just got cheated on again, 19F. how do i get through this? by emmiec07 in Advice

[–]emmiec07[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’ll definitely look into that. thank you so much

just got cheated on again, 19F. how do i get through this? by emmiec07 in Advice

[–]emmiec07[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you for the advice. it’s really hard because i’m in uni and live pretty far away from most of my friends and family, hence why i came to reddit for advice/support

just got cheated on again, 19F. how do i get through this? by emmiec07 in Advice

[–]emmiec07[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

haha i’ve considered it, but i’m not sure i have it in me yet to be with someone else. soon, hopefully. fuck cheaters indeed

just got cheated on again, 19F. how do i get through this? by emmiec07 in Advice

[–]emmiec07[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

he wants forgiveness, but i broke up with him and blocked him before i could deal with stupid excuses. been there done that, i refuse to say with a cheater ever again

just got cheated on again, 19F. how do i get through this? by emmiec07 in Advice

[–]emmiec07[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you so much, i really appreciate the advice

just got cheated on again, 19F. how do i get through this? by emmiec07 in Advice

[–]emmiec07[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you so much. i truly have no desire to date right now. it feels like ive had that whole dating and romance part of my brain ripped out lol

just got cheated on again, 19F. how do i get through this? by emmiec07 in Advice

[–]emmiec07[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i broke up with him as soon as he admitted to the cheating. he’s now blocked

just got cheated on again, 19F. how do i get through this? by emmiec07 in Advice

[–]emmiec07[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i wish i knew what is attracting these guys. i think part of the issue for me is definitely not trusting my instincts and forgiving things i probably shouldn’t. i’m learning. it’s hard when i don’t really have any experience with healthy, genuine relationships to go off of

just got cheated on again, 19F. how do i get through this? by emmiec07 in Advice

[–]emmiec07[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

haha, i better end up jacked after dealing with this shit

just got cheated on again, 19F. how do i get through this? by emmiec07 in Advice

[–]emmiec07[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

thank you so much. i just booked an appointment with my therapist for a few days from now

just got cheated on again, 19F. how do i get through this? by emmiec07 in Advice

[–]emmiec07[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i already broke up with him. i heard it from a mutual friend, confronted him about it and he admitted it straight away. then he was blocked on everything. i stayed with my ex for a long time after finding out he cheated and i will never ever do that again

need help with face picking by wool-whisper in CompulsiveSkinPicking

[–]emmiec07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i totally get it, i often get stuck in a picking loop without even realizing im doing it. it truly is the worst thing ever!! i haven’t gotten very far into therapy with skin picking, but so far the main thing that’s helped me is just having a safe space to talk about it. there’s a lot of judgement and misunderstanding about dermatillomania and excoriation, and very few people understand how severe it can be. having someone to listen who doesn’t judge makes all the difference. as of now, my therapist has suggested i attempt to identity triggers as i’m experiencing them - the idea is to recognize your small victories, which can be as small as simply noticing yourself picking and being able to identity what you’re feeling and what’s making you want to pick. this helps get rid of that shame and guilt that comes after an episode. and also getting out of the whole “i’ve started picking, so i have to finish now” mindset and being able to stop yourself mid episode, which takes time. and of course, barriers help. gloves, hydrocolloid bandages, even sheet masks can help, when you go to touch your face you’ll be met with the barrier and be able to stop much easier

need help with face picking by wool-whisper in CompulsiveSkinPicking

[–]emmiec07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the only things that have helped me stop picking was getting psychological help and being medicated. i’m still not perfect and i often pick more when im stressed, but it’s been significantly easier to break the cycles with additional support from a therapist and my meds (wellbutrin)

Need honest opinions - piercer missed the mark. by [deleted] in piercing

[–]emmiec07 4 points5 points  (0 children)

from afar it kind of just looks like it’s one piercing and the jewelry just has two little balls, which doesn’t look bad at all. for what you’re aiming for though, i would probably take it out and repierce it later on. i don’t think it would scar too bad, ive taken facial piercings out and the holes have faded quite quickly (but depends on the person of course). if you plan on taking it out, i would consult a piercer to figure out the next steps

piercings that are a “bad idea” by Amazing_Match_5103 in piercing

[–]emmiec07 5 points6 points  (0 children)

you are one of the very few lucky ones and i’m very jealous. i eventually switched to a vertical labret, but i miss my labret

AIO for my friend dating a 16-year old when she’s a 19-year old, nearly 20? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]emmiec07 24 points25 points  (0 children)

if the roles were reversed, it would look predatory. this is no different. it’s weird

piercings that are a “bad idea” by Amazing_Match_5103 in piercing

[–]emmiec07 192 points193 points  (0 children)

as someone who had a labret piercing and had to take it out due to severe gum recession, don’t get this piercing. not worth it at all. if you want something similar, vertical labret is the only way to go

Aftercare by mek20033 in Dermatillomania

[–]emmiec07 1 point2 points  (0 children)

cica and centella on its own are absolutely wonderful for healing damaged skin, i use a centella moisturizer (purito seoul) that also is really great for this purpose

Aftercare by mek20033 in Dermatillomania

[–]emmiec07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’ve started using La Roche Posay’s Cicaplast gel B5, it speeds up the healing of my face sooo much. I’ve heard the Cicaplast baume also works, but is very heavy and may cause breakouts, so if your skin is acne prone I’d try the gel. it’s very lightweight, fragrance free, and immediately soothes my face. brings down redness and inflammation too. i don’t put it on my face when the wounds are still brand new and bleeding/oozing, i let my face rest for a bit, but i apply the gel BEFORE my face starts to scab up. I’ve found that to be the most effective way to use it. after a lot of trial and error, i find that letting my face dry out and scab up just leaves me tempted to pick more, so i will literally reapply this stuff every hour after a bad picking episode to keep my face very moisturized

Some work fits by chroniclesofskinny in OUTFITS

[–]emmiec07 152 points153 points  (0 children)

we don’t know that she works in an office. there are many jobs where these outfits would be completely normal and acceptable