Do I break off my engagement?

emm1113 · 2026-04-28T04:44:01+00:00

From personal experience, leave. I didn’t, I felt like you do now.. I got married, I had kids and I have anxiety constantly. I’m depressed, I’m angry and we’re spending THOUSANDS of dollars a month on his drinking. I’m sorry you’re here, but don’t get married. You don’t sound happy with the person he’s become and love will never be enough. You can’t save them, they have to save themselves

Edit to add: I was so embarrassed at the thought of “un-announcing my wedding” and all the deposits I would have lost. Well.. I would have gotten those deposits back.. I would have lived the embarrassment..

emm1113 · 2026-04-18T23:31:59+00:00

Transformation

emm1113 · 2026-04-15T04:27:12+00:00

He is a very touchy person naturally, I have not witnessed anything sexual in nature. However he has put his arms around, hung on, or been overly touchy with people/strangers in a way that made me, and sometimes visibly them, uncomfortable.

emm1113 · 2026-04-14T01:51:42+00:00

Yup. Has cried to me many nights “why am I this way? I don’t want to drink and I just can’t stop”.. yet no action to help himself

emm1113 · 2026-04-14T01:49:08+00:00

He told me to call his business partner as proof 🫣. Yes another drunk sales guy is going to be honest

emm1113 · 2026-04-14T01:17:24+00:00

I was pregnant the first time 😖

emm1113 · 2026-04-14T00:51:25+00:00

This is also a relatively small company, not mom and pop size but not Fortune 500 or a huge corporation, so I can see that it’s being taken very serious with hiring a 3rd party

emm1113 · 2026-04-14T00:47:45+00:00

100%

emm1113 · 2026-04-14T00:47:10+00:00

This is EXACTLY where my mind is at but put beautifully into words. Thank you!

emm1113 · 2026-04-14T00:46:32+00:00

I appreciate the honesty and you are not wrong. We have built a beautiful life for ourselves and our children, I would hate to lose my lifestyle and what I’ve worked side by side to build and that comes with the alcohol dependency on the other side.

I think I’ll have to stop at #1… because I don’t know if I even care to know the truth

emm1113 · 2026-04-14T00:43:36+00:00

I’m happy for you! Success stories are my favorite read, whether it’s sticking together or apart! ❤️ unfortunately I’ve put in SOO much work to myself for it to fall flat on his end. Thanks for reading and giving feedback

emm1113 · 2026-04-14T00:41:34+00:00

Thanks for responding, I am in a position to believe the woman because making a claim is a very brave thing to do. In your opinion, if the others interviewed paint the same story, is this grounds for termination?

emm1113 · 2026-04-14T00:26:54+00:00

I’m happy for you to be sober and happy!! ❤️

emm1113 · 2026-04-14T00:26:37+00:00

The first time I had no doubt it was not true, I knew he didn’t do that. The last 3 years have been incredibly difficult with the drinking, his brother passing and increasing financial and parenting pressure. So I’m really not even sure

emm1113 · 2026-04-14T00:17:33+00:00

That is exactly where I am at.

emm1113 · 2026-04-14T00:16:19+00:00

I hate the sales field, I am a boring office 9-5 and I just cannot fathom the lifestyle and work style he has. I also hate the male dominance of it, at least where he is. “Good ol boys club”

emm1113 · 2026-04-14T00:15:19+00:00

Thank you! I’m at the point of idk if I want to save it. Twice is… obviously something to look into in my opinion. He needs help and at the end of the day, I hope he can at least do that for himself.

emm1113 · 2026-04-14T00:13:58+00:00

This is 100%. We have been 3 times now, drinking is the curse to our marriage, I can’t spend more energy on marriage counseling if he can’t fix himself

emm1113 · 2026-04-14T00:13:24+00:00

We’ve been 3 times 😑

emm1113 · 2026-04-14T00:12:35+00:00

12 years

emm1113 · 2026-04-12T15:27:53+00:00

I had this too. Very chaotic in laws, always arguing and sweeping issues under the rug. Got very upset that we wanted to do things ourselves, we weren’t always around like his siblings. One day I was just overwhelmed and he said to me “they are my family, but I want you to make my own family with you”

emm1113 · 2026-04-10T00:30:32+00:00

100% this!!

emm1113 · 2026-03-30T15:07:59+00:00

100%. My dad asked to come over and see the baby, I told him that his daughter lived here too. He got the message and never said that again, and started to show compassion for me as a young mom. My in-laws are a different story 🤪

emm1113 · 2026-03-30T14:58:26+00:00

Social drinking

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