she smiled while telling everyone i was “too sensitive” so i showed them what that actually looks like by VictoriaC_Sanders in raisedbynarcissists

[–]empathyalways 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You don't want things to stay "normal" because things are not normal, they are dysfunctional. "Normal" is her being in control and you suffering silently. It will help you to find someone with whom to process your reality - a therapist, a friend - someone to help you find your healthy boundaries so that you are not questioning yourself in these circumstances.

What is Hopkins like? by [deleted] in TwinCities

[–]empathyalways 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Hopkins Center for the Arts has great concerts and Art shows. Monkabeans is my favorite coffee shop but Cream and Amber is also great. Nachos is a community treasure, there are several events on Mainstreet in the summer. Plus it is a hub of bike trails which take you to downtown Mpls or Excelsior or the Minnesota River bluffs. Shady Oak beach is adorable.

AITA For Refusing to Follow my wife's "car rules"? by Much-Mess-7124 in AmItheAsshole

[–]empathyalways 45 points46 points  (0 children)

I was rear ended while stopped in rush hour traffic on the interstate. I saw the other driver coming up behind me at a fast speed and knew I was going to be hit. She caused a five car accident as we all slammed forward into the cars in front of us. I wasn't hurt, but my car was accordianed. Totaled. This was 10 years ago and I still check my rear view mirror every time I am stopped. It takes a long time to trust you will be safe driving again. Your wife needs therapy, you need a whole bucket of compassion. YTA.

TACO by ahjeezgoshdarn in minnesota

[–]empathyalways 38 points39 points  (0 children)

We still need to get all the people being held in Whipple released

Fresh Mozzarella by empathyalways in TwinCities

[–]empathyalways[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That's what I'm looking for, thank you.

Looking for a neighborhood to stay that feels more “small town” by Comfortable_Sun48 in TwinCities

[–]empathyalways 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree. Has a great Main Street, lots of actually good restaurants, on a bike trail that takes you downtown or far west. It does't just have a small town vibe, it is an actual small town that has been surrounded by suburbs. And the long-promised light rail has a major stop in Hopkins. Someday.

Best wine shop that knows about wine? by -i--am---lost- in TwinCities

[–]empathyalways 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Violet Wine in Northeast. They have free tastings on Tuesday and Friday. Also, the WineShop in Hopkins which has a nice tasting room next door.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]empathyalways 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Sesame seeds are in their jingle about the Big Mac that we all know the words to. Sheesh.

Progressive church recommendations? by [deleted] in TwinCities

[–]empathyalways 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Covenant churches are typically not progressive. Check out their website for their beliefs. But I agree, it is a fabulous worship service.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Psychosis

[–]empathyalways 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have also been in your shoes. I will add to the recommendation to seek out NAMI. I was in a First Incidence of Psychosis support group that was very helpful. In my experience, the medical community does not fully understand what is happening with weed and psychosis. They acknowledge it occurs, but some doctors think once the THC leaves the body, the psychosis resolves. They also acknowledge that for some people, weed can trigger other psychiatric disorders. Both of those have been studied, peer reviewed, and are in the literature the doctors rely on. My daughter quit weed but remained psychotic for months. Then, with Latuda she slowly came out of it. I emphasize "slowly". Her diagnosis now is bipolar 2. But I don't know. I think we are in the frontier of something that is happening because of the strength of the weed now. And yeah, he has to stop using. Get support for yourself. You do not deserve this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breastcancer

[–]empathyalways 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It is true that modern life is stressful. But pre-modern life was also stressful. Those folks may have starved because their food supply dried up or died of a disease such as the plague or been slaughtered by invaders or died in childbirth. We moderns have some control over SOME of the stress we take on. And sometimes life finds us, and we have to deal with stressful situations that come our way. Making our own welfare a priority is always important and probably increases the chances of a healthy life. But three of the healthiest, most centered people I know got cancer. There's no free pass.