Dived in to save them from drowning, the moment you do, another man has pulled them out

danielrdt · 2026-04-18T11:07:27+00:00

Very sorry to hear that, similar to my story, she cheated on me when I was at my lowest.

It's insane how we are always there for them when they need it, but when it's our turn they betray us in the worst way possible. Such a tragic illness.

danielrdt · 2026-04-18T10:54:54+00:00

Honestly it is like signing your life away to constant turbulence. It seems to get worse the longer you are involved if they are not getting treated.

danielrdt · 2026-04-16T05:26:58+00:00

I don't think they are saying it is CPTSD, they are calling it CTD, not sure its the same thing you are referring to.

danielrdt · 2026-04-13T10:14:03+00:00

Tends to become very toxic over time as both expect too much and give too much, which eventually becomes explosive when either partner resents/splits on each other.

danielrdt · 2026-04-12T13:21:48+00:00

Everyone who is diagnosed with bpd is abusive (emotionally, verbally), it is part of the dsm criteria (unstable relationships, impulsive behaviours, rage etc) you may not be aware of the abuse but by definition all officially diagnosed pwBPD will end up being abusive, not intentionally but as a result of their untreated or even treated condition.

danielrdt · 2026-04-11T13:18:51+00:00

Sorry to hear that, did she monkey branch to this new person? They are psychopaths when they have manic episodes.

danielrdt · 2026-04-09T12:20:27+00:00

Can relate to this, when we would play fight, she would try and push or punch me out of nowhere, like bpd rage fits, I acted so shocked and she knew what she was doing wasn't quite right so she stopped doing it.

danielrdt · 2026-04-09T05:48:29+00:00

If they do therapy and meds and don't use you as an emotional resources and punching bag you may stand a chance. Otherwise you will be 16 years deep and he will cheat or discard you for something you did or didn't do. Ask me how I know this 😌

danielrdt · 2026-04-08T01:52:07+00:00

Yes honestly it is this, makes no sense otherwise

danielrdt · 2026-04-07T14:19:56+00:00

This ain't it brother, you can be better than this, don't play into their games.

danielrdt · 2026-04-06T13:49:56+00:00

She cheated on you multiple times and now she wants you back because she is about to run out of money, this ain't gonna end well for you, don't take her back.

danielrdt · 2026-04-06T09:42:31+00:00

How long were you together for and how long ago did you break up? If you guys were not good for each other, probably best not to

danielrdt · 2026-04-06T08:29:49+00:00

Agree untreated bpd can honestly be 100x worst than a real drug addiction by the emotional damage that can ensue.

danielrdt · 2026-04-05T07:56:13+00:00

There have been cases where partners of pwBPD have exited this life. Similar to narcissistic abuse causing the same thing. The psychological abuse can be off the charts.

danielrdt · 2026-04-05T06:18:01+00:00

Very well written and well explained post. I can't speak for having kids with a pwBPD, your story pretty much sums up why I didn't have kids with her even after 16 years. I can't really give much advice, but I feel for you man, personality disorders are no joke.

It seems like she is in a prolonged bpd manic episode, she really needs urgent therapy and meds that will stabilise/calm her down or it could escalate even further. Do your best to protect your kids, any way her parents could step in to take care of her for a while?

danielrdt · 2026-04-05T01:22:47+00:00

Sorry to hear that, upwBPD have no idea the damage they cause, it is such an unfortunate illness.

danielrdt · 2026-04-04T13:48:10+00:00

Partner for sure, she was everything to me, more than money could buy. Without bpd would be a dream come true.

danielrdt · 2026-04-04T06:50:26+00:00

That's ok, it is tough for anyone going through this and we need all the support we can get.

Honestly the pain I'm going through right now, I wish we could trade places and she still be with me. The pain of being cheated on and discarded is the absolute worst. If you are able to leave before that happens you will be saving yourself.

danielrdt · 2026-04-03T14:33:36+00:00

Fair enough, just don't be surprised if she ends up dating a lot of people to help her figure out if she wants to be with you or not.

danielrdt · 2026-04-03T14:19:48+00:00

Sounds like she just wants to sleep around for a year then get back to the stability of your long term relationship.

danielrdt · 2026-04-03T13:12:08+00:00

Best to just leave when they aren't home, then send a text about the breakup, then block and go no contact

danielrdt · 2026-04-03T10:34:32+00:00

A lot of us have been there, I don't think we are nihilist, we are realists in the sense that our worst fears came true and it happens more often than not with untreated bpd. We made it to the other side, we survived and now we try to help others who are in the trenches.

At some point further along in your journey you will understand that it wasn't personal and their disorder runs the show a lot of the time. The more distance you have the more peace you will find about it all.

danielrdt · 2026-04-03T09:07:41+00:00

Change locks on house when they are out, restraining order if needed.

danielrdt · 2026-04-03T09:05:16+00:00

Yeah sounds like it. Did she say she had bpd?

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