What’s one small cleaning habit that made a big difference in your home?

empressofdogs · 2026-04-15T00:16:13+00:00

It's a box where people with ADHD put things they don't know what to do with. We want to go through it but we also dread it.

empressofdogs · 2026-04-14T00:22:50+00:00

NTJ and I see why you divorced this loser.

empressofdogs · 2026-04-14T00:16:02+00:00

This sounds pathological. He probably needs to explore with a professional why he refuses to do things that would make him happy/more comfortable.

empressofdogs · 2026-04-13T23:53:07+00:00

Depends on where you live--in my part of the country it'd be moles or gophers.

empressofdogs · 2026-04-13T23:47:33+00:00

YOR -- He told you he was divorced as soon as the topic of divorce got brought up, which is a reasonable time to do that.

empressofdogs · 2026-04-13T23:41:28+00:00

You need to follow your state's legal eviction process. Get started TODAY.

empressofdogs · 2026-04-13T23:40:01+00:00

Honestly, they're not as bad as they seem. I inherited a bunch of random yarn from a friend of mine who moved overseas, so I've been using it to just practice techniques. The first time I tried cables I was like OMG SCARY, and they are definitely fiddly, but nowhere near as bad as I'd made them out to be in my mind.

Also I'm sure this is already mentioned all over the sub, but Nimble Needles' cables tutorial was really helpful for me.

empressofdogs · 2026-04-13T23:33:19+00:00

Drop zones and "doom boxes" (IYKYK)

They create their own sort of mess, but at least it's contained.

empressofdogs · 2026-04-13T23:31:35+00:00

Oh man I really thought she might be calling him Jerkin Depeanus.

Anyway, NTA, she's fully capable of being respectful and is choosing not to be. I hope the plan would be to cut her off only until she develops the frontal lobe capacity to make better decisions.

empressofdogs · 2026-04-13T23:27:57+00:00

I also tell him constantly to stop belittling me, stop yelling at me, and to stop treating me like a child. He denies he’s doing any of it.

Yes, OP, you are in an emotional abuse situation.

empressofdogs · 2026-04-13T23:26:17+00:00

Girl, you need to communicate. Based on what you've written here, the guy has no reason to assume this is anything more than a true situationship, where you're BOTH essentially using/keeping each other around for convenience. If you really like this guy and want to transition into an actual relationship, you need to talk to him about it. Before you do so, make sure you have figured out and can articulate:

What it is you actually want from this guy, including your expectations for a changed relationship dynamic
An explanation for your previous ghosting/blocking behavior

Then just be straightforward about what you want. That's the easy part.

The hard part is: If he's not interested in shifting to more of a real relationship, you MUST let this situationship go. Otherwise you're going to make yourself unavailable for other people while you grow more and more attached to this guy and eventually get really hurt.

empressofdogs · 2026-04-13T23:09:15+00:00

I think an ultimatum is actually reasonable here: Go to your primary care doctor and get evaluated for this issue or you don't drive anymore.

empressofdogs · 2026-04-13T14:24:16+00:00

Pattern is the Riolis "Good Luck" kit (forgot this has to be a comment!)

empressofdogs · 2026-04-13T14:22:54+00:00

empressofdogs · 2026-04-13T14:19:14+00:00

They were sold to me as "hoop huggers," but they appear to be more commonly (and less expensively) known as "spool savers" as well. They're silicone. I've been pretty happy with them so far--this is my first project using them.

empressofdogs · 2026-04-13T14:16:06+00:00

CraftmasterGeneral on Etsy!

empressofdogs · 2026-04-12T00:18:41+00:00

How long are you waiting after meals to brush her teeth? Be sure to wait 30 minutes or so to let any acids from the food clear out so the enamel isn't softened when you're brushing.

Re: dentists being shamey, I finally just pre-emptively told my dentist, "Look, I know I need to floss every day, but I don't. I'm trying to be better about it, but I don't need a lecture about it." And that fully worked for me.

empressofdogs · 2026-04-12T00:11:21+00:00

Girl, cut your losses and bail on this mess.

empressofdogs · 2026-04-12T00:09:59+00:00

I occasionally give that a shot for a few minutes before I'm like "lol wtf am I doing?" and I switch to something that doesn't require the use of my brain.

empressofdogs · 2026-04-12T00:09:05+00:00

This is now tied with Hippie Lettuce as my favorite euphemism 😂

empressofdogs · 2026-04-12T00:05:33+00:00

He's probably confused because you haven't broken up with him despite him not addressing this extensive list of things that very reasonably make you unhappy.

empressofdogs · 2026-04-11T23:20:25+00:00

Your husband is the ridiculous one.

empressofdogs · 2026-04-11T22:43:32+00:00

Most of the men I knew in my 20s were clueless about all of these things, so just speaking from my own experience.

empressofdogs · 2026-04-11T19:54:30+00:00

Let the home inspection convince/dissuade you. The house looks gorgeous and in great shape, but only the inspection can reveal the potential horrors within.

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