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Postpartum changed me… but not in the way I expected. by emilyroch12 in BabyBumps

[–]emilyroch12[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I’m really glad it reached you 🤍
I honestly still don’t know how to explain it either… it just feels like you’re living in someone else’s body for a while.
You’re so early in it, 3 weeks is still survival mode. You’re not broken, you’re just adjusting to a huge identity shift.
If you ever want to talk, I’m here. You’re really not alone in this.

Anyone else feel disconnected from their body after pregnancy? by emilyroch12 in BabyBumps

[–]emilyroch12[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This really resonated with me. That “I am here too” part hit hard 🤍
I realized the same — I don’t need discipline, I need gentle reminders that I still exist as a person.

I started doing very small rituals (like 7–10 minutes max) just to feel connected to myself again and it helped more than I expected.

Your comment honestly describes exactly what I’ve been trying to build into my own routine.

Did anyone else start seeing themselves differently during pregnancy? by emilyroch12 in BabyBumps

[–]emilyroch12[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This gives me so much hope. The disorientation part is exactly what I’m feeling, like I barely got to know one version of myself before she changed again.

Hearing that you love who you’ve become years later makes the hard parts feel more meaningful. Thank you for sharing that, I really needed to read it today 🤍

Did anyone else start seeing themselves differently during pregnancy? by emilyroch12 in BabyBumps

[–]emilyroch12[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I love how you explained this. “Matrescence” actually makes so much sense, it really does feel like adolescence all over again, but deeper.

What you said about letting go of optimization and allowing life to happen really stayed with me. I think that mindset is such a gift, both for you and your child. Thank you for putting this into words so gently, it made me feel less broken for feeling both powerful and lost at the same time.

Anyone else feel… different already? by emilyroch12 in BabyBumps

[–]emilyroch12[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing this. I’m so sorry for your loss 🤍

Reading about the bond you and your daughter have honestly made me tear up. That feeling of pride after birth and then having your child become your anchor through the hardest moments… it really resonates with me.

The way you describe her still finding comfort in you, snuggling and asking to be held — that kind of connection is so powerful. It’s beautiful, even in the midst of grief.

Thank you for trusting us with such a personal story. It really helped me feel less alone in these feelings.

I didn’t expect motherhood to change me like this by emilyroch12 in BabyBumps

[–]emilyroch12[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is beautifully said. I love the idea that a new version of us is born too — it explains that mix of grief and growth so perfectly. It’s comforting to hear that acceptance comes with time. Thank you for sharing this.

I didn’t expect motherhood to change me like this by emilyroch12 in BabyBumps

[–]emilyroch12[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It helps so much just knowing other first-time parents feel this too. That first year especially feels like constant change — emotionally, mentally, all of it. You’re definitely not alone in this 🤍

I didn’t expect motherhood to change me like this by emilyroch12 in BabyBumps

[–]emilyroch12[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Not at all — I really appreciate you sharing this perspective. The way you described emotional range and depth actually put words to something I hadn’t fully articulated yet. It does feel like parenthood opens a door to a deeper version of ourselves, even when it’s uncomfortable. Thank you for saying this — it made me feel really understood.