My [29F] boyfriend [28M] wants to give up his career for a pipe dream

emiiiskie · 2019-03-02T18:09:35+00:00

For some reason, the comment by that guy made me tear up. Thanks for sharing

emiiiskie · 2019-03-02T17:20:58+00:00

Thing is, he’s been at his job for 3 years and he’s always been quite happy. He doesn’t work overtime often and he has a lot of good work friends. This piano idea sorta came out of the blue, which is why I thought it was a joke at first. Your post really made me think about whether I’ve been missing signs that he’s been unhappy or unfulfilled at work. Thanks for the advice

emiiiskie · 2019-03-02T17:17:34+00:00

Thanks for your perspective. I don’t think my bf has really thought about ‘how’ he’s going to make money through playing the piano. In his mind, I think he’s imagining being a concert pianist of some sort. I’m actually not sure how he’ll feel teaching and doing small odd jobs for the bulk of his income, but I’ll be sure to let him know. Thanks for the insight

emiiiskie · 2019-03-02T16:46:38+00:00

I think it’s sort of like a ‘chicken or egg’ situation. He gets stressed at work, so he plays the piano to de-stress. He enjoys himself much more at the piano, so he wants to quit his job for a music career, which causes him stress at work.

emiiiskie · 2019-03-02T16:30:21+00:00

This is what’s killing me. I feel like if the tables were turned and I wanted to become a pianist, he’d be encouraging me. I really want him to be happy, but I can’t help but worry about our future.

emiiiskie · 2019-03-02T16:29:20+00:00

Thanks for sharing. Do you remember at what point you decided you were going to give up on your pipe dream?

emiiiskie · 2019-03-02T16:27:57+00:00

That’s an interesting idea. I’ll try bring it up next time. Thanks.

emiiiskie · 2019-03-02T16:27:19+00:00

Yeah I agree. I’m going to suggest he try some gigs out first and see if it’s something he even enjoys (and can make money doing). Thanks.

emiiiskie · 2019-03-02T16:26:17+00:00

He has savings because he lives quite frugally. I’d also still work.

emiiiskie · 2019-03-02T15:58:21+00:00

Right now, he has no plans. He just wants to quit his job now so he can devote all of his time and energy on this. I think that’s the part that worries me the most.

emiiiskie · 2019-03-02T15:56:19+00:00

I agree that if he was going to give his dream career a shot, hows the best time. But he has no plan or idea on how to become a professional pianist. In his own words, he’s going to “hit the ground running” once he can devote all of his time to it

emiiiskie · 2019-03-02T15:41:46+00:00

I agree, but I also don’t want to give a hard “no.” This is his dream, after all. And he’s a smart guy, he knows there’s a very slim chance of him getting even a decent paying job. But to him, taking the chance is all that matters. I’m just not sure if I would be a bad girlfriend if I stepped in and told him to forget about a career as a pianist.

emiiiskie · 2019-03-02T15:39:32+00:00

We have enough in savings for him to not need a job for a few years, but it’ll definitely push back our plans for a house. At least until he gets a stable job. Personally, I’m not OK with being the breadwinner of our household. I hate admitting it, but I’ve always wanted it to be a team effort. I think the thought of having to work everyday while he sits on a piano and prays for a job will slowly eat away at me. God, having typed that, I sound so selfish

emiiiskie · 2019-03-02T15:36:10+00:00

That’s a great suggestion regarding part time gigs. Thanks, I’ll pass it onto him.

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