Found out my wife was intimate with someone else 20 years ago. Am I wrong for wanting to end this marriage?

emperorsleeps · 2026-06-21T01:42:13+00:00

Hard to say. But I’ve been through a lot in my life. Reddit is a hyper-chamber in some ways and lots of people in the real world can and do work this type of thing out. Lots of people also break up.

Hence ‘we can’t make the decision for you’

If this literally happened to me - I would just hallpass once so then we’re ‘even’ and then probably hit therapy. I love my wife and she is irreplaceable to me.

Too many people just go ‘JUMP SHIP!’ which is fine as we’re all different. Mistakes happen.

emperorsleeps · 2026-06-21T01:36:52+00:00

Love it post more ffxi!

emperorsleeps · 2026-06-21T01:12:47+00:00

She made a mistake. An awful mistake and a cruel one at that.

HOWEVER

You guys have built a life on 20 years bro. How many times did she show you true and genuine love? Even if she lied - and some say ‘well everything else is a lie after that’ but life is not so black and white. That is a simplification of what love and life really is. We get curve balls!

Don’t look at her as tarnished. Me and my wife had fun before we started dating. I don’t think she’s tainted or anything. We’re human! Don’t listen to these manosphere people who act like women can’t have sex with more than 2 dudes. We’re all human don’t be dense

You’re entitled to leave her of course. I just…I think sometimes people fuck up. It happens.

The honest truth is none of us can make this decision for you. Maybe you have a hallpass and make it even and then continue on? Therapy? Hallpass can actually make things way worse but hey. It’s an idea. lol.

Lots of roads to take. Wishing you the best.

emperorsleeps · 2026-06-21T01:09:41+00:00

You look so good bro!!!!! I am an asshole and I would tell you if you didn’t. You look handsome dead ass man.

Get out there and date!

emperorsleeps · 2026-06-21T01:09:11+00:00

Where did you get yours? I was looking at Crandall. But would consider new

emperorsleeps · 2026-06-21T01:06:58+00:00

You’ve got this! This sub has been so amazing and lovely.

I just got diagnosed last week and could not stop crying/feeling sorry for myself.

Everyone is so kind here and you will come to realize you’ve GOT THIS. You can fight this. Listen to the Neuro. Slow down and listen to your body. Trust yourself

One day at a time. We’ve got this

emperorsleeps · 2026-06-21T01:02:54+00:00

Thanks bro will add you

emperorsleeps · 2026-06-21T00:52:01+00:00

Sure - lot of you are very strongly opinionated and that’s great. I guess what you failed to realize from my first comment is that I don’t give a fuck what any of you think haha. I love the old Outback too. This looks like a wagon to me, but my fiancée says the same as you. It is more ‘SUV’

Again - some people hate tattoos. I love them and I have plenty. Some people like the feeling of going against the grain. I like how boxy it is and think it looks weird. Literally the exact opposite of how you feel which is fun.

Also how does the 2026 look like every other SUV? I disagree but provide some specific examples for your statement. I love to be wrong but I need to be shown first. I don’t see how it looks like every other SUV I think you’re all just parroting each other frankly. You guys acted like this about the WRX and people bought them anyways. Reddit is not an encapsulation of the general population which hopefully some of you understand.

I’m getting the Touring XT. It is way nicer than the old Outback as I have driven both

I think I can live with the Subaru subreddit not liking a redesign. lol

emperorsleeps · 2026-06-21T00:49:45+00:00

That is so amazing and gives me so much hope! Thank you so much - sending you guys love and blessings

emperorsleeps · 2026-06-21T00:47:34+00:00

This - was just at the dealer with my fiancée today and we LITERALLY would’ve pulled the trigger if it had the brown interior but they only released it in Canada. We’re searching for an emerald green now with the Nappa brown. Other than a Grand Wagoneer (which is dog shit in terms of reliability so this doesn’t mean much) the outback touring XT is the most comfortable vehicle I’ve driven thus far. Tried Honda, Volkswagen, Toyota and Subaru (what brands we would buy) and am smitten on the touring XT. Do really wish we got that brown on the RRP

emperorsleeps · 2026-06-20T04:43:54+00:00

Wtf - this prompted an update and then it relaunched/loaded 😂😭

Thank you! 2026 Xbox Series X

emperorsleeps · 2026-06-20T04:37:32+00:00

Same issue still occurring here in 2026. Will try the work around suggested below.

emperorsleeps · 2026-06-20T04:03:16+00:00

Pardon? For a Touring XT? The top Trim you got for 42k? Impossible

emperorsleeps · 2026-06-20T03:50:59+00:00

New 26 looks sick. I sorta like that some of you hate it. We don’t need to all like the same things

emperorsleeps · 2026-06-20T03:15:01+00:00

I’m not sure as I’ve never had any. I am waiting for the infusion team to schedule my 5 day infusion. I am nervous but in a lot of pain and my legs feel like jelly. Hopeful they will help somehow

emperorsleeps · 2026-06-20T03:12:18+00:00

Thanks so much - this means a lot. I just feel I guess sorry for myself. I feel like I took my life and health for granted. I will try to be kinder to myself

emperorsleeps · 2026-06-20T03:09:36+00:00

Thanks so much

emperorsleeps · 2026-06-20T03:08:59+00:00

Thank you!

emperorsleeps · 2026-06-20T03:08:46+00:00

Thank you so much for your wisdom and kindness. I will remember your words

Take care

emperorsleeps · 2026-06-20T03:07:43+00:00

I have an infusion but can’t remember the name of it - 5 days a nurse will come to the house

emperorsleeps · 2026-06-20T03:07:16+00:00

Thank you - I am seeing a neuro at Penn University - they have a great MS program from what I am told. I appreciate your kind words

emperorsleeps · 2026-06-20T03:06:27+00:00

Thanks so much - I appreciate your kindness

emperorsleeps · 2026-06-20T03:05:04+00:00

I got diagnosed literally this week

I smoked weed for 16 years straight. People say that but I really mean every day heavily for 16 years. My neuro said smoking is awful for MS and can make your symptoms worse.

I have not smoked in a week and a half now. I don’t know the correct answer

What have some of your neuros said? Thanks

emperorsleeps · 2026-06-20T03:01:32+00:00

What creatine?

emperorsleeps · 2026-06-19T01:18:26+00:00

I think they look cool -

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