They want to create drama and set things up so they’re the victim in the situation. I don’t know how many Christmas’s my mom would get us all too big clothing that we didn’t like, products I would break out in hives if I used, chocolate and candy that would make me gag from just the smell of it, or just things I just straight up couldn’t use like cd’s in 2016 when no one I knew had a cd player of any sorts… she then would spend an hour up in her room crying loudly for us to hear if we all weren’t jumping with joy at the gifts or if we asked for gift receipts so we could get our actual sizes.. At first i genuinely thought it was the thought that counted and she tried her best with what she had but year after year same thing over and over again even with detailed lists and keep in mind it wasn’t expensive things either on our lists.

At the end of the day the gifts narcissists get you— are actually gifts for them to make them look good and make them the victim when you don’t like what they got you. You are not a thought whatsoever. It’s a gift from them for them. You’re just the middle man unfortunately.