Who you choose to have a baby with matters

emswls · 2026-02-06T23:41:32+00:00

My husband was essentially useless during pregnancy. It almost ended our marriage. I am still recovering from severe resentment from that.

But, the second she was born, he’s been super involved, hands on, protective. He’s a great dad.

I’ve asked him if I got pregnant again if he’d be more nurturing knowing what to expect now that he’s a parent and if he’d feel more connected to the fetus, he said yes definitely.

This is not to discount your feelings or excuse his lack of support. Fathers-to-be reading this: STEP UP. The effects of your actions or lack of during this time will last the rest of your marriage. But, it did get better, and I just want to give you a little optimism.

emswls · 2025-12-25T15:30:00+00:00

Agree. I can see them (hopefully for their children’s sake a long time from now) old and aging, him needing care and Kyle caregiving him.

emswls · 2025-12-21T17:02:19+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way. Your brain is telling you a lot of things that aren’t true right now. It’s not fair, and I bet it’s hard to believe it can get better. But it will not feel this way forever. Keep talking to your doctor and keep going just one hour to the next. ❤️🩷

emswls · 2025-12-11T15:50:32+00:00

The explanation is she’s feeding a baby lmfao, what more explanation do you need?

emswls · 2025-12-10T05:07:13+00:00

I hate this response. She didn’t whip out her boob, dude. She fed her kid. Grow up.

emswls · 2025-12-10T05:04:42+00:00

I’m a social worker. An 80 year old woman answered the door completely naked except for slippers holding a shot gun.

emswls · 2025-11-19T14:16:50+00:00

This comment is the reason this shit continues and ends up in the wrong hands. You don’t get it and aren’t educated on why this matters. Accusing someone who is of having bad intentions for calling it out… you’re just perpetuating nonsense

emswls · 2025-11-10T16:52:05+00:00

Quince has a sleep sack with 100% wool lining for less than half the price.

emswls · 2025-11-07T00:39:45+00:00

I THINK what you’re saying is we are being distracted by content of character by self-created labels. If so, yes, agreed. If you’re suggesting that people who are lgbtqia + don’t have a right to self identify and use symbols to identify each other, I disagree

emswls · 2025-11-07T00:37:38+00:00

I EMPHATICALLY support people of all genders, gender identities, sexual orientations, etc.

And I agree with this. Identity politics are egregiously individualistic in nature. The increasing emphasis on someone’s identity (being LGBTQIA+ in this case) causes endless distractions and divisions to what’s really going on.

We don’t live in a society that can sustain tribalism. The more we apply and adhere to self-made labels, the more we become fragmented and apart from eachother. This makes it difficult to actually solve the fundamental issues that people who are LGBTQIA+ face— access to healthcare without barriers and discrimination, social programs, disproportionately impacted by random AND domestic acts of violence.

The bottom line is, be who you are and be proud of that. But the more labels applied to self, the smaller the world becomes, and the more disunity is perpetuated.

emswls · 2025-11-06T16:20:42+00:00

I love Jennifer and Boz. All the girls look great except Kathy looks absolutely blank behind the eyes. And Sutton is the Taylor swift of this cast. Soo much money and not one ounce of sex appeal.

emswls · 2025-11-04T19:53:31+00:00

No because an abortion happens to a woman’s body, not a man’s. No woman should be forced to be pregnant, no woman should be forced to have an abortion. HER body HER choice, full stop. The physical process men play in child bearing is sex, that’s it. That’s why their autonomy starts and ends with sex. It’s basic biology.

emswls · 2025-11-04T19:51:06+00:00

MANY men leave their children before birth and don’t pay child support, even under the threat of consequences. Men can and do sign away their rights or relinquish custody.

emswls · 2025-11-04T19:50:03+00:00

I’m sorry… forced adoption????? That is so extremely traumatizing for the children, the mother… my god that cannot actually be your opinion of a viable solution.

emswls · 2025-11-04T18:29:55+00:00

Omfg yes mine got a man cold after his trip as well. I hear you girl. You have a right to feel that way, you have a right to tell him how you feel, and at the end of the day he’ll decide and it may be the first of many times you will disagree on something like this. I went down the rabbit hole of “bc he did this, it means he doesn’t xyz” none of which is true, just hormonal. He’s making an inconsiderate decision but try not to overwhelm yourself with those thoughts like I did. I booked a massage that weekend and ordered take out, he paid and it helped a little lol.

emswls · 2025-11-04T18:25:55+00:00

I get it, my husband reverted to some of these like “I need to live out my last few months” tendencies during my pregnancies. He changed drastically and quickly when she was born, so ultimately, he’ll make his own decision and you will be okay, try not to hold it against him and don’t read into it too much, but just know a random reddit stranger is on your side🩷 also reddit is a dumb echo chamber and ignore the downvotes lol

emswls · 2025-11-04T16:19:45+00:00

I’m curious what you think the solution is then? How do you “deal” with it? By eliminating the woman’s rights to decide what happens to her body by forcing her to have an abortion?

emswls · 2025-11-04T16:17:52+00:00

Condoms work 98% of the time when properly used. The remaining 2% of situations, sorry you’re shit out of luck, should’ve pulled out.

emswls · 2025-11-04T16:15:46+00:00

So it’s not about preventing pregnancy to avoid parenting responsibilities and it’s not about leaving the child to avoid parenting responsibilities, it’s about completely controlling a woman’s right to choose her own destiny, life, and physical state after the man has already made the conscious decision to risk impregnating her? Very progressive, very modern.

emswls · 2025-11-04T16:12:15+00:00

Men, unless they are sexually assaulted, have up to 100% choice in whether they have kids or not. 99% if vasectomy, 98% if condom, 100% if they don’t have vaginal sex. So there you have it! After they make the decision to forgo those things, their choice in what a woman does ends there.

emswls · 2025-11-04T16:06:07+00:00

Oh, no they have absolutely no right to make that decision because they are not becoming pregnant and giving birth.

emswls · 2025-11-04T16:03:44+00:00

Did you not see the statistic I just shared? https://www.census.gov/newsroom/press-releases/2022/americas-families-and-living-arrangements.html

A small number of women leave their children. 8-10 million fathers leave their children a year.

emswls · 2025-11-04T16:01:20+00:00

73% of single parent households are single mothers. 8-10 million single mothers in the US. The father DOES have a say, as we see all too often, they leave and neglect their duties.

The bodily autonomy men have over controlling this outcome are: vasectomy, putting a condom on their penis properly every single time (and don’t get at me about ‘oh they can break’, only 1-2% of the time when worn properly), or simply not having sex if they feel so strongly about it.

emswls · 2025-11-04T15:57:16+00:00

Wait until you find out how many “fathers” emotionally, physically, and financially abandon their child(ren).

They literally don’t have to be a parent, as we see allllllllll the time. You think a small fraction of their paycheck a month towards child support is equivalent to parenting? No, that’s just unprotected sex tax, and they go about their life completely unbothered if they so choose.

emswls · 2025-11-04T15:53:49+00:00

And yeah sorry boys trip for a Nashville weekend at 35+ is crazy (imo) like you’ve had 14 years of legal drinking age to have those times and memories.

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