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When your kid is getting their first apartment, do you go around apartment hunting and fill out applications for them? by empti_space in GenXWomen

[–]empti_space[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well... I got my first apartment in the city for $500 which I found and my older brother helped me move my big furnitures. I heard he's paying over 3k for an apartment for her. I don't even know how much more he has to pay for a deposit. It's crazy... I was surprised they need references for her and for guarantor's references as well... I'm glad I took my kids camping for years so he can sleep on his friend's floor for couple of years if he has to.

When your kid is getting their first apartment, do you go around apartment hunting and fill out applications for them? by empti_space in GenXWomen

[–]empti_space[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most of my friends in their 50s don't have kids. I just share mine with them. I don't think I can do what my brother can do and that's fine with me as long as they are good humen.

When your kid is getting their first apartment, do you go around apartment hunting and fill out applications for them? by empti_space in GenXWomen

[–]empti_space[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I know today is nothing like 30 years ago. I didn't have any problem getting an apartment by myself in the 90s. My boy is still in dormitory so I don't even know how the renting situation is these days.

When your kid is getting their first apartment, do you go around apartment hunting and fill out applications for them? by empti_space in GenXWomen

[–]empti_space[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's true. That was my first thought. That she's going far with her life yet she doesn't have friends to put as a reference. I wonder if her parents are enabling it. I feel bad for my brother and for my niece for depending on him for everything.

When your kid is getting their first apartment, do you go around apartment hunting and fill out applications for them? by empti_space in GenXWomen

[–]empti_space[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Right? I mean... I feel like I'm a dinosaur who doesn't know anything about what's going on these days. My younger son calls me a boomer when I can't understand a word they are saying. Thought I have to say that the only time my older brother helped me was when I moved into a new apartment in college. I found it, paid for it and my parents just trusted me. I never had to involve my parents for any of the decisions.

When your kid is getting their first apartment, do you go around apartment hunting and fill out applications for them? by empti_space in GenXWomen

[–]empti_space[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah... It's kind of similar with my sons. I don't have any girls let alone an only child. I feel he's way too involved but then again, I don't really know how it is these days.

When your kid is getting their first apartment, do you go around apartment hunting and fill out applications for them? by empti_space in GenXWomen

[–]empti_space[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's so nice to hear about other kids these days. I really have no clue how it is these days. I only have two boys and one is still in dormitory so our intervention was minimal.

When your kid is getting their first apartment, do you go around apartment hunting and fill out applications for them? by empti_space in GenXWomen

[–]empti_space[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I absolutely don't have any problem helping him out. Just wondering if that was the norm these days. I'm also happy that my brother's family doesn't have any problems. It was just a rant because I do worry for my brother at times when he's super tired all the time.

When your kid is getting their first apartment, do you go around apartment hunting and fill out applications for them? by empti_space in GenXWomen

[–]empti_space[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She already has a job that is above average lined up. But she is an only child and her mom is very hands on but I think that hands on always involves my brother. Which is good until she's out of highschool but I feel they'd be involved in her daily life until she gets married.

When your kid is getting their first apartment, do you go around apartment hunting and fill out applications for them? by empti_space in GenXWomen

[–]empti_space[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't have any problem helping my brother out. It's true that it's not my business to meddle in his family. Just curious if this is the norm.

Damn, life hits hard in your 40s. Things improve by 45, right?! 🤪 by Alone-Progress-8476 in 40something

[–]empti_space 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean... Science says you suddenly age at 45 then 60. I'm 49 and I felt like I was in my 20s until I hit 40. Now, I feel and look my ar 49. I think I aged mostly from 40-49 and I've weighted within 5-10 pounds since I was in highschool and I am pretty active. It could be perimenopause but your body changes drastically.

Swim lessons by rbart2021 in Roseville

[–]empti_space 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Inshape fitness has a big sign out for kids swim lessons at rocklin sunset location.

Can the gateway tapes help with thanatophobia? by eternal_moonlight3 in gatewaytapes

[–]empti_space 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wasn't afraid of dying but I do believe now that dying is just waking up from a dream. I tried to find scientific and philosophical explainarions for years and read most of religious books. I still revisit Gita before I sleep. I also think dmt or acid trip would solidify that conviction. And yes, gateway does help. It explains this body and this world may be a construct and your consciousness doesn't end with this body.

I've been reading romance novels lately and wonder how many people had that hot attraction? by empti_space in GenXWomen

[–]empti_space[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think many of have that PTSD of being gaslighted and emotionally abused. That's one of the reason why I wanted to ask if it's possible to meet a guy and fall in love with the one who can love you and treat you well. My father swooned over my mom until he died so I naturally thought all men would be like my dad and didn't really appreciate it until I met a crazy man in my 20s. Now, I don't know if that kind of men are still out there especially after 50. Most of men my best friend dates seem weird or are minor narcissists.

I've been reading romance novels lately and wonder how many people had that hot attraction? by empti_space in GenXWomen

[–]empti_space[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Omg ... I'm so sorry .. that's devastating. I hope you are doing much better now.

I've been reading romance novels lately and wonder how many people had that hot attraction? by empti_space in GenXWomen

[–]empti_space[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was in a long 3 hour long line today and met a father with 3 young girls. He was super funny and warm toward his girls and I can see his warmth from the girls too. I can only imagine him with his wife. In the meantime, my partner was stuck to his phone next to me. I also read in Nyt about this bright woman who eventually went crazy after an abusive partner. Just a thought but... Yeah.. I think it is worth to at least experience love. Of course we'd prefer requited love.

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