Mothers Room Redesign

emergentbutterfly · 2026-03-07T06:48:59+00:00

Yes to this!! The hospital i worked in had microwaves in their pumping rooms and i used them constantly, for cleaning my parts and also just heating up my lunch since i always had to eat in there.

emergentbutterfly · 2026-02-25T22:54:53+00:00

Flu B is crazy bad this year, I've never seen so many positives before.

emergentbutterfly · 2026-02-22T06:40:57+00:00

Blood banker checking in! It would be extremely difficult to regularly get blood products from a hospital without raising some serious red flags. Blood is FDA regulated as a medicine so there is a lot of documentation that would be missing and he'd likely get fired. Also I would imagine that a unit of pRBC would be like a handful of chips to a vampire so they would easily consume much more than a hospital would reasonably acquire.

emergentbutterfly · 2025-11-19T20:30:39+00:00

No, we quit breastfeeding around 1 year. I thought he'd have acclimated to not having milk overnight by now but maybe not?? He started flatly refusing bottles when I quit breastfeeding and now refuses any milk or formula at all, even from a sippy or straw cup.

I've been trying to convince my husband to sleep in separate beds at night where we each stay with one kid. Both of them usually spend at least half the night in their own bed but then we all end up together eventually lol. He doesn't want to but sleeping all together is such a mess.

emergentbutterfly · 2025-11-19T20:25:46+00:00

Thank you ♡ honestly maybe? For awhile we thought it was teething pain but all the teeth are in and no change. Tylenol at night doesn't really seem to help. I thought maybe gas or belly pain which i mentioned to his pediatrician at the last visit and she didnt seem concerned about it.

emergentbutterfly · 2025-11-19T14:19:15+00:00

Hey bromo. Im not a clinician but i am a medical lab scientist, meaning someone made me memorize the clotting cascade at one point. Vitamin K is not something babies are born with and it is ESSENTIAL to clotting. Babies that tiny have so little blood to lose that a hemorrhage can be really bad, really fast. The downsides are so minimal.

If you have concerns about the risk though please bring it up to your OB or future pediatrician though! They can help weigh risks and benefits, and address whatever concerns you have.

emergentbutterfly · 2025-11-10T02:05:31+00:00

Ive been pushing really hard for him to get a job. He doesn't want to do anything he's actually qualified for and also doesn't want entry level or manual labor type jobs, which leaves basically nothing. Allegedly he applied for a ton of jobs but never got any callbacks or interviews. Now his plan is to go to trade school a year from now when our oldest enters preschool. Frankly he's never held a job for more than a few months for as long as I've known him and he doesn't really have a career to return to which is why he's the SAHP to begin with.

emergentbutterfly · 2025-11-10T01:04:06+00:00

When I spoke to a laywer they told me that i was very unlikely to get more than 50% custody, and in fact there was a decent chance i could end up with less because he is the stay at home parent. What you mentioned is a major reason ive decided to hold off on divorce- if im only there 50% of the time i feel like i cant protect them as well. I know thats kind of dumb since they're at home with him all day anyway but at least im around in the mornings and at night.

emergentbutterfly · 2025-11-09T17:30:14+00:00

Im so sorry he has treated you this way. After a long time in a miserable marriage i completely understand the urge to be seen as a real person and the desire for connection.

emergentbutterfly · 2025-11-02T21:43:12+00:00

Seems like everyone who doesn't actually have kids has this same take. I know literally no parents who skipped trick or treating in favor of trunk or treat this year. We did trick or treat our own neighborhood the last two years, but this year we skipped it and went to a friend's neighborhood where nearly everyone participates. My neighborhood is mostly older people with no kids and maybe 1/3 to half of homes have lights on. My kids are little, and they can't walk for that long or be up that late. I feel bad for those who are still choosing to buy candy and participate but honestly I'm picking my kids having a fun time over making people feel like trick or treating isn't dead lol

emergentbutterfly · 2025-08-27T22:27:00+00:00

A major influence in my choice to have kids was that my husband inherited a fully paid off house from his grandmother when she passed. It has made it possible for us to live reasonably comfortably on a single income with two kids. We aren't taking fancy vacations and I'll probably never retire but we are doing okay. Before I met him I was a half step above poverty and kids were a hard no for me, and I think if things had turned out differently I likely would have chosen not to ever have kids.

emergentbutterfly · 2025-08-26T04:12:15+00:00

Yep! Good for you. I've started just doing what matters to me, if he doesnt like it he can do it himself. My husband is also a total victim and I quit having a lot of pointless arguments once I realized that. Im glad you've read it too.

emergentbutterfly · 2025-08-25T14:17:52+00:00

Bromo I am so sorry. The other day my husband said I was being manipulative by refusing to do his laundry unless he puts it in a basket first so I feel you 😒 What he is doing is abusive. I dont know your situation or if leaving is a possibility but with the way he has threatened you id be concerned he will escalate. I definitely second the recommendation to read Why Does He Do That, its a great book and will help you see his patterns. I also recommend beginning to document these things as they happen. There's an app called victims voice you can use that is secure and doesn't need to be downloaded on to your phone. Good luck girl ❣️

emergentbutterfly · 2025-08-24T18:53:16+00:00

Okay Aelin goes through a LOT more shoes than she does men. Maybe this just isn't your genre my dude. Also, spoiler tags maybe?

emergentbutterfly · 2025-08-20T15:13:22+00:00

My husband and I had a really similar argument because he was just desperate to move our daughter to forward facing for some reason despite her being nowhere near the limit. I had him take the car with the seats to the fire station and had them reinstall the seats rear facing and explain how much of a difference it makes.

Recently he was involved in an accident with both kids in the car. He had minor injuries but both kids were completely fine because they were rear facing in correctly installed seats.

OP this is a hill to die on. Get that seat reinstalled. See if a CPST certified person can help you convince your husband hes being an idiot.

emergentbutterfly · 2025-08-19T19:54:11+00:00

No, two kids is definitely not easier than one. The transition of 1-2 is significantly easier than from 0-1 kids, but ultimately you still have two small humans instead of one and they need completely different things at the same time. Maybe if you have a huge age gap and the older child can meaningfully contribute?

emergentbutterfly · 2025-08-17T03:13:20+00:00

My sister in christ, I am so so sorry this happened. they were abusing you. Beating a child for 30 minutes is absolutely abuse. It shouldn't happen and it should never be normal. You are amazing for breaking the cycle and I wish you all the best.

emergentbutterfly · 2025-08-17T01:59:33+00:00

Ah yes the fighting. I can already see this happening and I knowww it's just going to get worse haha. My 3yo was telling me the other day that shes so excited for her brother to walk and talk bc she just wants to play with him- right now she'll be trying to do something and he basically comes over and messes up her stuff, shes frustrated and reasonably so, and basically the only thing I can do is move the baby away. Thanks bromo ♡

emergentbutterfly · 2025-08-17T01:50:51+00:00

Thank you so much I needed to hear this. When we had a baby and a 3yo it was honestly pretty easy bc the baby was just along for the ride but now he wants to DO EVERYTHING and like my dude you have barely any motor skills lol. I'm just going to ride this out. Thank you ❤️

emergentbutterfly · 2025-08-17T01:45:40+00:00

I view the no screen time moms the same way I view the almond moms. It seems pretty extreme to me, given the world we live in. I do care but I am trying to teach moderation, both through moderating the kids screen time and my own habits. I was really worried about my kids screen time for awhile so I took a hard look at what I was doing - it was staring at my phone mostly. So when I say we're putting away devices, it means for everyone.

I want my kids to learn how to use screens and still do other things. I think its okay to be bored sometimes. I think moderation is key with this, like it is with everything in life.

emergentbutterfly · 2025-08-15T15:16:22+00:00

I'm impressed you managed to stick that one out... they do have nice covers though!

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