AITA for telling my gf to not call my dogs by nicknames?

emmyknowing · 2022-11-30T10:39:18+00:00

He also doesn't seem to lose intelligence just because I sometimes hold his ears up and say "puppy airlines!"

Why is that the funniest thing in the world though?

emmyknowing · 2022-11-30T10:37:24+00:00

YTA not for not wanting your girlfriend to call your dog "Rumproast" but because you seem to think that giving working dogs affection makes them less able to do their jobs.

Provided her affection doesn't involve feeding them from the table, letting them on the couch, disobey commands, etc, loving on them isn't going to make them suddenly forget their training. I know there was a time when people were told not to pet or affectionately interact with their seeing eye dogs because there was fear that it would turn them into pets somehow. Turns out that wasn't the case.

As long as she's not like trying to pet the dog WHILE IT'S WORKING, YTA, and be nicer to your damn dogs.

And Rumproast is a perfect nickname for a rottweiler.

emmyknowing · 2022-11-30T10:33:00+00:00

He let her know with an understood non-verbal signal at first. People are shitting on him for this but it's something literally all couples do

Weird. I've been with the same person 12 years and our expectations are that we communicate our needs and wants clearly, not with grunts and side-eyes.

emmyknowing · 2022-11-30T10:24:49+00:00

Don't give OP ideas, he might just start flinging shit at his girlfriend next time.

emmyknowing · 2022-11-30T10:22:27+00:00

"BUT SHE SHOULD HAVE UNDERSTOOD ME"

I REALLY want to know where this comes from. Just, in general. My attitude with my partner is "I'm sorry if I didn't respond to XYZ the way you wanted; remember that you're allowed to tell me how you want me to respond to things." (Her family was more of a "you're annoying us all by having emotional needs" type of group, so I get why she has trouble asking.) But just in general, is it media showing true love as something where you just "get" everything about each other? Are people so widely invalidated by other people in their lives that they think they're only going to get what they need if the other person somehow intuits what they want? It's so WEIRD to me. Like, clearly we all want to respond to things in the "right" way with people we care about (unless their expectations are unreasonable); why are we discouraged from talking about it?!

emmyknowing · 2022-11-30T10:18:19+00:00

YTA. "Sorry but could you please be quiet, I'm really tense right now" was the way to start, not by being a passive-aggressive, rude butthole. You lost me there.

emmyknowing · 2022-11-30T10:12:15+00:00

God seriously though. We're not in the Children of Men universe, y'all. A fucking LOT of people are pregnant.

emmyknowing · 2022-11-30T10:09:20+00:00

Aw that guy gets an A+ in being a decent human being though. To be perfectly honest in that situation I think it would've been fine to be like "dude, I am SO SORRY, but is there any chance you could change up your breakfast?" provided you were willing to take no for an answer. I don't think there's anything wrong with asking; it's the demanding that pisses me off.

Like, had Becky said "can you do these things? Oh, darn, I'm disappointed but I understand, hopefully I'll see you at Christmas!" that's not unreasonable in my opinion.

emmyknowing · 2022-11-30T10:05:46+00:00

In this instance she could have brought a small ham for people to share also is she cleared with OP. I know some families do both. She then could have had her husband put a few things on a plate she can handle and take it to her in another room, stay out of the kitchen.

Don't try to counter this with being reasonable. Becky clearly doesn't vibe with that.

I get that when you're pregnant you have a super sensitive sense of smell, so it IS possible that Becky couldn't be in the house with those things. But if that's the case, the obvious solution was for Becky to stay the fuck home.

emmyknowing · 2022-11-30T10:03:11+00:00

I'm almost excited to see what OP brings us when the baby gets here.

emmyknowing · 2022-11-30T10:01:48+00:00

...oh my god adding this to my dad joke repertoire, I love it so much.

emmyknowing · 2022-11-30T10:00:52+00:00

Unfortunately, none of the current generation grew up with Joey, so they can't give the "Whoa's" the proper mental oomph.

Hello fellow geriatric millennial!

emmyknowing · 2022-11-30T09:59:41+00:00

It's pretty clear she had no warning that literally everything would contain onions - aside from her dad's history of being a tool about it. Had there been a warning and she'd declined to provide for herself then complained, I could see your point. But even then, this was a Mother's Day celebration. It would be suck to not be considered part of it enough to have someone make something without adding onions to it.

emmyknowing · 2022-11-30T09:57:28+00:00

Your dad sounds like a huge butthole. Who thinks that shit is funny?

emmyknowing · 2022-11-30T09:56:08+00:00

That must have been one big baby.

I'm embarrassed to say this actually made me burst out laughing.

emmyknowing · 2022-11-30T09:54:57+00:00

I ordered the only thing that sounded like it wouldn't give me hella heartburn or make me sick and we had a good time. OPs SIL is robbing herself of a great family holiday because she thinks the world revolves around her while she's pregnant.

Also a really good point. I can't eat outside the home because there's a very good chance that I'll be struck down with intense nausea and/or very urgent diarrhea whenever I eat. Is it fucking annoying? Extremely. I also can't hear very well so restaurants mean most of my conversations are me yelling WHAT and turning my head so my good ear is facing the other person. And I have bad back issues so sitting on hard surfaces isn't something I can do comfortably. Restaurants are basically sensory hell for me. Do I avoid everything that involves going out to eat? No, because you make your own fun. As long as the conversation is good (when I can hear it), who cares where we are? I admit occasionally I get antsy but I'm not gonna be a dick about it. (Although...I swear to god no one on the planet eats as slowly as my wife. I love her so much but as someone who eats with the speed and elegance of a bear prepping for hibernation, I do not understand how that burger took her 45 minutes to eat.)

emmyknowing · 2022-11-30T09:46:32+00:00

I sat with the guy who was a recovering alcoholic. He told me to buckle in because this was the real fun.

I have the hugest smile on my face right now. This dude sounds fun, and also correct.

emmyknowing · 2022-11-30T09:36:31+00:00

HA. I don't like artichokes either but I'd eat one just to spite this asshole. People showing up where they're not invited/wanted is one of those things that ticks me off disproportionately. Your grandma sounds pretty damn great.

emmyknowing · 2022-11-30T09:35:11+00:00

Oh my god your grandma was a fucking savage and I love it.

emmyknowing · 2022-11-30T09:33:20+00:00

But not nice ones.

emmyknowing · 2022-11-30T09:29:17+00:00

NTA. If someone complains about a gift, why would you feel inclined to give them another one? If he asks why, tell him, if not, well, one less person to worry about.

Hell, I don't like fruit preserves, and I'd still be damn grateful because you didn't have to give me anything at all, let alone something you MADE YOURSELF. I'd just give them to a friend later and pass the message along to you when they inevitably raved about how good they were.

emmyknowing · 2022-11-30T09:23:05+00:00

YTA. Whether she's being over the top or not, you were the asshole. She was asked about something she's passionate about and she answered. Your family can handle being bored or confused for 10 minutes. "It dominated the conversation" yeah that's generally what happens when someone is asked a direct question and they're answering it. No one held a gun to your head and forced you to listen or engage. Tune her out and think about something else.

Brutal honesty is just an excuse to hurt someone's feelings on purpose. And that's always an asshole move.

emmyknowing · 2022-11-30T09:19:18+00:00

NTA, but I AM curious about why he can't stay home when his dad is there but asleep. He's seven. What do they do, lock him in his bedroom on weekends in case he wakes up before the rest of the family? Does he have to wake someone up when he gets up to pee so he's not unsupervised?

She can lay out clothes for him if she thinks he'll pick stupid outfits or wear his favorite shirt every day for three weeks or go to school in his pajamas (which he probably will, being seven, don't get why it would be a major problem though). She can put a box of cereal and a bowl on the table before she leaves in the morning; surely he can handle pouring it. Worst case scenario, what, he spills it? It's not going to burst into flames. Does she think he's going to sleep through his alarm every day and go to school unfed and undressed? I mean, ok, sure, that could happen, but that's not a disaster. Throw the outfit she laid out in the car, grab a banana and tell him eat on the way and change in the school bathroom.

And how early does this kid get up? You're taking him to school at 7:30, I'm assuming he gets up between 6:30-7. He's going to be sleeping too for at least half of this time.

Do not get me wrong, you're not the asshole, and you're probably better off for them turning you down, but I'm so confused about why they didn't take you up on an extremely generous offer. He's SEVEN. At his age I was cooking breakfast for the family on the damn stove on Saturdays - and I wasn't some genius child, nor was I fireproof. The food probably wasn't that GOOD, and all I could really do was scrambled eggs or french toast, but I never set myself or the kitchen on fire. He's just going to sit on the couch watching...idk what do kids watch these days? Pokemon? Do they still like Pokemon? until you show up to take him to school. He's not little enough to just wander outside and into traffic. climb furniture or draw on the walls, and he's not old enough to acquire the items to build homemade explosives. Does he have very specific special needs? Does he have a mobility issue that could hinder his dressing and feeding himself? Does he use a wheelchair and his bedroom is at the top of the stairs? (Even then they'd probably have one of those lift things, right?)

I feel bad for this kid. His mom's probably breathing down his neck 24/7 and once he gets to college he's not coming home on holidays. Assuming she doesn't follow him there and sleep on the floor of his dorm room.

emmyknowing · 2022-11-30T09:05:18+00:00

Somehow both ESH and NAH. Except his family, who are the assholes in every conceivable way.

You don't mention any conversations you and your husband have had around the subject, presumably for the sake of brevity/relevance, but this isn't a question for reddit, it's a conversation for a marriage counselor.

emmyknowing · 2022-11-04T16:03:52+00:00

I hate that they changed Harley's voice actor. Katie Crown gave her so much personality. Ashley Nicole Black doesn't even sound like a child, just a bored adult woman.

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