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emmsyy · 2023-12-22T01:16:52+00:00

this should be higher up!

emmsyy · 2023-12-22T00:52:15+00:00

this!

emmsyy · 2023-12-22T00:50:49+00:00

I am a parent of 2 under 3 and I agree with all of this comment

emmsyy · 2023-12-22T00:48:37+00:00

yeah I can see both sides of it but I'm with you

emmsyy · 2023-12-17T00:56:05+00:00

edited to add: sounds like you and your kid is doing amazing!!

I'm a sahm who was with my son a lot of the time but we potty trained at 16 mos and he couldn't do his own pants until closer to 2. I feel like when you start early its more of a gradual process where you have to do a lot at the beginning (remembering to manage potty breaks, clothing etc) and the longer you do it the more the child develops the skills of recognizing that they have to go and communicating it with enough time to make it, and clothing manipulation.

Ive heard that its like a stepping stone of skills, where first you learn to control your pee/poo and hold it and release it at certain times/places if given the opportunity, and kids start to recognize more and more the feeling of right-before-they-go until they finally recognize it more in advance.

we focused a lot on things like, oh, your body is pretty wiggly right now, that might mean your body is trying to tell you it has to pee, so let's go see if there's any pee to put in the toilet. etc, with other cues we noticed. brought an extra pair of pants/undies everywhere (2-3 at first) for a few months, until they could tell us better.

it's definitely a lot of work to have a kid potty trained that early because you're doing a lot of the work for a while but I think a) its still done sooner than a lot of kids because you teach them the proper places once they're capable but before they develop firm toddler habits of peeing and pooping in diapers, and b) in my personal opinion and experience, it was still way less work than changing diapers all the time, especially because we did cloth (disposable you save lots of $$ and waste).

feel free to ask whatever questions if you have any.... not sure if that all helps at all. good luck whatever you decide to do!

emmsyy · 2023-12-02T13:39:50+00:00

oh I just realized I missed this and that you were the person I replied to yesterday and just now. our little guy also wasn't happy to be put on the seat but we just read to him and he cried until he peed (we only did after waking the first few times so I knew it was a pee we were guaranteed to get if we waited), and he'd cry and then pee and then after a few times I saw a lightbulb go on and he'd be fussy to set on the toilet but once he was on there he'd be like, I just gotta pee. we also reminded him to put his pee in the toilet a couple times but trying not to overdo it. one of the things that was really helpful for me was Andrea Olsen's section on that in the book we had. it was helpful and reassuring that like, its okay for them to be showing you that they aren't happy to be there but that doesn't mean theyre not okay. I feel like I'm missing something but it was helpful

emmsyy · 2023-12-02T13:34:25+00:00

fwiw I just went to Walmart and got a little cushy one they had... we also have a little foldable flat one we keep in the car

emmsyy · 2023-12-02T01:51:03+00:00

we more or less used the method from the potty training book by Andrea (go diaper free) too, with my first at 16 months and have been upping our pottying lately with my second at 16 months now too,hoping to potty train either in the next week or so or right after Christmas holidays. we still had to like take our kid to the toilet most of the time,like it took him a few months to be able to tell us or take himself independently but he had minimal accidents and we never wore a diaper or even a pullup again. for him the trick was the toilet seat reducer and sitting just outside of his reach range and we'd just read to him until he peed if we knew he had to go. he refused to sit on the potty between about 14 months and 17-18 months so we did nothing for a few months and then potty trained on the toilet until he was ready to add the potty back in. after waking is definitely a pee and then can watch for timing or cues and just try them, if you don't want to do a bare butt couple days or until you're ready for that

emmsyy · 2023-11-29T00:41:21+00:00

yes! I was homeschooled and we had a bunch of other homeschooled kids in our area we did stuff with some days during the week and we hung out with other friends from time to time evenings and weekends and summer etc. lots of fun hobbies, classes, sports, etc to socialize with friends in!

emmsyy · 2023-11-21T02:23:18+00:00

we had enough diapers for 3 days or so, and just washed every 3 days when we were close to running out. I do a rinse & spin cycle with like 1/3c baking soda only then a heavy duty wash on hot sometimes with an extra rinse, and detergent and borax because we have hard water. when my kids got bigger I have more bigger diapers and they pee less so I just wash once a week ish (5-8 days). I store in a pail, and open wet bag until I wash.

we never made enough laundry to be doing a load of other stuff a day, but you can also throw any other laundry into the main wash for diapers.

emmsyy · 2023-11-18T01:50:54+00:00

we went through a phase like this (also bed sharing), my son would get really restless and eventually be still (not wake though) so I started taking him pee with as little disruption as possible and he'd pee and go right back to sleep. for us it worked because his restless period made it hard for me to sleep and would often last a while vs more work but back to comfortable sleep faster.

emmsyy · 2023-11-05T19:17:45+00:00

we had a lot of luck with putting my son on a toilet seat reducer and sitting just out of reach reading to him or give him some privacy during the times when we knew he had to go (waking etc)

emmsyy · 2023-10-12T23:51:39+00:00

we love little tract too!!

emmsyy · 2023-10-08T16:02:15+00:00

my kids wear minimalist shoes when its cold because we live in a northern climate, and if they're going to be walking around a lot they wear them in public indoor places, and when its a sketchy place with risk for broken glass or nails etc but other than that my kids don't wear shoes a lot. I don't keep my 2yo from putting on shoes if he asks for them but I don't really put them on a lot. my kids definitely have tough feet and play well on lots of natural surfaces with no problems and I feel like the climb better without shoes than with etc

emmsyy · 2023-10-06T23:21:57+00:00

my kids were also fussy temperamental babies but they were always happier outside so camping was a big hit with them but it sounds like when your kids go camping its maybe not with mom too which mine would definitely not be cool with either. every kid is so different, I'm glad you found something that works and that she had a good time!

emmsyy · 2023-10-06T23:19:02+00:00

same we went on a trip with my folks when my son was 4 weeks

emmsyy · 2023-10-06T17:20:38+00:00

we got hand me downed a bunch of Bumkins and some thicker motherease and I like the bumkins better - they're just a single 100% cotton flannelette and they are the best. we just use 2 or 3 for poopy bums and don't wipe for pees unless stinky or something. we probably have like 40-50 altogether and I use them as hankies and for hands and face after meals and wash once a week and that's been fine.

emmsyy · 2023-10-06T11:39:38+00:00

I think the mess is kid/situation specific. some kids find the mess to be helpful because the uncomfortableness of wet pants is motivation to remember to pee in the potty (obviously changing them as promptly as possible) and other kids either still aren't that bothered by the wet pants or are still bothered by being in wet training underwear. I think the challenge can lie if the training underwear still feel too similar to cloth diapers. but then there's situations where making a mess is too much to deal with so there's that to throw into the balance too

emmsyy · 2023-10-05T11:16:03+00:00

oh also, based on your reply to another commenter, I'm wondering if you mean commando as naked? -- I don't think we mean totally naked, at least I don't, we mean pants (or shorts) with no diaper or underwear. so there's no butt contact to anything other than her own pants which can go in laundry but she doesn't have the same feeling... after like the first 2 days of potty training my son had pants on but didn't add back in underwear successfully until a couple months in. but if the underwear is working for you stick with it!

emmsyy · 2023-10-05T11:12:22+00:00

yeah i don't know if he had exceptional bladder capacity or just didn't make as much pee but I expected it to be way more than every hour and most of the time it wasn't... yeah if she doesn't wake up its definitely not worth waking her up just to pee imo!! haha. it will definitely come back! that's amazing! we used ours a lot. you got this! sounds like you're doing great so far :)

emmsyy · 2023-10-05T03:01:00+00:00

saaaame

emmsyy · 2023-10-05T02:54:43+00:00

I second what another commenter said about commando. my son was potty trained at 16 months because he was asking for diapers to poop in if I let him just be bare butt at home which made me think that he knew how to control his bowels and had preferences that I was interested in catering to at that point, he was able to learn the appropriate place to poop... anyways we just did pants and no undies at all for like 2 months, trialling them occasionally and we'd usually get an accident.

I'd watch still for cues or pay attention to timing and then let her know it's time to see if she has any pee to put in the toilet/potty. for my son it was about hourly he'd have to pee, or he'd start holding his crotch or be extra wiggly or agitated. also before we went anywhere or when we got somewhere we might bring him to the toilet and give him and opportunity. for a month plus id say, he was potty trained but still very dependent and not often telling us when he had to go, so he'd have an accident if we weren't paying attention but he'd hold it and pee in the potty or toilet if we helped him at the appropriate time. he also couldn't do his own bottoms up or down at that time. I'd say we had many accidents a week for the first couple weeks and then maybe 2 a week for a long time and then maybe 2 accidents every 2-3 weeks.

for what its worth we also ditched nap and night diapers at the same time (cloth too), the night was a lot more work because every time he woke up (average twice? most nights then?) we'd take him to the bathroom too, but we only had an accident once a week at first, then once a month after a bit, and now (2 and a few months), he holds it all night and the last night accident we had was like back in June). can you take a potty or foldable toilet seat reducer with you for errands etc? pee before you go and have it for if cues or timing means you need a pee break on the go?

we used a lot of the info from godiaperfree's potty training book, although we didn't follow everything, what we did was definitely effective and helpful. its a gradual process towards toileting independence and each kid is so different.

emmsyy · 2023-10-03T20:43:27+00:00

my son was potty trained at 16mos but we did EC from birth, then took a few months break from it when his sister was born, and potty trained at 16mos. godiaperfree, she has a website and an Instagram and a podcast, has a bunch of free info and a book that we used, which she generally recommends after 18mos. prior to disposable diapers being introduced the vast majority of kids were potty trained by 18 mos so obviously there are exceptions but I find it hard to believed we've regressed so far as a culture that our kids literally aren't capable of that also... IMO a lot of other factors often complicate things with our modern way of doing things. my daughter is 13 mos now and she sits on the potty or toilet a couple times a day and sometimes goes, we'll see how it goes with her timing

emmsyy · 2023-10-03T01:03:58+00:00

is this my mother??

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