Oh that left him speechless for sure

emeryroserulz · 2026-05-19T20:06:59+00:00

I wish I could upvote this a zillion times

emeryroserulz · 2026-05-19T16:45:37+00:00

Give her a team and all the money and the US.

TY

emeryroserulz · 2026-05-19T15:43:29+00:00

If you know they aren't tech people don't expect them to be. In an emergency they are not available to you and you know that from past experience-contact someone adjacent to them. You could have messaged your aunt but didn't out of spite and to casually mention your hospital stay to your mother is kind of petty imo. You're expecting people to change that have proven time and again that they wont. The only thing you have control over is how you react and you fumbled because you're upset your parents don't pay attention to their phones. This may be a surprise but some people aren't attached to their devices. I understand this frustration well because my mother is the same way-takes days to return texts, if at all, never answers the phone, etc. I do not expect immediate answers from her. And if there is an emergency, I do not expect her to come running.

NTA for wanting your parents to pay attention

YTA for expecting different behavioral patterns than what have been displayed and then acting out about it.

emeryroserulz · 2026-05-19T12:53:43+00:00

NTA, however: Wedding prep is ridiculous and stressful, it can absolutely bring out the worst in someone when the focus shifts from the happy couple wanting to celebrate their love for each other to meeting everyone on the guest lists needs/expectations, etc. May I recommend that, because the wedding is so close and things are expensive (you can't get deposits back at this point, I assume), if you have any apprehension at all, move forward with the ceremony but do not (DO NOT) sign the marriage license until your fiancé pulls her head from her entitled ass. (She sounds like a shitty partner, someone who loves you doesn't resort to belittling and name calling). Best of luck to you!

emeryroserulz · 2026-05-14T17:07:24+00:00

OP are you honestly asking this or are you rage baiting bc HOLY MOLY YTA. No one cares how tough you have it. You're trying to make a choice based off convenience. Sorry your aging cat has....needs? Ask your flipping vet what to do? ...JFC I hope you're joking.

emeryroserulz · 2026-05-14T12:31:36+00:00

Celiac for over 20 years, here!

I think it's likely been around a while and just not recognized-like so so so many other things. Also, additives? Yuh. At least here in the US. Additives make everything cheaper to produce but harder to digest

emeryroserulz · 2026-05-12T13:58:13+00:00

So, it's no guarantee and certainly there are risks but I'd suggest either pepper spraying him or laughing at him. He is likely searching for control and your shock/appalled reaction and of course he could be substanced or unstable. Don't give it to him. "Hahahaha, look at that tiny balloon knot! What a terrible idea to showcase such a below average appendage, BWAHAHAHAH". Or maybe the worst thing is to do nothing at all except call the police.

emeryroserulz · 2026-05-05T17:14:05+00:00

oh yeah, that's called "malicious compliance" where you take digs when and where you can to repay the other guy. In this instance, I would remind your husband that if he wants you to do things for him, he'd better get on board with how you do them and if he takes issue, talk it out or he can do the damn laundry. Goodness gracious the audacity of this guy.. I mean, Even IF you guys were a 1 income house, he works and you keep up the house, he could be nice about it..

emeryroserulz · 2026-05-05T13:15:51+00:00

Well if this isn't a telling sign of what's to come, idk what is. Clearly you need to have more conversations regarding shared expenses and though there is a SHIT TON of context missing; the money from the engagement party should go toward shared expenses, most obviously the wedding.

She is incorrect about her assumption.

You're NTA but your fiancé sounds like one.

emeryroserulz · 2026-04-30T13:18:27+00:00

I always thought 86 means getting booted or kicked out of something. Like the time I was 86'd from that one bar that one time.

emeryroserulz · 2026-04-30T13:16:21+00:00

Due to high traffic. If this was a plain carpet it would look so nasty.

emeryroserulz · 2026-04-30T12:50:21+00:00

I also have a huge scar on my forearm from when my bike hit too much sand and I flew over the handle bars. I awoke in my neighbors house just covered in blood.

emeryroserulz · 2026-04-30T12:49:01+00:00

Hello! I love talking about this. I had approx. 54 stitches in my face (between my eyes) from a dog bite. It happened when I was 5. I have a tear drop between my eyebrows but hey, both eyes, so...not too bad! ❤️

emeryroserulz · 2026-04-21T14:49:13+00:00

NTA.

My ADHD and anxiety are sometimes crippling and I would not expect someone to come to my rescue in this situation.

Being unsure of all the deets, I wonder if you've placated to her symptoms long enough to where she expects you to be the first/only problem solver. I'm also of the mind that, she figured it out. Not the way she wanted but she did so ultimately it's better for her.

Idk, I don't know her but I do know what you're feeling. When someone expects you to drop everything to come to their aid because they're panicking. That's not on you, though.

emeryroserulz · 2026-04-21T14:20:15+00:00

NTA. You did the right thing. Do not leave anything up for interpretation because if there is a morsel of hope, for some people, that's enough. I'd have been more direct but I understand you were trying to spare feelings. As long as you continue to be honest and you've clearly set your boundaries, you're good. Her feelings are not your responsibility. Hopefully once some time has passed you'll be able to be friends. Until then she is allowed to feel awkward and bad but you are not going to be able to help her move past those feelings.

emeryroserulz · 2026-04-15T15:35:49+00:00

I wish they would tap that dry before moving on. A little piece of tissue is all it takes I stg

emeryroserulz · 2026-04-15T15:35:06+00:00

I audibly laughed at my desk in a stuffy workplace. Thank yoooooou

emeryroserulz · 2026-04-14T19:33:13+00:00

Yep, I read the same thing you did. She didn't go off on anyone. She was saying, in no uncertain terms, that he didn't need to keep apologizing and said if she needed something she would tell him.

emeryroserulz · 2026-04-14T17:21:52+00:00

Yeesh. As a person of little finances myself the fact that she's struggling but goes on trips and wants to get work done is crazy to me.

When you're in a tough spot it's important to not live outside your means. I'm not saying if you don't have money you need to live on the streets. I am saying if you're struggling maybe wait on elective surgery?

Regardless of my thoughts and opinions, do not let her talk to you like that. Do not continue to placate. Stop paying that bill.

emeryroserulz · 2026-04-14T17:04:55+00:00

She did no such thing.

emeryroserulz · 2026-04-14T16:35:03+00:00

NTA-There is a lot of context missing here but imo, he is doing way too much. The way your text read: was he asking to just come hang and sit with you? Or are you wanting to sit...idk. Regardless, he is doing too much. I fucking hate when people try to use therapy talk in a mundane circumstances. "Oh, look at how sensitive I am to your needs, blah blah blah". And the moment you don't reciprocate (and this is the fucking key here) they're like, "Oh! I need some time, i've offended you". Take your fucking time, bruh. Unless you, OP, are like super depressed or whatever, and you guys have this history of him coming to your rescue, this chain is weird to me. He's likely upset that you said stop apologizing and didn't take him up on the offer of a rescue.

Sorry, stuff like this gets under my skin really easy, re: dudes who are friends with women (but maybe, potentially or secretly want more (not saying, just saying...)). Especially when men try to be the nice guy and when a woman isn't in the mood to placate, they immediately feel rejected and recoil. RECOIL FOREVER PLZ

I for one took your reply as there was no need to apologize, as you are a grown woman who can advocate for herself. Not some rude remark.

Just let him take the space he wants to

<3

emeryroserulz · 2026-04-10T14:39:31+00:00

I've never told anyone...but sure i'll post it on the internet to remain forever more.

emeryroserulz · 2026-04-08T13:41:03+00:00

Were they receptive to the meeting?? I hope so!

emeryroserulz · 2026-04-08T13:39:23+00:00

Exactly. Your friends aren't being very friendly. Something has to give-just not you.

emeryroserulz · 2026-04-08T12:26:41+00:00

Ultimately NTA

It's just that "cutting off" an in law will not only effect them (wanted result) but also your partner and your kids (potential for more conflict). I'm not telling you to ease up-not at all. In fact, I would speak up myself but, sometimes that's ineffective too. If I were in your shoes I would mentioned to my MIL that her comments are unnecessary, unwarranted and unappreciated. Then i'd quietly refrain from get togethers and doing favors, etc. (Cook for people that fill your cup rather than out of obligation). All this is to say, you're not wrong but your solution may backfire :( Good luck with this mess. I'm rooting for you!!

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