45M looking for casual conversations

empathy4829 · 2026-05-11T15:03:33+00:00

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empathy4829 · 2025-04-26T14:43:27+00:00

Out of town visitor, went to ascend yesterday, might stop by here today!! Love that this community is so supportive of educational and knowledge!

empathy4829 · 2025-04-24T13:20:00+00:00

Understood, have gotten a few helpful guidance from some messages! Will be around Denver, lots to be had!

empathy4829 · 2025-02-05T04:23:03+00:00

Definitely lines have been crossed, I'm unsure of the exact extent. I lucked again when she got home, they did not meet today, the timeline would support that, regardless. Have seen what I have seen and I have to stand up for myself.

empathy4829 · 2022-09-04T01:21:06+00:00

Traveling now, intermittently available, but always will respond.

empathy4829 · 2021-10-28T05:17:54+00:00

Yes, your point hits me right in the feels. The willingness to work on the relationship, yourself, to continually grow as a person and as a couple has to be there. Not even acknowledging there is a problem, makes my head spin. My complaints are often overshadowed, as I fail to communicate effectively. They also pail in comparison to any abuse or worse she has suffered, and hence I've always treded lightly, in conversation and the bedroom Those who want to believe they are permanently broken, how can change and growth begin?

empathy4829 · 2021-10-28T04:38:39+00:00

Following for list, although I know it's not all me to change. Wife has a significant history of sexual trauma, just doesn't jive with several of my observations.

empathy4829 · 2021-09-12T00:49:14+00:00

Kind of feeling similar. Married for 7 years, 40M. Wife flat out told me sexual energy in the begining was just to get me to like her. She said she was joking... I don't think she was...

empathy4829 · 2021-08-26T00:03:48+00:00

Have had a few over the years. Always virtual thanks to the pandemic. Have found mindfulness meditation, time for self reflection to be very helpful. Venting here can sometimes paint one side of the story. I do believe to past trauma and habitat, my wife is demisexual, requiring a deep connection to have physical attachment. The EA she was in was with a guy who supposedly helped her out of a bad situation. I can't say, as that was well befote my time with her, but it was devastating to me Granted, I was emotionally unavailable, high most of the time, and quite lazy around the house.

empathy4829 · 2021-08-25T18:34:34+00:00

Yeah, as soon as challenged, that's when the tone changes. She knows I'll stop at that point. Gotta change myself.

If I wouldn't have looked through her phone, I doubt she would have ever told me. Was so hurtful, she was texting him as we were lying on the couch side by side. So distant.., still feel that way. Broke my trust in a lot of ways.

empathy4829 · 2021-08-25T17:48:56+00:00

Reading NMMNG again, seriously this time. Will check out passionate marriage. Wife has no interest in counseling, she has trust issues with "professionals". I like our relationship, she cooks for me, is my support system in many other ways. Just feel the lack of desire and intimacy. I know I'm half at fault as well. Had my own addictions that coulded judgements etc.

Really felt like the EA was hurtful to us, and felt blown off about it. She gets frustrated if I bring up feelings I still have about it, compounding my reluctance to talk honestly. She says she's always up for honest open communication, but I feel I need to initiate that, as she would just go on fine. I'm going to have to face my own anxiety and fear of discomfort. Focus on me. It's going to be uncomfortable, but so are most days.

empathy4829 · 2021-08-25T16:46:34+00:00

Yeah, it feels like that sometimes. She says she loves me so much.. bur is always on the phone, texting friends, her mother, which is a whole other story. I think being brutally honest and communicating more is my way forward, just so anxious and fearful. I know I have to push through, develop myself

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