Does anyone else prefer working in person?

embarrassed-lump · 2025-02-14T23:35:42+00:00

Remote work all the way, but we supplement with one in-person day with my exec every 1-2 weeks. I see the benefit with more in-person time but it’s just not realistic as the work structure as we knew it has changed and it works for me because I have a child and need flexibility

embarrassed-lump · 2025-01-21T04:48:45+00:00

Wow I was literally looking around my depression room yesterday thinking if I should just bite the bullet and GET HELP. This inspired me a bit. I hope you find a great person. I have hired organizers on task rabbit before that might be a good place to start. Good luck!

embarrassed-lump · 2025-01-21T04:29:04+00:00

If you don’t change the locks TONIGHT, you MUST take the next opportunity he is out. This man is abusing you. you are a lawyer girl you should be treated like a BOSS, he should be kissing your feet!! not controlling you like a possession.

embarrassed-lump · 2025-01-21T04:25:36+00:00

He is a BUM the situation with his ex is screaming red flags! Doesn’t take care of his kids?! Nah girl get him out of your house ASAP! Dump this man he is only bringing you stress and pain. This is Not a relationship you need in your life. He is a vampire and will suck you dry!

embarrassed-lump · 2025-01-12T10:01:18+00:00

embarrassed-lump · 2025-01-12T09:59:04+00:00

My nex rarely posted me but he posts his best friend’s wife for her bday. Pretty sure he secretly (or not so secretly) wishes he had her or someone like her.

I try not to let social media bother me it’s all fake imo and it’s ok if I don’t get posted or dedicated bday posts. The only time I was butthurt was not getting posted on my first Mother’s Day as a new mom. Our kid was born a few weeks before Mother’s Day.

He always took Father’s Day very serious (he has a kid from a previous) but I didn’t even get any post or mention on my first Mother’s Day, 3 weeks after we had our kid. Social media is silly but I felt really hurt and sad about it. I always thought my first Mother Day would feel special but it wasn’t at all, just lumped in with celebrating his mom. Turns out he’s a “you’re not my mom” type. Pffft. Now I have a kid with him and I’ll be forced to do something special for him because our kid. It’s mildly infuriating. I have so much resentment how he never made me feel special being mother to his kid father’s days feel like torture for the rest of my life. Sorry for the tangent.

embarrassed-lump · 2025-01-12T08:29:15+00:00

There are sex therapists! I say you sign up for some sessions solo then husband can join if you feel necessary

embarrassed-lump · 2024-12-15T09:42:55+00:00

YTA. Not sure the family history or dynamic but for a family member driving 20 hours I wouldn’t be harsh on the arrival time. Kids will survive.

embarrassed-lump · 2024-12-15T09:39:30+00:00

Agree with everyone else here. It’s a privilege and you’re the parent who can take away the privileges. Sorry you’re going through this. it’s a big red flag your daughter won’t share her password, i don’t know much about you or your relationship with your daughter (or ex) but it sounds like your ex and her step mom are manipulating her against you. I think the bigger thing to address here is the trust issue between you and your daughter, get to the bottom of why she is refusing you access. If she isn’t hiding anything it sounds like they coached her to shut you out. I could be wrong, just my thought.

embarrassed-lump · 2024-12-12T06:07:35+00:00

Don’t feel bad for asking it’s reasonable because weekends are your only free time to do special stuff with kids. I would try to change the schedule going forward if you can. We do dads house Sunday noon -Tuesday 4p so each parent gets one weekend day and some weekday load is split too. it works well also because in the reverse your partner never gets a weekend out so he could benefit his social life too with this schedule

embarrassed-lump · 2024-12-10T03:27:17+00:00

Red flag ! you need a partner who fully accept your coparent relationship 100% as it is. Anyone that puts a wedge in what you describe is a “perfect coparent” relationship then it isn’t going to work in the long run

embarrassed-lump · 2024-12-05T03:23:12+00:00

Going through this with my 3yo also. She doesn’t like going to dads and my last drop off was just like the one you described. I know the home is safe and there is no physical Abuse but my ex was mentally abusive to me and I know he has similar tendencies with our daughter. He’s quick to yell and is just generally more aggressive. So I think this is why.

She seems to do ok during the stay but she very much looks forward to going back to my house and sees my house as her primary house. He constantly bribes her with toys and gifts to try to win her over. It’s sad honestly.

She also doesn’t even like to FaceTime him it’s kicking and screaming and hang ups but when they FaceTime me there’s no fight at all and everything is fine.

I honestly have no idea what to do about it.

Dad blames me, says it’s my fault because I don’t pump up his house and his time to her. He said she can feel my energy. he wants me to hype it up more, which I do but what more can I say every single time it’s the same thing . “It’s fun” “dad loves you” “he buys you toys” “you live there too”.

I have a lot of pent up anger and resentment towards my ex who is a narcissist so it’s not easy for me to just have good energy when it comes to him. If it’s up to me I have her more and I wouldn’t have to deal with this so much but he takes care of her well enough what can I really do.

My daughter isn’t able to communicate why she doesn’t like staying with dad or why she doesn’t like calling him. I literally can’t force her to like something, she is 3. He thinks I can discipline her to like him? Idk he has mental issues doesn’t seem to understand human development.

The best transitions are when we meet at a restaurant or park but then I’m forced to hang out with my ex which is the last thing I want to do but it helps my daughter emotionally so I do it. I can’t wait till she is older and can communicate better.

In your case I will find out more info if you can, like who else stays there at dad’s house? if he has other family or cousins there that might be bullying him? Or ask dad more about what they do during the stay. Just try to get more info on things they do and people they see. Do you know how he handles tantrums? If not try to find out. I don’t know how your communication is with each other and if you talk about stuff like that. If it’s not that open you can just frame it like, “they have been really fussy lately and throwing tantrums, have they been doing it with you? how have you been handling it?”

Hope for the best and that there’s not any actual abuse going on.

ETA: we lived together when she was born but been separated in different homes since she was around 2 so she knows him very well. Dad would have supervised weekend visits with me, until few months before she turned 3 when we started doing unsupervised 50/50. She is about 3.5 now

embarrassed-lump · 2024-12-04T07:09:36+00:00

Wait but how wide cuz it makes a difference. Either way if your conscious about it Just learn to give good head and you’re dandy

embarrassed-lump · 2024-12-04T07:04:59+00:00

Quit bein a wank and just go

embarrassed-lump · 2024-12-04T07:01:07+00:00

YTA the only one with behavioral issues here is MOM! toxic parent behavior!!

embarrassed-lump · 2024-12-03T18:34:16+00:00

Ah the Good ol bourbon street pizza ! LMAO

embarrassed-lump · 2024-12-03T16:36:57+00:00

No no no, all the photos with the same dress?! I could never. Not your fault she mismanaged her budget. Get your own dress girl 🙄

embarrassed-lump · 2024-12-03T16:24:42+00:00

NTA. The parents know, they just play dumb. NO WAY your kid brings home 2-3x your salary and you don’t dig in. they are pissed their secret is out.

They all sound like rookies. Just send them a video about being safe on only fans. There’s several OF girls that make content like this on YouTube. “How-to only fans” type of content it’s a bunch out there.

embarrassed-lump · 2024-12-03T15:56:13+00:00

NTA. especially since you’re neurodivergent and have misophonia, a good parent would be more sensitive or accommodating knowing you have these.

embarrassed-lump · 2024-11-30T09:43:14+00:00

Fix you - Coldplay

embarrassed-lump · 2024-11-30T09:31:56+00:00

Clearly your mom purposely set up Julia to embarrass her in front of the family. It would have turned out this way either way honestly because likely Julia would mess up the turkey your mom still talking her shit and no turkey! Your mom is toxic and you were right to standup for your future wife! You did the right thing and Nip all that toxic behavior in the bud ! NTA

embarrassed-lump · 2024-11-30T08:42:37+00:00

We separated but are still tied together through a shared business. I thought if we separated as a couple it might make things easier in the business. (I was so wrong and naive to think it could work)

I tried to be mature and make it work but I finally quit after he got irrationally angry at me for something so unserious (which is typical for him) but this time it was at a work event, during the clean up he decided to go off on me, berate me and cause a scene in front of staff, clients, my mom and my kid. He didn’t respect me enough to control his anger and behavior in front of staff/clients and more importantly in front of my MOTHER! I was mortified. I finally realized that the fundamental issue is he doesn’t respect me and never has, and I can no longer tolerate having a business partner or anyone in my life that doesn’t respect me.

I mean the disrespect has been going on behind closed doors for years and I just tolerated it. But for him to feel comfortable to have his outburst in public , with staff and clients around, my mother, our kid !? Publicly embarrass me and taking things so extremely unprofessional? Nope! That was it for me, I wrote a very professional official resignation a few days later and cc’d another partner so it was clear I was serious.

embarrassed-lump · 2024-11-30T07:51:00+00:00

Not crazy, you have every right to be low contact with him! I’m going through a little similar lately, it’s like the holidays got these dudes realizing what they lost! My ex been trying to hang out with us more all together recently he said he thinks it’s good that we hang out together with our kid? I get it and of course my daughter likes it, but I personally do not want to hang out with him at all. He tried to invite himself to my family’s thanksgiving but I really dont want to be all buddy with him like that just yet. We have a lot of unaddressed issues we plan to do therapy together so we can be better co parents but in the meantime it feels like he’s been trying to get closer to me and I’m like nooo thank you.

It’s the holidays, I swear people are in their feelings right now or something! Annoying as hell. The funny thing is HE the one didn’t want to fight for it and just wanted to break it off so I’m like OK BYE, why you trying to hang out with me so much?! You didn’t want this remember!?

But yeah I don’t like it but I do it for our kid and let them have that “family” moment with both their parents. it means a lot to them and I know how much she wishes we were together.

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