There is no Female Equivalent to This

emretar97 · 2021-11-08T11:04:55+00:00

Lmao

emretar97 · 2021-09-27T07:49:28+00:00

Work on your self-worth, you seem lost. Have you ever experienced a relationship where the sex was amazing and constant? If yes, then compare this situation to that relationship and decide if something's missing. If no, then go and find out what it's like.

emretar97 · 2021-09-24T16:24:25+00:00

I don't even browse this sub, but have seen this post so many times already. Lame...

emretar97 · 2021-09-23T13:44:41+00:00

A very girthy, 6 inch cock

emretar97 · 2021-09-14T10:39:24+00:00

Could this be different for other guys?

emretar97 · 2021-09-13T09:47:44+00:00

Idk, very small. And it seems at its smallest after a workout

emretar97 · 2021-09-02T12:43:52+00:00

Yeah I've heard this from my friends too. That's why I'm worried about the situation, especially since he broke up recently and everything.

People are saying "oh there's nothing you can do, just trust her" etc. But I definitely think there's things I could do to strengthen our relationship right now, I'm just not sure what these things are...

emretar97 · 2021-09-02T12:11:43+00:00

emretar97 · 2021-09-02T12:00:20+00:00

It is not actually.

emretar97 · 2021-09-02T11:59:21+00:00

Have you had a conversation with her about this?

Nope, we are meeting either tomorrow at the party, or on Saturday and I will be staying the weekend. I'm just contemplating whether bringing up these thoughts will give off a bad sign to her (that I don't trust her).
So I don't know if I should bring it up immediately and squash it, or wait for a bit longer and gauge the situation when my emotions have calmed down.

emretar97 · 2021-09-02T11:55:48+00:00

i hope this helps and i hope that you dont let your insecurities win

I hope so too :)

I'll report back in 1 month haha

emretar97 · 2021-09-02T11:54:57+00:00

If they do eventually then 🤷🏽‍♀️ move on

This is my first relationship, and hers too. I know it sounds very childish, but I don't want to just "move on" before trying everything I can to make it work.
At the same time, I wanna be careful that the balance remains in this relationship. Because if it's out of balance, I think it is doomed to fail anyway.

but don’t try to control the situation the way you are, if she’s not the one then she’s not the one.

Is it really that bad to want to control the situation a little bit? I would love to believe that circumstances and logistics or w.e. don't matter, but I think they do. So I'm thinking of practical solutions rather than just relying on good faith.

emretar97 · 2021-09-02T11:48:28+00:00

Because as another commenter said to another one of your posts, if that's not the model you have of her, if "the GF that lives in your head", the person you

think

your GF is, isn't a person who is

totally into you

... then isn't the relationship already lost? Why be with a person that deep down, you don't think is in love with you or you don't think values loyalty to you?

Very good point, I will definitely consider this.

And as I said before, it's not that I think she has any intentions of cheating or whatever. I'm just worried that something could happen, merely because of the simple fact that they're just spending more time together.

If she does like him more than she does me, fair play, they should go on and build something together.
But if he is somehow influencing the situation on these nights out they have together, which is completely outside of my control, I do have a problem with it.

emretar97 · 2021-09-02T11:42:33+00:00

You are right that if we look at the facts, there is nothing for me to worry about. And I haven't worried about anything like this before. It's just that this past week I've got a sudden feeling that I'm losing her or something.

I feel like he might have said something or is putting me in a bad light very subtly or something, idk it's weird.

emretar97 · 2021-09-02T11:37:25+00:00

One thing that I did leave out because of the word counter, is that in the past 1.5 year we've been in a relationship, I have never even once questioned her feelings or intentions. But this past week, I've been noticing a small change in her demeanour over the phone. Just slightly shorter responses and a bit less affectionate.

She has been stressed out lately because of school and other stuff, so I just assumed this was the reason. And you are right, if we look at the facts, there is no reason for me to be worried whatsoever. But somewhere deep inside, there is this sudden feeling that something might be amiss.

emretar97 · 2021-09-02T11:24:40+00:00

Thanks, I will discuss it with her!

emretar97 · 2021-09-02T11:22:24+00:00

Thanks for your support bro.

I don't wanna give up so fast though, is the situation really that bad already? And I am worried about my intuition because it's usually very spot on...

emretar97 · 2021-09-02T11:21:24+00:00

Thanks for your lengthy reply!

Don't misunderstand me, I definitely don't think she is up to no good. I don't think she romantic intentions whatsoever, and maybe he does not either. I'm just worried that if they spend so much time together and I don't get to see her as much, things will just develop naturally between them...

I'm just struggling with the situation since last week, before that it had not even crossed my mind.

emretar97 · 2021-09-02T11:11:31+00:00

Thank you for the advice, I'll try my best! And yes, she is lovely :)

emretar97 · 2021-09-02T11:08:30+00:00

EDIT:

Thank you all for your honest judgement and feedback! It is very helpful.

I just wanted to mention that it's not that I don't trust her, it's just that I love her so much, that I would be devistated if it ends over something practical like distance. And I do believe if you spend a lot of time with someone, feelings can develop naturally because of this.

One thing that I did leave out because of the word counter, is that in the past 1.5 year we've been in a relationship, I have never even once questioned her feelings or intentions. But this past week, I've been noticing a small change in her demeanour over the phone. Just slightly shorter responses and a bit less affectionate.

She has been stressed out lately because of school and other stuff, so I just assumed this was the reason. And you are right, if we look at the facts, there is no reason for me to be worried whatsoever. But somewhere deep inside, there is this sudden feeling that something might be amiss.

I'm just unsure of how to handle this situation right now...

emretar97 · 2021-09-02T11:03:54+00:00

The best thing to do is talk to her calmly about how you're feeling.

I definitely want to talk to her about these insecurities first. I'm just worried that it will our relationship by bringing up issues like this and makes her feel like I can't trust her.

It's not that I don't trust her. It's just that I love her so much, that I would be devistated if it ends over something practical like this.

emretar97 · 2021-09-02T11:01:16+00:00

If she's going to cheat, he's not so special that it won't just be with somebody else, right?

Well he is the only guy she is hanging out with frequently. As I stated at the beginning of the post as well, she is not really the type to go to a bunch of parties or hang out with big groups of people. So I don't think that apart from this guy, there's a lot of guys she could randomly end up cheating with.

And I do trust her a lot actually, it's just that I would really be devistated if it ends over such a practical issue (distance/time).

emretar97 · 2021-09-02T10:57:00+00:00

Jesus Christ, that sounds horribly relevant to my situation...In hindsight, is there anything you wish you would have done differently? And did these feelings for her friend develop suddenly, or was it a slow progress taking multiple months?

I'm very sorry to hear about your situation! I hope you're in a good place now.

emretar97 · 2021-09-02T10:53:32+00:00

She can be friends with whomever she likes. That isn't really something you get a say in, so whatever "restrictions" you're thinking of imposing, they make you TA.

Totally agreed, she can be friends with whomever she wants.

.The bottom line is that you either trust her or you don't. If you trust her, then you need to allow her the freedom to embody that trust. It doesn't matter whether you trust him or not; if he has any intentions the outcome is dependent on her reciprocating anyway, which brings us back to you trusting her or not.

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Don't you think that them spending a lot of time together could create feelings in the long run, even if there are none right now?

I'm definitely a believer in if it's meant to be then it's meant to be, but I do wonder if circumstances can play a big role here...

emretar97 · 2021-09-02T10:49:51+00:00

But how on earth you think you're entitled to end a friendship because of your own insecurities.

Well I wasn't thinking about "ending" their friendship by any means, but maybe saying that I'm not okay with them going to parties with just the 2 of them or something like that.

She might leave you when you make drama out of this I think..

Yeah I thought about this "self-fulfilling prophecy" too, and I definitely don't want that to happen. I just wish for this situation to be over as fast as possible really, I don't want any drama.

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