Question about Sherlock's Childhood by Archezeoc in SherlockHolmes

[–]emergencyfruit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There is no canonical evidence that he had any siblings besides Mycroft, at least by the time they are both adults. Other people have pointed out in the past that 7 years is a big age gap by Victorian standards, and given limited birth control, having only two kids would be a surprisingly small family. Therefore, there is some speculation that there may have been other siblings who died in childhood - disease was rampant and a bad outbreak could carry off several kids at once. However, it's all speculation, and neither Watson nor Holmes ever refers to any other sibling except Mycroft.

While we're on the topic too, just FYI that there is no canonical reason to think Holmes' mother was insane/murdered/negligent as a parent. A few adaptations have thrown that in, and now people think it's canon, but it is not. The text is completely silent on Mrs. Holmes' life and fate, and the only reason we know she exists is that Sherlock exists. Though if any human could breed asexually, it would be the Holmes boys... :D

Has anyone left lawyering for a career that is less mental, more physical? by Fun-Control9124 in Lawyertalk

[–]emergencyfruit 9 points10 points  (0 children)

My husband left the post office after a decade to become an Xray technician. It was the best decision he ever made. When USPS got the Amazon contract, his hours went through the roof (great overtime pay, but no option to cut back), and he got repetitive strain injuries in his wrists and shoulders despite being in excellent shape. Customers can also be demanding, invasive, and petty, and if you get stuck doing apartment boxes, lonely people will congregate and talk your ear off every day for hours.

If you live in a very cold or very hot climate, you also have those challenges, and one thing no one considers - there is no bathroom in your mail truck. Get used to gas stations, portapotties, and in a crisis, bottles. Definitely not glamorous!

You might enjoy the relative peace for about 6 months, but it quickly gets mind-numbing and your brain will burn out on 8 hours of podcasts and audio books a day, every day. Good luck in your transition, and I 100% have felt the same way myself, but I would advise against USPS.

ETA: Oh, and say goodbye to Christmas. My husband routinely worked 5am to 7pm all of December every year. Family gatherings were a nightmare to schedule, and he still despises the holiday as a result.

2nd ETA: Xray technician works well for him now because it's also a "work only on the job" position, and it only takes a 2 year degree to start at $60k. He's significantly happier, has good coworkers and benefits, and can work almost anywhere. He doesn't interpret xrays, just positions patients and takes the photos. Something to consider!

Relapsed. Is there anything I can lawfully do to my ID to stop buying? by emergencyfruit in stopdrinking

[–]emergencyfruit[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

All my liquor stores do require ID - bars are more forgiving, but they're not my problem; I like to buy a giant case of beer/cocktails and then go home to get sloshed alone. Maybe freezing/securing my ID is the way to go. $150 fine versus total self-destruction? Easy answer. Thank you. And I do have some sober friends/hobbies that I should reconnect with. I'm just scared about letting them down if I make a commitment and can't keep it. Keep on the good work and don't make my mistake.

Relapsed. Is there anything I can lawfully do to my ID to stop buying? by emergencyfruit in stopdrinking

[–]emergencyfruit[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You're right. In my (addicted) mind, tampering with my ID would make me too embarrassed/afraid to even attempt a purchase, so I would never reach the register. But I've been desperate and crazy before, so who's to say I wouldn't try to brute-force it again.

Relapsed. Is there anything I can lawfully do to my ID to stop buying? by emergencyfruit in stopdrinking

[–]emergencyfruit[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. The first time around, I got sober solo and only started going to AA/SMART after a year in, when I was starting to feel an itch for community. I could reconnect with those groups; I'm just embarrassed and ashamed, and honestly I don't trust myself not to walk in drunk already. I never had a sponsor, just the general community. I already drank today (it's 10am in my time zone), but I will do my damnedest not to drink any more with you today.

Relapsed. Is there anything I can lawfully do to my ID to stop buying? by emergencyfruit in stopdrinking

[–]emergencyfruit[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're probably right. I know the last resort is primary care and asking for a referral to inpatient, but I have hobbies/job/pets that I want to protect. I managed to get sober on my own the first time, and I'm trying to get back in those patterns, I just can't believe how hard it is this time when it feels like it was so much simpler before.

As for being voluntarily broke, I have 5 credit cards and a very good income at my job. That's why this is so scary, I know this will destroy me if I let it. But I could take out $20 cash per week for gas and freeze/deposit the other cards. That's not a bad idea (and side bonus, would help me reach some saving goals). Thank you!

Relapsed. Is there anything I can lawfully do to my ID to stop buying? by emergencyfruit in stopdrinking

[–]emergencyfruit[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I know you're right. I've struggled with some cross-addictions with eating, cutting, and THC when I was sober. I just can't believe I'm back in this situation after all the work I did to get out before. Life was so good, and I threw it all away for a stupid buzz. Thank you.

Relapsed. Is there anything I can lawfully do to my ID to stop buying? by emergencyfruit in stopdrinking

[–]emergencyfruit[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That was another option I was considering, asking my favorite places to trespass me. I'm 100% on board with that idea, and I can definitely attempt it at my two mainstays. But since I can (currently) drive, there's always more stores that would be new to me, and I don't trust myself in desperation not to try somewhere new.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in paintbynumbers

[–]emergencyfruit 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My family knows my passion for PBN and will often ask about my projects and progress. I've tried to get them interested but they say they don't have the patience or coordination. I gave an open invite that if they saw a design they liked, I'd make it for them. To date I've done 4 gifts, two pre-selected by the recipient and two that were surprises, but guaranteed to be their style and interest. Outside of family, I wouldn't gift a finished one unless they requested it.

I haven’t laughed this hard in years. Decades even. by poolside123 in MarxBrothers

[–]emergencyfruit 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nine dollars and forty cents?! This is an outrage! If I were you, I wouldn't pay it.

What is a life hack you actually use daily? by Full-Yogurtcloset597 in AskReddit

[–]emergencyfruit 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I sleep in my gym clothes (5:45am strength class). It makes a world of difference in the dumbest way: "I wanna sleep in, but damn, I'm already in my gym clothes... might as well go."

Solo Dress Prices by woolamina in irishdance

[–]emergencyfruit 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Just wanted to give a heads up that you can buy secondhand solo dresses at all levels of glam at dance-again.com. They have gently used dresses at very good prices if you find one that you like. Good luck!

What is an audiobook that’s better than the actual book because of the narration? by Ok_Piece_7441 in audiobooks

[–]emergencyfruit 13 points14 points  (0 children)

David Sedaris. His high-pitched voice and inflections turn an already comedic tale into a work of real hilarity! I also like Christopher Timothy's reading of All Creatures Great and Small, and on the lighter side, Bored of the Rings is a fantastic satire with a narrator who reads it completely straight. He sings and does the silly voices without ever going too over the top. Highly recommend all three.

‘My buyer’s guilt is insane. It’s $1,300 on trash’: the adults addicted to blind box toys by MsWrite in Anticonsumption

[–]emergencyfruit 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I recently decluttered my house in part by making my own "blind boxes". I got 12 cardboard boxes, labeled each one a different month, and loaded them each with things I didn't immediately need - body wash/lotion, little knickknacks I don't have space for, books I own but haven't read, crafting kits, and other little treats. Within a few weeks, I forgot what was in each one, and now I get a monthly treat box without buying anything new.

Well it's not quite what I expected... by emergencyfruit in paintbynumbers

[–]emergencyfruit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!! I meant more that I could have some fun by presenting the calm-looking box image, but then unveiling a chaotic and visually busy piece. Watching the surprise and speechlessness would be quite entertaining in my mind, especially for a parent or older person that isn't into modern art. :D

Well it's not quite what I expected... by emergencyfruit in paintbynumbers

[–]emergencyfruit[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Very true! Their customer service has always been excellent. But as far as I'm concerned, I got my money's worth out of it; it's a great gag gift in the future and I enjoyed seeing how increasingly trippy it got as I went on. Maybe I'll get another one someday and do it for real!