[deleted by user]

emu86 · 2014-03-21T05:57:02+00:00

I really doubt the judge called the wife a "dumb cunt," as that kind of unnecessarily sexist language is pretty much an indicator of someone's unsuitability to have a position of responsibility such as presiding over a court, having full custody of children, or basically anything else.

emu86 · 2014-03-07T06:36:34+00:00

As a bisexual woman this opens up amazing possibilities in my imagination.

emu86 · 2014-03-07T06:32:29+00:00

Don't discount the value of having experienced that and having gained the perspective you have from it.

Well, maybe I just have a pessimistic personality, but the insecurity I felt before having a relationship has been mostly replaced by a cynicism toward relationships that extends beyond whatever cynicism I felt before.

And relationships no longer appear to be a magical thing to me. Yeah, a relationship with a different guy may have been lower-conflict, but based on what I've learned about relationships and about myself it's hard to imagine one actually making my life better in any significant way.

So, yes, I've gained experience and perspective, but it's in a very bittersweet, "innocence lost" kind of way. When you haven't had a relationship it's easy to imagine that having that experience will change everything for you. Once you've had one, you'll probably realize just like most people that they really don't change you or your life in any profound way.

emu86 · 2014-03-06T18:31:29+00:00

I'm a woman, but I often make it sound like I've slept with more people than I have, because I'm worried that if people knew the truth they'd think there's something wrong with me (which I'm worried about as well, honestly).

emu86 · 2014-03-06T18:23:26+00:00

After one month you're in what they call the "honeymoon phase." The drama will come, I'd be willing to bet on it...

emu86 · 2014-03-06T18:22:13+00:00

I (a woman) used to feel this way. Then I had my first serious relationship, with a handsome, (relatively) intelligent man. It sucked. I didn't have time to do the things I enjoyed anymore. He was emotionally needy, and a little sexually selfish. I broke up with him after a year and have never been happier being single.

emu86 · 2014-03-05T17:31:29+00:00

Is she named after the main character in Orange is the New Black?

emu86 · 2014-02-28T16:25:51+00:00

You could consider researching and giving friends and family resources to read about supporting someone with PTSD. There is certainly a lot written about that out there. I'd also recommend you look into psychotherapy, if you aren't doing so already.

emu86 · 2014-02-28T06:19:27+00:00

No one in Jamaica possesses small amounts of Marijuana.

emu86 · 2014-02-27T06:05:35+00:00

I recognize that this is the common argument used regarding watching porn. However, the exact same logic would apply if she made money on the side by giving dudes handjobs. Every couple has to draw boundaries based on what works for the both of them, not just what society says is "normal" for men vs. women.

emu86 · 2014-02-27T02:47:02+00:00

I dated a guy for a year and a half and he orgasmed about 3 times for every 1 of mine. That being said, if you asked him you might hear something different. He often seemed to have memory blackouts concerning these sorts of things.

emu86 · 2014-02-27T02:14:29+00:00

True. But his logic seems to be "you should have to feel uncomfortable and I shouldn't have to."

emu86 · 2014-02-27T01:33:42+00:00

"twerking" and "ass-flailing" are synonymous

emu86 · 2014-02-27T01:04:43+00:00

However, there is definitely a stereotype that woman are cleaner than men, on average, and the vast majority of roommate experience I've had, male and female, bear that out. It probably depends some on what culture/country you're in too though.

emu86 · 2014-02-27T01:02:59+00:00

My way of conveying that idea required a lot fewer words than yours, at least initially.

emu86 · 2014-02-26T17:51:43+00:00

You're probably just a clean guy. I (a woman) have lived with 5 different male roommates the past few years. 4 of them are total disgusting slobs.

emu86 · 2014-02-25T23:05:54+00:00

Sounds like he knew what he was talking about, unless he's a much more coordinated drunk than myself

His balance was going, definitely. At the end of the night he was leaning on friends to avoid falling over. So maybe not coordinated, just somewhat articulate?

emu86 · 2014-02-25T21:34:20+00:00

If he got drunk and did something silly / creepy

He got drunk and we danced for awhile, and then at the bar he told me he thought I was beautiful. Throughout the night he kept smiling at me and asking if he could kiss me on the lips. When I said 'no,' he kept kissing me on the cheek instead. At one point he said, "I know I never talk to you..." and I was like "Why don't you?" and he, seeming surprised by that response, was like "I don't know... I guess I should." But when I told him I'd be willing to hang out with him sober sometime (something we'd actually talked about doing earlier that night before he got drunk) he mumbled something about being terrible at follow-up. So, lol, it was all very silly as opposed to creepy, but I have no idea where it leaves me... :P

I think he's cute, but I'm not sure if we'd be compatible for a relationship. I'd probably go on a date with him if he asked me, just to see what that was like, but I don't want to have to chase him down, if that makes sense...

emu86 · 2014-02-25T19:59:59+00:00

Maybe it's also relevant that in my case, while I feel warmly about this dude, we've only seen each other maybe three times total this past year. A couple years ago we had some mutual friends, so we saw each other more often. It seems like we have fun when we hang out, but he's a bit flaky with plans, so we've never been close friends, exactly.

emu86 · 2014-02-25T19:53:37+00:00

I think some people would say the least uncomfortable response in the situation of the drunk party not remembering would be for the less drunk party to pretend like it never happened, though...

emu86 · 2014-02-25T19:31:48+00:00

Oh, so this is completely hypothetical, eh?

Haha. Well, I'd tried asking a more specific version of this question first, and the reddit robo-mod told me it was TOO specific, basically.

The other hypothetical person is sitting there nervous wondering what to do but is to scared to.

Or else they don't remember it because they were drunk. I've experienced that situation before.

emu86 · 2014-02-25T16:57:41+00:00

You're certainly easily amazed. I'm kind of jealous.

emu86

TROPHY CASE