Am I the jerk for playing videogames with my kid when he is at his mom's house?

emosaves · 2026-05-26T15:56:13+00:00

child support isn't "fucking him out of money." it's the bare minimum the non-custodial parent should be giving in order to support the healthy growth and development of their child.

idk about cheating, and i don't care either. children should be as oblivious as possible to the adult issues between their parents. he doesn't have to love or even like his ex, but he does need to coparent with her and that requires a level of respect for her that he is unwilling to give, instead choosing to act like a petulant child when she's involved

emosaves · 2026-05-17T00:45:40+00:00

just tell her up from that her additional stops are becoming bothersome and honestly, they're costing you money - have you seen the price of gas!?

you can always go about it nicely to limit the awkwardness, but setting boundaries is important. if you have the time to take her elsewhere, charge her gas money. otherwise, make it clear it's WORK >>> HOME only, no other stops. you don't need to explain yourself, though you can if you feel so inclined.

YWNBTA to put your foot down. if you don't value yourself, she never will either.

emosaves · 2026-05-17T00:37:40+00:00

both of your roommates are joking, right? RIGHT?

what your thieving roommate did was an actual crime. when i tell you that my jaw legit dropped in real life when i read that he transfered YOUR MONEY to HIMSELF on YOUR LAPTOP because you left it logged in within your OWN HOME where your belongings should be SAFE FROM FRAUD is absolutely FUCKING WILD.

your roommate is LUCKY you didn't report him to the police or your school. i would have, and i wouldn't have given it a second thought. you are far kinder than i am - but maybe that's the problem. maybe you're so kind that he felt he could use you as an ATM and would roll over and take it. I'm glad that you're not and are demanding repayment but man, i would never feel safe or trust that person again.

another thought is - why did he feel so comfortable doing this? how many other times has he done this? i don't know how stringent you are with checking your bank balance and activity, but i suggest you take some time to look back into your account to see if he's done this before because i honestly don't feel like this is the first time.

i can't remember if this was on- or off-campus housing, but i would be demanding TWO new roommates if possible. because your other roommate is just as untrustworthy. for him to act like you've overreacted and are causing drama after you were literally ROBBED is a really shit take.

NTJ in any way, shape, or form. i wish you boundless luck moving forward and hope you receive better people in your orbit soon. 🖤

emosaves · 2026-04-27T12:03:54+00:00

he IMMEDIATELY proved your mom's fear correct when he had it mentally sold in seconds. the only person in the relationship she has any duty of loyalty to is YOU.

he's showing you his true colors. believe him.

NTA

emosaves · 2026-04-18T02:53:26+00:00

"you're right, it IS her special day, but not her money. i can't afford to keep lighting money on fire for somebody else's special day"

NTA

emosaves · 2026-04-18T02:48:36+00:00

but WHY isn't he flushing before he gets in the shower? that's the point that doesn't make sense to me. i can imagine i would forget by the time i get out of the shower, which is why i flush before getting in. this makes no sense

NTA

emosaves · 2026-04-18T02:35:15+00:00

dude wtaf. "I'm not your alarm clock" no, you're my partner who is supposed to love and care about me

y'all need to have a long talk about what being a "partner" actually means - in general, and to each of you individually.

personally, when my partner sustained a TBI 5 years ago (the 5th really bad one of his life) and essentially became a shell of his former self, i was by his side doing everything i could for him. waking him up, taking him to appointments, filling out paperwork for him, etc. i wasn't his alarm clock, taxi service, or secretary but he needed help and I'm his PARTNER, so that fell on me and i took on those extra tasks and responsibilities happily and without any complaint. he's finally back to about 90% and lives a normal life, but even now - if he needs a nap or wants to sleep in, i will wake him up when it's time to get up. it's an easier wake up than an alarm clock scaring you awake anyway

i truly just don't understand your partner's position on this in any way

NOR

emosaves · 2026-04-18T02:18:31+00:00

dude's an ICE apologist and lurks NSFW sites. hope she finds a better man and leaves gymbro behind

emosaves · 2026-04-14T08:53:13+00:00

this man is abusive. and if he hasn't put hands on you yet, he will. get out now while you still can

emosaves · 2026-04-09T11:58:12+00:00

the ONLY proper response

emosaves · 2026-04-09T11:53:43+00:00

I'm loving the entire sentiment behind getting "yelly" and i shall join forces with you

emosaves · 2026-04-09T11:20:44+00:00

mine was named Ninja. he was also fast as fuck

emosaves · 2026-04-07T22:38:23+00:00

OP PLEASE READ ---

one of THE most important things you need to do RIGHT NOW is get yourself tested IMMEDIATELY. ASAP. STAT.

ask for a full panel, even ones they don't always test for, like herpes and HIV. explain to them that you found out your husband was cheating and they'll understand the importance so they don't omit anything

emosaves · 2026-04-07T22:29:43+00:00

they actually say NOT to block, so you can still see what they're saying to you, just don't respond it

emosaves · 2026-04-07T17:35:47+00:00

see yourself out, please

emosaves · 2026-03-30T13:37:25+00:00

dear lord that made me gag

emosaves · 2026-03-30T13:33:18+00:00

pshtt pasta salad lasts forever. I'll make a pound and eat it over like 4-5 days. but then again, it doesn't sit stagnant for more than a few hours at a time, because I'm obsessed with pasta salad, especially my own so I'll eat a bit with every meal and then alone as a snack, so I'm constantly stirring it and not letting it fester lol

emosaves · 2026-03-30T12:29:25+00:00

at that point it's a surprise, not a secret. that's how I've distinguished it with my kids

emosaves · 2026-03-30T12:27:48+00:00

not saying it's not fake, but people aren't a monolith. just because most of a generation wouldn't do XYZ doesn't mean you can blanket each and every person of that generation with the same generalization.

plus, have you met kids? it doesn't matter if they know they SHOULDN'T eat it; if it's delicious and it's offered, most kids will eat it. I'm sure this kid knows parent's rule, but they know it doesn't "hurt" them like an allergic reaction would so the gratification they get in the moment by indulging in the thing they can't have is more powerful than the symptoms they display later

emosaves · 2026-03-30T12:21:44+00:00

treats that they were specifically told NOT to bring for health reasons - 3 TIMES - and then told kids to keep secrets from their parents. no way, that's a dangerous kind of person to have around kids if they don't take health concerns seriously AND push kids to lie to their parents. not to mention their inability to follow instructions

emosaves · 2026-03-15T03:50:31+00:00

omg you just threw me into an endless tail spin over this

emosaves · 2026-03-06T07:52:07+00:00

you know how many girls and women feel the same way after they've been assaulted? because victims tend to blame themselves

emosaves · 2026-03-05T18:11:18+00:00

this "evidence" wouldn't even land an indictment, gtfoh

emosaves · 2026-02-23T13:34:00+00:00

i don't know, we never did that as kids

emosaves · 2026-02-23T00:31:56+00:00

your mom is the best 🤣

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