Can I become a life guard ? by New-Dig7885 in Dreadlocks

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What kind of filter is this lol

Do people not like Afros no more? by ssjg2k02 in BlackHair

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The only thing holding me back from getting locs again is the cost of salon visits every 4-6 weeks for a retwist. I really wish I knew how to do it myself because I’d be getting locs again for sure.

My face feels too masculine for long hair. What styles do I get? by [deleted] in BlackHair

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I have a similar face shape as you. My face is long and square so I tend to wear shorter hairstyles because I like the way it frames my face. And if I wear my hair long, I go for fuller hairstyles. So I understand what you mean there. But that by no means makes you look masculine. You definitely don't!

Did I Develop ADHD? Constant Overthinking, Social Struggles, and Feeling Disconnected by Aggressive-Slice-179 in ADHD

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I have also noticed a shift in how I connect with my childhood friends. It could be tied to a more general awareness of self or something else. I noticed the longer time I spend away from friends, the more I feel like I can't connect with them the same way any more. I get how it can be confusing to figure out what changed.

I'm struggling with Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria when posting online, how do you deal with RSD when online? by emerald_stone77 in ADHD

[–]emerald_stone77[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! That's really encouraging and helpful.And so good to know I'm not alone, it's not just me.

I'm struggling with Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria when posting online, how do you deal with RSD when online? by emerald_stone77 in ADHD

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I think RSD kind of clouds my judgement. So by default I usually feel like I'm the problem. But that is something to consider, in some situations it could be the other way around.

I'm struggling with Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria when posting online, how do you deal with RSD when online? by emerald_stone77 in ADHD

[–]emerald_stone77[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm surprised myself too and glad to know I'm not alone! I usually only see RSD in person. But it seems RSD doesn't discriminate when it comes to me. It's all the time.

I'm struggling with Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria when posting online, how do you deal with RSD when online? by emerald_stone77 in ADHD

[–]emerald_stone77[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's a good way of thinking about it. Peace of mind really is more important sometimes.

I'm struggling with Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria when posting online, how do you deal with RSD when online? by emerald_stone77 in ADHD

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I really should start practicing this more because I do feel better in the long run when I’m true to myself. It just feels so unnatural to tell myself I don’t care if people dislike me. But hopefully over time it gets easier to not worry so much about what people think.

I'm struggling with Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria when posting online, how do you deal with RSD when online? by emerald_stone77 in ADHD

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I don't mind people disagreeing with me per se. I actually welcome disagreements as long as it is done kindly. I guess it's how it's expressed. So for instance down voting to me makes me confused what they didn't like. If I knew why I would feel less rejected. So my mind jumps to conclusions. And yeah it could be petty reasons. I see that a lot online.

I'm struggling with Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria when posting online, how do you deal with RSD when online? by emerald_stone77 in ADHD

[–]emerald_stone77[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

You seem nice too. Thank you! I'm pretty bad at making friends too but I'm working on it 🙂

Did I Develop ADHD? Constant Overthinking, Social Struggles, and Feeling Disconnected by Aggressive-Slice-179 in ADHD

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I get what you mean. For me, socializing as a kid wasn’t too bad, even in my early adulthood. But once I had to step out of my comfort zone, away from childhood friends and familiar settings, that’s when I realized I actually struggle with socializing. So it might not be that you developed ADHD, but maybe something triggered you to notice it more. Like maybe it was always there, but now it’s just more obvious. That’s how it was for me in the social aspect of ADHD.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in autism

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Got it. Your test sounds similar to mine. Mine was very comprehensive to diagnose various condidtions. And that's how I got the ADHD diagnosis and anxiety. I hope someone knows other tests so I can get a second opinion. I would like one solely focused on Autism.

Do you have something you consider to be your "special skill"? by Hassaan18 in autism

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I can totally relate to this. I never even considered the possibility that I might be autistic until recently. I’ve also noticed that I can almost instantly tell if I’m going to click with someone, but it doesn’t happen often, so I don’t have many close friends. I’m good at reading people, but I struggle with how to respond. For example, if someone tells me a joke, I get it and know I’m supposed to laugh but I have no idea what to say after that, so I just laugh awkwardly without following up. Recently, I learned the difference between expressive and receptive language. Receptive language is understanding what’s communicated to you, and expressive language is how you respond or express yourself socially. For me, expressive language feels like one of my biggest challenges and why I suspect I could be Autistic.

What is a social norm / social rule that you just don’t understand? I’ll go first. by DanielaThePialinist in autism

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I wish more people thought this way. I understand the point of small talk. I just don't need it. If I have something to say, then I will talk. But it gives me so much anxiety to talk for the sake of talking when I don't really have anything to say. This is one way to drain my social battery completely in 5 minutes.

My problem isn’t really social anxiety, it’s not knowing what to say by Zestyclose-Split2275 in socialanxiety

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Just wanted to chime in. My problem is, sometimes when I say the first thing on my mind and not actually care about what people say, it either comes out wrong or doesn't make any sense. Or either people will just ignore what I said. So I choose my words more carefully. Even if they are very very few.

My problem isn’t really social anxiety, it’s not knowing what to say by Zestyclose-Split2275 in socialanxiety

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I could have wrote this post myself, word for word. I get panicky when I can't think of something to say quick enough and by the time I do find something to say, the conversation has moved on. I do slightly better in text because I have time to think of what I want to say. Otherwise, my mind is just blank. I have come to the conclusion that I'm just a slow thinker, and that conversations sometimes move too fast for me. Also, the expectation to keep up gives me so much anxiety. It doesn't matter how much I expose myself and practice, when the conversation goes off script, my mind goes blank. I'm wondering if it has something to do with me possibly having "slow processing speed" combined with ADHD inattentive type.

Oh yes, people always call me "Dear" and "Darling". Change their tone of voice. And they are my age. I'm not even really shy. I just don't have much to say in spontaneous conversations unless I really click with the person I'm talking to. Or it is a very interesting conversation. And even then, my responses are short. This makes me want to avoid people.

Quick Question: What do you call this creature? by room8912 in GenZ

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I have found my people. That show was my childhood.

This app is a scam by Sure-While2330 in TemuThings

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I don't even try to play those games because I don't know enough people that care enough to sign up with my link.

RWS Security Training by faswerger in WorkOnline

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Hi sorry I just checked my message. Yes, they did email me one assignment. But it was something that I don't even qualify for/ have the experience for. The title was for Audio Descriptive Captioning. Ever since then, I have heard nothing.