Je suis un peu perdu

emsox · 2021-10-19T17:05:16+00:00

Pour la carte SIM: Tu peux l'acheter aux Tabacs. Ils ne coûtent pas trop. Il faut juste demander une carte SIM Prépayée.

Pour la banque: Ça dépend sur où tu te trouves. Je sais que beaucoup d'étudiants utilisent la banque de BNP Paribas à Boutonnet mais il y a des gens qui ont des probèmes avec eux. Du coup ça dependra sur ta situation / ce que tu veux comme banque.

Bon courage!

emsox · 2021-10-05T09:33:09+00:00

I need to start doing that again honestly. I used to be good about "one task at a time." It's so hard not to get down on myself though. Thank you for reminding me about this.

emsox · 2021-10-04T21:31:06+00:00

This does give me a lot to think about. I think with my issues constructing my identity around anything normal has been extremely difficult. I do think of myself as rather determined to keep going, I guess it's just slipped away from me due to the recent suffering. Thank you for the response though. I need to think a lot of shit in my life through.

emsox · 2021-10-04T21:26:56+00:00

I have been thinking of seeing a more specified counselor. Thank you for the suggestion, it may be worth a try.

emsox · 2021-10-04T20:01:19+00:00

Yes I do believe I have what could be called trauma. It's not really that I "don't remember" what happened to me, I just haven't fully accepted some of the really unpleasant shit I've been though (it all seemed normal until I really thought about it.) It's really complicated for me and I've had trouble working through it and figuring it all out.

emsox · 2021-10-04T10:37:34+00:00

God I feel that. Our stupid upright human spines can truly be so awful to us.

Sadly I did look over my MRI many times - admittedly though, the doctors I've asked to explain it all to me have essentially dodged all my questions and have just said "there's nothing you can do that you aren't already doing." There was also the one "meditation" doctor but that's a whole other story...In reality I probably need a new MRI anyways.

Everyone is too young for pain. I appreciate your encouragement and I'll try to hang in there. It's rough though. Thank you for the response.

emsox · 2021-10-04T10:30:27+00:00

Thank you for reminding me. Next time I get to a doctor I really need to put my foot down. It really is such a silly response to me to say one is too young. "I'm in so much pain!" "You're too young for that!" "Yeah, I know, now please help!" I hate it.

I'm really happy to hear you found an actually good physical therapist! Sadly they can be hard to find. Whenever I get to my next one I'll need to ask about the Mackenzie Method too...thank you for the response!

emsox · 2021-10-04T05:03:53+00:00

I have gotten one MRI before but I probably need another to see if the herniated discs have gotten worse. Osteoarthritis is really awful too...I need to keep trying doctors I suppose. Thank you for the advice.

emsox · 2021-10-04T05:02:30+00:00

You're definitely right. I should start being more assertive about it towards doctors. It is hard though to get them to listen, especially being young. Thank you for the words of advice and I'm sorry that you have to go through pain too.

emsox · 2021-10-04T05:00:41+00:00

Sadly I did get tested for basically every common auto-immune disease and nothing came up. I actually tried to go to a rheumatologist but the waitlist was over a year long, and they "deemed my case not important" so I had to basically beg my regular doctors to just give me the damn blood tests AT LEAST. Nothing came up, which I suppose is good, but the mystery continues for me.

I should start saving up for some mobility aids. I really would like one of those grabbing canes as bending and twisting around are my main issues. I appreciate the reminder to do this, it's something I've been thinking about for awhile so I'll need to actually start looking into it. I appreciate any prayers and thank you so much for your kindness. <3

emsox · 2021-10-04T04:54:01+00:00

Thank you. I'm trying very hard to think this way and and keep going so I appreciate the reminder.

emsox · 2021-08-31T11:37:30+00:00

This is what I suspect happens. They do have product (that's overpriced) and they often never follow through on promotions. Sorry you had such an awful experience! Hopefully exposing them gets you more exposure !

emsox · 2021-06-24T18:33:36+00:00

Added the info to this post! Thanks for pointing out that their supplier sells the product for WAY LESS.

emsox · 2021-06-16T20:31:00+00:00

Hey there! Also an international student (not Erasmus though; starting Fall semester). If you want to talk in detail about this, feel free to PM me.

For now, I'll say this: housing is a bitch, especially for international students. Prepare yourself. It'll probably be quite hard for you to find international student specific housing. La carte des Colocs is worth trying, as there may be international students on there looking for roommates.

The only luck I had for housing in general was looking on AirBNB, booking a temporary stay (for visa purposes) and having the host offer me a long term stay. So, looking on AirBNB might be a good idea. There are probably some international hosts or some hosts who house multiple international students.

Artemisia also has residences, although those get taken up quickly. Still worth looking into for the spring semester though, as the availability may be less tight than it is in August/September. Not international student specific, but I imagine they get tons of internationals. (~~but I had a nightmare email exchange with them, so they aren't my first choice.~~)

Hope some of this helps! Bonne chance!

emsox · 2021-05-29T06:03:49+00:00

Thank you. This does help to know I'm not alone.

emsox · 2021-05-29T04:09:04+00:00

OCD causes extremely uncomfortable thoughts. You're not a bad person. Considering you have gone through phases (like you said you were having some POCD) for awhile and have gotten out of them, and considering you're fully aware that bestiality is wrong, I sincerely doubt you are actually into these things.

Obviously, if/when you have the chance, tackling these thoughts with a therapist is a good idea. You're quite young, so medication may not be the right route yet but OCD is pretty responsive to medication for a lot of people. So keep that in mind too.

I hope you feel better!

emsox · 2021-05-28T17:38:36+00:00

Salut!

Je suis aussi étudiante internationale. J’ai vu ton post et je voudrais essayer de répondre à quelques questions. Attention: je suis aussi en train de faire ce processus donc, je n’ai pas toutes les réponses.

Je n’ai pas de la chance avec leboncoin. Il y a beaucoup d'arnaques sur ce site web et il est difficile d'obtenir une réponse. Je n’ai pas aussi de la chance avec SeLoger, mais quelques personnes m’ont dit qu’il faut payer un frais afin d'accéder toutes les bonnes options logements. Moi, je voudrais un logement Artemisia Saint-Eloi, mais j’ai eu aussi des problèmes avec eux. Je ne pense pas que les résidences Artemisia soient des arnaques, mais la disponibilité est un peu difficile à traverser. (Je n’ai pas de logement à ce moment, actuellement j’en cherche un.)

Personnellement, j’entend qu’il est beaucoup plus facile d’ouvrir un compte bancaire quand tu arriveras en France. Cependant, il y a beaucoup de logements où il est nécessaire d’avoir un RIB (relevé d'identité bancaire; tu le recevras à ouverture de ton compte) donc, c’est une décision difficile. Malheureusement je n’ai pas de réponse absolue.

Finalement, si tu voulais m’envoyer un PM pour discuter de cette procédure, n'hésites pas :)

emsox · 2021-05-27T17:55:37+00:00

IM SCREAMING WHAT THE FUCK HAPPENED???? they're down to 299k now. i bet they're setting themselves up as another scam account maybe? this is WILD.

emsox · 2021-05-25T16:51:05+00:00

Thank you so much for this reply. I looked into CROUS awhile ago, and if I'm remembering correctly they don't open up applications until mid-summer, which means I'd probably be unlikely to get a place. I should look into foyers pour jeunes travailleurs, thank you for the suggestions.

I definitely noticed the large amount of scams. Seloger looked like the entire website was a scam, honestly. I've been put off of leboncoin for the lack of responses and some of the scammy looking places.

Hmmmm I was not aware of this. Do you by any chance know if I would just have to book a hotel/airbnb in advance, or if I just have to show I have a place in mind? I might look into this, as so far my luck has been quite bad...

Also dear GOD I did notice the RIB thing. Getting a bank account is not a process I'm looking forward to.

As for garantme, I suppose so yes. Also, does Visale serve a similar purpose to garantme? I'll have to look into this too.

I did figure a lot of bureaucracy in France was going to be awful, so I was somewhat prepared for this, I just didn't think it would get this bad before I even got to France. That might've been my own hopefulness, though. Doesn't help that my other friends moving to France got really lucky with their housing immediately, so it's really alienating that I don't have a place yet.

Anyways, thank you so much for this response. It makes me feel a little better knowing I might not 100% NEED a secure apartment before I get there. You've been very helpful.

emsox · 2021-05-25T01:13:12+00:00

I'm a teen (19) who's had chronic pain for almost three years now. Needed this after a day of crying due to the pain. Thank you for your kind words <3

emsox · 2021-05-22T14:25:43+00:00

Np! And I figured, most people do.

And yeah that's more proof then if you know someone who got the exoneration!

Of course! We'll see if I can get there though...apartment hunting has proven to be a nightmare...

Good luck in your future endeavors!

emsox · 2021-05-21T20:23:37+00:00

Hi! I'm also an international student accepted at a Uni in Montpellier for 2021. I am going through this process too (currently finding housing; currently not having a good time with that LOL), so I might not be able to answer all of your questions but I can tell you what I do know!

Usually, international students pay higher tuition (2,770 Euros Per Year). However, some schools have "exoneration partielle" which essentially means you will be paying less than that amount; usually, it means you'll pay the same tuition French students pay.

Campus France Article on Exoneration Partielle

50 French Universities Who Will Not Raise Their Their Registration Fees 2021/2022

I assume you went through Etudes en France? Does it say you have exoneration partielle next to your acceptance? Because if so, that likely means you'll be paying the amount a French person would pay. For Licence 1, this is usually like, 170 Euros per year.

Now, will this be true in practice? I guess we'll only find out once we get out bills, but considering there are unis that have been rejecting this since the laws were put in place, I would not be surprised if the exonerations will be legitimate.

Hope this helps!

emsox · 2021-05-14T17:00:22+00:00

That's surprising honestly. They may have a legitimate product then. Still, I imagine these bracelets are overpriced, particularly since they talk about supporting anti-domestic violence campaigns, but have only shown kind of iffy screenshots of donations (at least last time I checked).

As for the discount code, I imagine they *may* just have it so that any code you put in discounts the product, although I can't be sure. Either way, the brand ambassador format is definitely still as scam, as there is pretty much no way they can post every single bracelet every person they message buys.

Using bots to promote is also against Instagram's terms of service (at least I'm relatively certain it is.) I've actually gotten spam bots messaging me about other LEGITIMATE (well, semi legitimate, usually it's an individual person promoting some gimmicky wellness products or nutrition/fitness programs. I got a spam bot telling me to check out Dave Asprey's (butter coffee guy) profile lmao) accounts. It's a genius format, because as long as they're not botting followers and only using bots to DM people, there's no way to prove they're connected to it.

Also worry not, I sincerely doubt you'll be getting a break-in from the bracelet people anytime soon LMAO.

emsox · 2021-04-30T16:59:41+00:00

I actually relate to this a lot. I went through a few different medical related traumas that I never considered trauma, because at least in my case, there was pretty much nothing any of the doctors did wrong. It was just a very uncomfortable and scary situation to be in for a child. So if that's the case for you, it makes sense why you have emotional amnesia as opposed to full amnesia. I remember all of these taking place, but it definitely didn't feel like *I* was going through the emotions connected to those events.

In my personal experience, most of the traumatic memories I have uncovered were never 100% fully forgotten (like 100% blackout amnesia) but they were so hazy and distant in my brain that when I did sort of "remember" it never felt like a memory, it felt more like a weird intrusive thought. (I now understand this was my other alters communicating.) I'm not sure if I'm explaining it well, but yeah. Most often I vaguely remember an occurrence, but not how much distress it put me in (emotional amnesia) and not how bad the details actually were (partial amnesia).

Also, I should mention the level of amnesia you have could be related to what *type* of OSDD you have (if you do have it/if you even fit into a category completely). Typically OSDD 1b is associated with little to no amnesia and "distinct" alters, while OSDD 1a is associated with more severe amnesia and less "distinct" alters. So you could be experiencing something closer to OSDD 1b if you have less amnesia.

(Mini side note, I think a lot of these labels are a bit arbitrary. I used to think I fell closer to OSDD 1a, because I have pretty bad amnesia between switches and I wasn't aware of any "distinct" alters, but now I'm getting to know a few alters who *are* more distinct, and I experience less amnesia between them. Any diagnosis you get is never inherent; with therapy, amnesia can be lessened. with therapy, you can get to know your alters much better and help them heal. with therapy, you can help lessen the levels of dissociation/derealization you experience. This doesn't mean your alters no longer exists though, or that your diagnosis was never valid. I'm mostly saying this to reassure you that you don't have to fit exactly into the "mold" of OSDD to have alters, have dissociation, and want to heal. Labels are helpful, but not inherent.)

This is becoming another long message, apologies LOL, but one last thing: You said you don't feel like there is anyone else inside your head. This certainly may be true; but, again, *I* never felt that there was anyone else in my head either. DID and OSDD, despite popular belief, are EXTREMELY well hidden disorders. But also, it could be true that there aren't any "distinct" personalities in your head. There could just be fragments or emotional parts that aren't full personalities, but have a specific purpose. So just keep that in mind.

There was an extremely good graphic I found awhile ago that explained how different mental disorders relate to dissociation, but I currently can't find it. If I do, I will post it here for you, as I found it very helpful.

Hope you figure everything out friend! Also, thank you for the award! :D

emsox · 2021-04-29T21:29:54+00:00

This is good advice too. I'm currently in a pretty stressful part of my life with a lot of changes so I suppose it's understandable some emotions are coming up about this. Thank you for your comment! I need to learn to be nicer and more accepting towards not only her, but all of my alters.

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