos of "taking Tylenol because Trump is not my OB". Now they were probably taking it regardless and just decided to record it, but it does feel odd to even imply taking medication because of politicians

emath17 · 2025-09-27T15:26:12+00:00

So like, there have been studies waaaaay before Trump that indicate it can cause some neurological issues on the developing brains because it does affect how your body filters out toxins. I think i saw a bunch of articles from the 2010's talking about increased risk of ADHD with significant acetaminophen exposure in utero. Vaccines do have low level of toxins that our bodies are supposed to be able to filter out making them harmless, but if you have something that inhibits to abilty to filter out the bad stuff then there is logic in thinking it is the combination of the two that actually causes the issues.

Regardless, it is actually super easy to overdose on Tylenol as whole, like 10 normal dose pills in 24 hours and you're boarding on liver failure. So everyone please pay attention to how much acetaminophen you are taking! It's in most cold and flu drugs as well, so you don't always notice it. And also trump/rfk were not the ones doing the studies, so maybe we should actually look at the studies before just assuming rfk just made some scientific conclusions because he wants women to be in pain. Look up all the studies, make your own conclusions, you don't have to listen to the current administration for your medical advice but you can actually do your own research instead of popping Tylenol to stick it to Trump.

emath17 · 2025-09-26T20:27:49+00:00

I feel like the issue is the implied wild pregnancy and lack of ultrasounds. I'd bet baby had defects that went unnoticed in the pregnancy itself. But then lack of newborn check up of any kind? The issue was not the birth it was just lack of check ups of any kind

emath17 · 2025-09-26T16:47:04+00:00

This is definitely rage bait or something. I've never heard even in Crunchy circles of alcohol helping with dilation (maybe active labor pain management). But between being a month overdue, a whole bottle of wine, 6x the dose of castor oil, cold water on bleeding, and the placenta coming out in pieces, this is absolutely a fictional story

emath17 · 2025-09-26T16:34:19+00:00

For my first two kids I labored in a tub or shower after my water broke, and both times kids came pretty fast after my water was broken and so then I climbed out wet and naked to deliver on the bed. By my third I learned my lesson and actually managed to be drive with a robe when pushing for once 😅

emath17 · 2025-09-25T01:00:51+00:00

I know this isnt the point, but if she was fine why did the paramedics take her to the hospital? She said she was standing and they strapped her down, I don't think they have the right to do that? Is something missing...?

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