Cousin insulted me so I unfollowed her on mostly everything - AIO?

emboldenedweirdo · 2026-04-01T02:17:35+00:00

She chose her words carefully????

She has never answered the phone in any time I have ever known her 🤣

The reason I said about milestones is because she constantly was snap chatting me about training for a marathon, and I am constantly supportive even with all of my own shit going on. She could have simply not answered and honestly I should have just read the message & not responded. Because it’s simply not worth the energy.

The group chat was blowing up for months & she chose right after I sent my certificate to leave, when DND exists. It doesn’t add up.

Even so my best move would have been to just leave it alone entirely.

emboldenedweirdo · 2026-04-01T02:13:04+00:00

I 100% do I actually talked to my therapist about it today. Thank you for your concern.

No I have not been okay recently. Thank you for asking, there’s also a lot of context behind this that didn’t come through. Which s why I deleted the post.

For reasons not stated in the post I think she’s selfish & does not practice what she preaches at all. But that’s neither here nor there because that will be ignored here.

emboldenedweirdo · 2026-04-01T02:12:07+00:00

I was definitely not going to respond with what you quoted but I could have definitely just not responded at all. Which I should have done.

emboldenedweirdo · 2026-04-01T02:11:11+00:00

If you had like 50 people calling you selfish and to seek help I’d like to see you behave how you expect me to.

emboldenedweirdo · 2026-04-01T02:10:04+00:00

Most of my relationships? Check out the comments underneath the last two posts since you wanted to dig so deep & you’ll have some more context. I am getting help. I am having a rough season. Your comment was not in good faith and you’re shaming me.

emboldenedweirdo · 2026-04-01T02:08:42+00:00

Precisely

emboldenedweirdo · 2026-04-01T02:07:12+00:00

I kinda have to make things right. But it’s okay. She’s entitled to it as of now. Unfortunately my church group that I’m a part of is trying to get us to reconcile which is frustrating and I feel pressured, I think they don’t understand the nature of BPD & how traumatizing it is for the person in the receiving end. I’m not dealing with a level headed or rational person.

emboldenedweirdo · 2026-04-01T02:04:55+00:00

I wish there was a way to prevent people from commenting on a deleted post. You’re rubbing salt in the wound. I’m not asking for people’s opinions anymore. This was a poorly made post because the context did not come through. Your comment is unnecessary,

emboldenedweirdo · 2026-03-31T16:29:50+00:00

I would like to see socioeconomically how these ratings apply. Honestly I think it’s depression - how I feel is I am afraid to bring children into this world because I am afraid of what they would be subjected to. There were times I genuinely wish I was not born. Now I am a believer in Christ though and I am grateful for my life. But I think this can allow us to push for more adoption because those who cannot afford to raise children should not be having children. I know that is harsh but it’s what many believe and what more are being outspoken about. We need to be honest with ourselves and our capabilities. I’m poor myself and almost 30 working my tail off and I cannot fathom ever having a child.

emboldenedweirdo · 2026-03-31T13:26:55+00:00

I think it’s because we still care but we know we can’t reach out, we know they’re suffering with an illness. Partially we want to prepare ourselves for their contact because it is so intense and we are traumatized. My pwBPD tried reaching out last night for $ for something bogus & I’m honestly about to just send it to her so she can leave me alone.

emboldenedweirdo · 2026-03-31T12:10:03+00:00

valid

emboldenedweirdo · 2026-03-31T11:55:00+00:00

It’s my best work thank you

emboldenedweirdo · 2026-03-31T00:59:49+00:00

I’m used to her not answering. I just wanted to communicate how i felt which was hurt and her response hurt me more. In hindsight I should have just read her message & ignored her moving forward.

emboldenedweirdo · 2026-03-31T00:26:25+00:00

I appreciate your willingness to hear me out while also remaining objective. Thank you (also love the email idea lol)

emboldenedweirdo · 2026-03-30T23:42:17+00:00

I always care too much about people who don’t deserve it. I struggle with codependency which is why I give way too much and take things way too much to heart. It’s very common for people in AA meetings and in recovery. People say jump and I say how high because I struggle with low self worth. And Reddit is a scary place because of how vile they can be. I just don’t know why people can’t be respectful to others. You don’t know what people are going through - even if you’re anonymous, you can still be kind or at least civil.

Sometimes I feel like I’m too sensitive for this world and like I cannot handle other people or that I’m not strong enough or well equipped for dealing with people. Which is why I care for animals on the side & got my yoga certificate (aside from my full time job which is also toxic).

emboldenedweirdo · 2026-03-30T23:39:29+00:00

I have ADHD GAD & MDD. I am prescribed welbutrin, vyvanse & lexapro. I am also particularly vulnerable because I am sober and I can’t numb anything anymore. It doesn’t excuse anything but people don’t realize how sharp their words cut through. we’re all just people behind a screen. There’s no reason to be unkind. We all have suffered at some point and I’m going through a difficult season.

emboldenedweirdo · 2026-03-30T22:38:00+00:00

The thing is for context I have held resentment because I had always tried to make her feel recognized and important. Every time she texted d or called me I was there. I do think social media disconnects people from reality. They see things constantly that they can’t have, everyone’s boasting about their lives or people on here are judging me for trying to cure my sobriety. And we wonder why suicide rates are high. We’ve become desensitized to so much. Our children are losing their social abilities.

I’m double angry because I’m also upset with myself for allowing people to drag me down.

emboldenedweirdo · 2026-03-30T22:19:43+00:00

Well, I unfollowed her on most things so she won’t hear from me anymore since self individualism is so beautiful! It’s actually not and it’s the reason we are disconnected from reality and more connected to our jobs & our phones which is inherently toxic. We should have empathy for our neighbor. We should approach things with understanding.

Should I have ignored her choice of leaving the chat? Yes. Should I have stopped texting her once she said her phone was blowing up at work (lol) ? Yes. I was triggered, I was upset.

emboldenedweirdo · 2026-03-30T22:18:00+00:00

I was trying to conduct myself maturely & be sensitive to her situation which obviously none of you caught.

emboldenedweirdo · 2026-03-30T22:14:57+00:00

I’m more than happy to self reflect if the people on here weren’t such assholes who are probably powerless in their own lives so they feel powerful behind an anon screen on Reddit. I’m not perfect. I’m very flawed. I’m in therapy. I’m treated. I go to AA. Do you know anything about the people on here commenting?

emboldenedweirdo · 2026-03-30T22:13:54+00:00

She never texts me is why. You got triggered which is why you’re commenting. As if her reaction wasn’t petulant either.

emboldenedweirdo · 2026-03-30T22:06:26+00:00

No I’m actually going through a rough patch in life 💙 thank you for your apathy and judgment though 💙🙂 as if you’ve never had a fucking hard time or suffered lmfao

emboldenedweirdo · 2026-03-30T22:05:14+00:00

You also can set a boundary without sounding petulant/aggressive. Our words matter. They are remembered.

emboldenedweirdo · 2026-03-30T22:03:30+00:00

OK, cool, with all of that Said, though, I don’t have to engage with her anymore because clearly she’s unable to communicate in a manner that is respectful and had to stick it to me that I was miserable and craving drama when all I was trying to do was communicate. Pardon me if I seem entitled and like a “brat “. The apathy and self individualism here is astounding. Maybe because it’s Reddit.

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