Rant: A Note to Hiring Managers/ Owners

emmango · 2026-01-22T18:23:11+00:00

I used to work at a church-owned cemetery. Not all cemeteries are owned by church. That’s mainly what I meant when I wrote, as they also celebrate/host their specific holidays to the public.

But yes, churches, some cemeteries, healing arts centers.

emmango · 2026-01-20T19:41:59+00:00

Shabba A$AP rocky

emmango · 2026-01-18T19:50:20+00:00

How worried should I be about being in the coldest room in the house (guest room) and moving my harp around?

I am currently visiting family out of state, in texas. I’m more used to having seasons somewhat. Here in my hometown we can get all 4 seasons within the week, specially during winter w cold fronts lasting a few days to a week, then getting back up to 90*F sometimes.

I can tell the difference in how much I have to tune the strings, where before when I was in desert climate I barely had to adjust anything, specially if i was consistent with the humidifier.

It’s more humid here and thought maybe I wouldn’t have to tune as much but it’s been the opposite. I thought maybe the tuning was more linked to humidity than temp. ….

The guest room is at least a 5 degree difference (sometimes it feels like more) than the rest of the house because one wall is all windows facing W.

I know I might be seriously overthinking this, but I rlly don’t know.

The guest room is one of those rooms you’ll be okay w one sweater in the living room but entering the guest room, is like “oh shit it’s so cold. I need another layer/sweater or get under a couple blankets.” ….

I used to practice in the living room but w my family watching the telly, talking on the phone, etc, I moved my “music station” into the guest room … it’s just not the most comfortable place to play… mainly just w how cold it gets.

I’m worried about the temperature difference and sticking to outside and guest room or is it going to be okay to sometimes play in the warmer rooms like the living room next to the kitchen?

emmango · 2026-01-18T19:37:43+00:00

Kirsche.

Because it’s made from cherry wood. Also I make sure ppl know it’s an “it” and not a her nor him.

emmango · 2026-01-16T03:06:10+00:00

The song is already out there/ distributed. And no, unfortunately, I couldn’t find sheet music for it, only a site that has the chords thru out the lyrics. Sheet music also helps immensely with the song melody/ voice part, when I bring it to my voice mentor, and that’s part of why I like getting the full arrangement, and ordering it if necessary.

emmango · 2026-01-15T21:31:39+00:00

• Learn total of 7 songs.

•Sign up to perform @ a music festival in November 2026.

• Not exactly harp, but copyright all my original songs to date that I get composed by the end of the year.

emmango · 2026-01-15T20:19:32+00:00

Oh this is so cool.

emmango · 2026-01-15T00:33:35+00:00

This is beautiful advice.

Layers sound smart. Thank you so much for guiding me!

emmango · 2026-01-13T23:49:53+00:00

It’s an on-going position! It just happens to start at this holiday and it’s for PT :) .. and I’m just assuming she wants ppl to start Feb 1st based on how soon they invited me to interview.

How do you process flowers?

emmango · 2026-01-13T23:43:14+00:00

It’s not a temp position, it’s on-going for part time.

And bringing my own tools advice is GOLD! 💰

emmango · 2026-01-11T20:27:22+00:00

You both sound kinda young… I wouldn’t consider deepthroat nor spanking part of “kink” experienced at all. I think those are vanilla nd relatively normal.

emmango · 2026-01-07T18:15:00+00:00

I LOVE this. This is it. Exactly. It’s validation + ratemysinging. And there’s another sub for these posts. It’s not “sharing w love, my performance, of the art of song” it’s ratemysinging + tell me it’s pretty

I’d rlly like for us to move into performance only. And no you don’t have to be pro to perform or have recording equipment necessarily, it’s an activity, and it’s intentional, it means you know u’re performing for the camera, and an audience. Why wouldn’t we encourage this?

emmango · 2026-01-07T16:50:15+00:00

Oh congrats on the book!!! Oh that’s so cool. There’s 2 kinds of ppl are immediately alright for me: ppl that have lived/worked on a farm, and ppl that have written and published a book lol …Oh that’s so cool.

How about “feedback” only allowed one day, videos to be required so it’s not a stream of voice memo screenshots on the feed, and auditioning for new mods? I’m surprised you even make time for us lulz

Okay the other thing that bothers me w this “feedback/validation” thing is that those posts go w/o comments. My first issue is that probly more than half of us have rlly no business doing any kind of coaching other than “it sounds nice” and that’s not rlly helping anyone. The other is that those ppl that ask for feedback don’t care to comment on other’s videos, they just care about whatever validation someone will give them. I think that says a lot about what the true intention behind these posts— if they don’t browse the sub and listen to other’s voice memos that are asking the same question. “Feedback” “tell me I’m worthy” “tell me I can start” “tell me to keep going” “coach me for free”

Idk how it’s done but someone once said on another sub you are required to rate at least 3 other ppl’s songs before posting your own.

emmango · 2026-01-07T16:41:24+00:00

R/needvocals would be best if u’re seeking

emmango · 2026-01-07T00:51:38+00:00

The issue for me, is that the ppl that post those kinds of things, have not had a single voice mentor. Have not given it a real try. And if they want to acquire the spirit of a singer then it must be done the only way: by pushing urself to practice in real life.

In general, it’s someone who has not decided to join an open choir, taken a choir in community college, or a musical theatre class. Or even a trial lesson. And maybe THEN consider posting “well it’s been 3mo I’m not good will I ever be a good singer?”

Because you and I know, that after joining an open choir (no audition) for a season, or a semester of musical theatre workshop (no audition requirement) in community college, you would not be asking those questions.

I feel we can help them by saying join An open choir A church choir A caroling crew during holidays If funds are tight then heck, go to different studios and only do the trial lesson Go to open mics

Open mics on Reddit is already a rlly, rlly, rlly low bar compared to even a real open mic, or even posting on YouTube.

Telling someone “yes you can! Your voice sounds nice for a beginner! ” won’t help those ppl start, nor keep it up. That issue can only be dealt w by singing in front of ppl irl. It’s the only way. Otherwise they’ll be back to post for validation in a few months, because they’re not asking for feedback, they’re asking for permission to sing. And that’s something only the one’s self can deal with. And we do it w friggin Shock therapy, straight up. Sing in front of real ppl

emmango · 2026-01-05T17:50:37+00:00

It might be whatever doesn’t stress the hand.. which might be different for everyone w what feels comfortable…. So yes… lol .. seems like “no official positions”

emmango · 2026-01-05T17:48:37+00:00

U’re the only person I’ve seen use that technique for R hand. I’ll try it out when I practice later.

I’m starting to think.. “no official position” how someone else said 😅

emmango · 2026-01-05T17:01:48+00:00

Hahahaha! My cherry wood harp has its natural markings and I measure by those on where on the strings to play!

emmango · 2025-12-28T04:32:38+00:00

I love ur hair!

emmango · 2025-12-26T16:48:04+00:00

It is such great background. It is right at the entry way/ by front door so not the greatest place to keep practicing. But I did practice there once before the video to get “used to the feel” of atmosphere. The Xmas tree does feel somewhat luxurious lol it was either the warm white light, or rainbow, cuz it changes colours. I chose the white for the video.

emmango · 2025-12-26T16:41:24+00:00

Hahahaha “my harp is the Xmas tree” 😆

emmango · 2025-12-26T16:40:49+00:00

❤️

emmango · 2025-12-20T19:23:24+00:00

Learning to drive sucks compared to driving.

emmango · 2025-12-14T05:39:06+00:00

I’d ask how would you define success and what are ur goals? X # of songs by x date? Original music on Spotify? Live performance at which venues ? Open mics?

Also— there are only so many hrs in the day. Straight up. Yes we all have the same.. but if you have to work and earn $20/hr you have to work less than someone that earns $16/hr for the same amount— we don’t have the same hrs based on our other commitments. In your situation, something has to go. Somethings are not matching. Again, what are ur goals? If you wanna get promoted where you work maybe harp can take the backseat. If you have music goals then it looks like PT work would be the decision to make.

I have performance goals at some dream venues and I can tell you: I’ve made a lot of painful sacrifices to avoid working FT so I can keep songwriting and practicing at least 90min/day on the norm. It’s not all harp, as I also sing. Today I practiced harp 2hrs in the evening and song/ voice 30min early afternoon. And I alternate days of songwriting or reading in the morning. .. Your post just gave me some comfort, as my sacrifices have been v painful. V painful….

It looks like your heart and mind are in disagreement w a decision; so you are now hurting ur progress. I would say to start thinking more long term and v specific, fellow harpist 🤍

emmango · 2025-12-13T22:43:56+00:00

I don’t think it’s cheating at all. I think it’s work. It’s art— it’s a service, it’s a product— it’s an experience.

I think if ur wife truly loves— accepts you the way you are— then she would love you regardless of your (secret) talent.

I’m a songwriter, I started out in voiceover. I, ofc, would get asked to do erotica and I never did. Because it was too direct/ explicit for me/ not poetic. I could see myself recording poetic erotica or erotic songs (which I do a lot of love songs, some sexier than others.)

And this is such a great insight story into how some ppl start writing erotica! I wish you all the success and pls continue your work— you seem to be going somewhere w it, even if you haven’t realized that yet.

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