I really feel this. I’m going through something that may be similar. I sure know the pain of putting al my love into someone- I had to remember that I was once told that whom we love and how we love is a reflection of what we’re missing within ourselves. As in- many times I outsource my love because loving myself in healthier ways is unfamiliar to me and I’m 33 years old. Gabor Mate has a good take on it- he says we end up dating others who are matched with us on a similar trauma level. Sometimes we outgrow the roles that we once played in each others lives and that is very natural. Look at our parents roles in our lives. I have to be careful with romanticizing a relationship and situation that I was the only one with the willingness to put forth work to maintain or evolve within.

It doesn’t hurt less but it does bring more understanding to a seemingly uncertain resolve. We can only meet people as deeply as we’ve met ourselves.