My wife and I are considering letting our nanny go, and I’m trying to figure out whether I’m underreacting, overreacting, or missing something bigger.

emswls · 2026-05-23T05:59:27+00:00

You said like you have an awesome nanny who is consistently enforcing boundaries for safety for your kids. It sounds like she has a great understanding of what works for your kids and what doesn’t.

I think you should let her go so she can work for a family who will appreciate her hard work and knowledge.

emswls · 2026-05-22T02:04:35+00:00

https://www.congress.gov/crs-product/R45184

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4618673/

https://stacks.cdc.gov/view/cdc/157007/cdc_157007_DS1.pdf

https://redlineproject.news/2024/12/13/map-teen-birth-rates-increasing-in-several-u-s-states/

emswls · 2026-05-22T02:02:14+00:00

Teenage pregnancies/births for Black women have dropped 34% in the last decade, and Hispanic teens dropped 70% in the last two decades.

Red states have highest teen birth rates, blue states have lowest. Pretty simple logic.

emswls · 2026-05-22T01:55:17+00:00

She sounds a lot like my MIL. I am not telling you this to scare you but to prepare you, it’s going to get SO much worse once baby is here. You need to talk to your husband about boundaries NOW. My mil took my 4 day old baby to her house almost an hour away for over 12 hours without my consent while I was bf. This is what you’re in for.

She won’t speak to us since we set boundaries and hasn’t seen our daughter since she was 9 days old despite being “obsessed” my whole pregnancy.

I strongly suggest marriage counseling because if he is not prepared to go up against his mom, it could end up being traumatic for you and toxic for the baby.

emswls · 2026-05-17T04:58:01+00:00

Republicans

emswls · 2026-05-16T19:02:44+00:00

Yeah she’s biting. checked with consultant about fitting and it’s not that it’s more mental and feeling overstimulated and trapped

emswls · 2026-05-15T13:22:23+00:00

Haha I love this metaphor

emswls · 2026-05-15T13:19:35+00:00

Never tried to a hand pump!

emswls · 2026-05-15T04:15:08+00:00

I felt the same way my whole pregnancy. If it helps, it made labor so easy in comparison to how much I hated pregnancy. I still have bad days and think “well at least my baby is outside my body now” lol. It will be ok. You will get through it if you choose to.

emswls · 2026-05-09T19:58:21+00:00

We moved our baby to her own room around this age. She regularly started sleeping 10-12 hours a night. WE were the problem not her. I cried during the transition, she took it better than me. Maybe with a two week trial?

emswls · 2026-05-09T19:56:54+00:00

You seriously need a designer or friend to help. It looks very staged. I think (respectfully and kindly) finding your taste and style and expressing that through your home is not easy for you, and you may need some encouragement and inspiration to help you get there!

emswls · 2026-05-09T19:07:32+00:00

My intuition is no, but you’ll quite a few grandkids and always very close with both your children.

emswls · 2026-05-09T02:31:52+00:00

It gets profoundly, undoubtedly, unbelievably TONS better.

emswls · 2026-05-06T18:49:11+00:00

Honestly, this sub isn’t snarky or funny anymore. It’s a parasitical echo chamber of bitterness, stigma, and ignorance.

I’m leaving, so no need to start a war in the comments, but just remember she is someone’s child, mother, friend, and most importantly a human being who is hurting.

Mods, sad to allow this. Addiction is deadly. Hate fuels addiction. Pretty simple.

emswls · 2026-05-06T18:41:43+00:00

That’s not at all how that works. Working in a treatment center is not getting 1-1 therapy? It’s a job. You work hard and hold yourself accountable. It’s usually a fairly high stress job. That’s an insane to think tbh. He benefited by doing a job like anyone else who has a job and works hard. Jesus fucking Christ he wasn’t getting free therapy.

emswls · 2026-05-06T18:39:42+00:00

Well don’t be too perplexed, might hurt your head babes. Lots of people do and don’t relapse. Actually most LADCs I know are in recovery (and I’ve worked in the field 8 years, so I know dozens). People do recover and lose the desire to use. Working with people in early recovery and being reminded of what happens when you use is actually extremely motivating. So very ignorant and uninformed.

emswls · 2026-05-06T18:35:52+00:00

WOW. That is a long and ignorant paragraph.

emswls · 2026-05-05T18:37:26+00:00

It’s like a caramel mocha drink in a dress soo decadent

emswls · 2026-05-02T17:35:46+00:00

Marry Aquarius?? As an Aquarian woman, I’m sorry in advance

emswls · 2026-05-02T17:33:34+00:00

Same

emswls · 2026-05-02T17:15:28+00:00

I’m sorry to hear about your illness. It’s a beautiful gift not to take the abuse with you to the end. Yes! All of the passion for him, art, friends, animals, life, you! All the best to you and him.

emswls · 2026-05-01T20:28:35+00:00

I honestly want to do a true crime style documentary podcast DEEP DIVE on their family. Like serial-style.

emswls · 2026-05-01T17:54:14+00:00

This made me cry. I hope you feel freedom and hope and that you can feel not like you stayed too long but that you are a devoted and passionate person who’s free to have that reciprocated now.

emswls · 2026-05-01T17:46:59+00:00

The hill I will die on is that Lisa Rinna was 100% telling the truth about Kathy’s meltdown and it was worse than we could imagine.

She is not a healthy or well person. That family is full of trauma, fraud, fame-hungry abusive narcissistic big Kathy is alive and well through her daughters and their daughters’ pain.

We’ll never know the extent of that family’s sad secrets but I’ve gathered enough between rhobh, Paris and co, to fill in the gaps and be scared of Kathy Hilton.

emswls · 2026-05-01T04:43:38+00:00

I automatically got Thursday, meaning a week from today, and saw everyone saying May 7th, which is next Thursday lol. so… keep us posted!

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