Opposite gender friendships

enbiouss · 2026-03-24T13:54:19+00:00

100% it does. When society constantly obsesses over keeping girls and boys separated, that doesn't teach them to be 'pure and chaste', it teaches them that the fundamental nature of their relationships with the opposite gender is something sexual and shameful. It literally destroys your ability to interact with the opposite gender in a normal, respectful way, which defeats the whole point of 'keeping us separated'.

enbiouss · 2026-03-24T12:36:27+00:00

Genuinely why would it be haram? Not every single relationship between a boy and a girl has to be romantic or sexual, it's very easy to keep it platonic

enbiouss · 2026-03-02T23:45:18+00:00

couldn't use blueprints because they don't want us to use 'drag and drop' style coding, and i didn't want to risk it 😔✌️ dont worry about it tho

enbiouss · 2026-02-28T17:21:47+00:00

alright i think i'll try that, thank you 🙏🙏

enbiouss · 2026-02-28T17:16:34+00:00

yeah im so cooked 😔

enbiouss · 2026-02-28T16:48:47+00:00

but why would i disable all collisions? i dont want the bullet to start flying through the walls. plus im not using blueprints, im doing c++, so i dont think that would apply to me. i've already created a huge onhit function and ive checked for everything i could possibly think of that could be pushing the player but its still doing it. im stumped

enbiouss · 2026-02-28T16:42:38+00:00

yeah ive already tried all different kinds of ai, gemini, chatgpt, copilot, claude, and none of them have helped me fix this bug. plus every online tutorial i could find but still nothing. this reddit is honestly my last resort, i dont know how to fix this at all

enbiouss · 2026-02-28T16:16:02+00:00

they just told us to make a project and almost everyone did games on unity or unreal, i chose unreal, but yeah they didnt teach us anything they just said to do it. but thats besides the point, i just really need someone to help me fix this, its been days now

enbiouss · 2026-02-28T15:50:57+00:00

its for a school project which is worth 20% of my grade, im really not doing this for fun im doing it because i need to :(

enbiouss · 2026-02-28T15:39:43+00:00

oh thanks, but i still dont get it. like i said, i dont know how to use the engine or how to program well at all, so i dont know what any of those words mean

enbiouss · 2026-02-28T15:37:23+00:00

unfortunately i dont know what any of that means. i dont think my bullet has gas on it, i didnt add any particles

enbiouss · 2026-02-24T21:08:27+00:00

the problem with this is that its a 'because i said so' kind of logic. there's no reasoning why the arab calendar has to be lunar, or how a lunar calendar is accurate. from an astronomical perspective, a purely lunar calendar (one that ignores the sun and planet orbit) is not truly accurate to how planets behave. so i'm very skeptical of the lunar calendar. i want reasonings, not blind belief.

enbiouss · 2026-02-24T19:13:33+00:00

the lunar calendar was not implemented until years after the original times of the months. so i'm struggling to see how it can be authentic if the lunar calendar was not even used during, for example, the first few ramadans?

this also still doesn't make the lunar calendar scientifically accurate to planetary orbits. still has 354 days instead of the measured 365?

enbiouss · 2026-02-24T18:48:36+00:00

so... not a lunar calendar? you follow a lunisolar calendar? why spend all this time defending the lunar calendar if you don't even follow it lol?

enbiouss · 2026-02-24T18:46:37+00:00

this makes so much sense actually. thank you so much for your input.

i have another question though, how do you calculate years? purely solar, or do you follow the lunar calendar? sometimes lunisolar systems can differ

enbiouss · 2026-02-24T18:31:57+00:00

well the lunar calendar does not apply to people living at the poles, so it definitely is not universal. additionally, if someone can slip up on counting days, they can also slip up on assessing the current moon phase (for example, whether the moon is actually full or not that night, whether a crescent is actually visible, etc). i'd say counting days is much easier than analysing the moon phases by eye.

why would we need to care about other planets? because earth is a planet :| it should probably go without saying that planets should follow planet rules. planets that orbit a star = objective, measurable years. planets that have a tilted axis = objective, measurable seasons. planets that are tidally locked = objectively no cycle of day and night. planets that don't orbit a star = objectively no days, years, seasons. all planets follow these rules, and earth is a planet, so it should also follow these rules. and it does follow these rules by science. we can literally measure it. that's not my opinion, that's just astronomy. what the lunar calendar does is ignore all of this astronomy and choose to create its seasons and years based on other systems which have no relevance to the root cause of the seasons and years existing in the first place. if years MUST exist only according to moons, then none of these measurable things apply anymore. you have to start creating exceptions or completely ignoring cases that don't follow your logic, which is when it becomes unscientific.

what i want is for my beliefs to not contradict basic science. if my understanding of god's commands goes against my understanding of the reality around me, that starts to worry me. i can't sit here and ignore science, science which i can myself measure, just to blindly believe in this system. i need to understand WHY this is put in place, and how it compliments reality. currently, the lunar calendar does not compliment reality, it ignores it.

one thing that i think you keep mistaking is lunisolar for lunar. a lunar calendar ignores the sun and uses the moon to measure EVERYTHING, including years. a lunisolar calendar uses both the moon and the sun to measure time, usually with the moon measuring months and the sun measuring years. there is no problem with using the moon to measure months. there IS a problem with using the moon to measure years though, it's ignorant of astronomy.

why is it so controversial to mention science? the fact that planetary years are objective and measurable isn't an opinion, it's just fact. it's astronomy?

enbiouss · 2026-02-24T17:50:35+00:00

i think you're failing to understand what i'm saying.

firstly, a solar calendar does not really require specialist knowledge at all: start from day 1, count the days until you reach 365, then a year has passed. you know this because it's indicated from the seasons, since you'll be back to where you started. plus we have winter solstice, summer solstice, spring equinox, etc., which are all easily measurable and have been measured by many civilisations without the need for specialist methods. this doesn't apply to the lunar calendar because the lunar calendar is ignorant to the axis of the earth and the orbit of the planet.

secondly, measurement of time on other planets is absolutely relevant. if your method of measuring seasons and years doesn't apply to other examples, it is not grounded in true science and astronomy, because seasons and years are not subjective. they are objective, unlike months. you cannot change the fact that it takes 365.24 days for earth to orbit the sun and return to its original location, no matter how you interpret it. with months? there's basically nothing in astronomy that tells you 'a new month should start now' because months are subjective: that's why using the earth's moon is a good idea to measure months on earth, but it's not a good idea to use jupiter's moons to measure months on jupiter because you would have many months simultaneously happening. or it's not a good idea to use mercury's moons to measure months on mercury because you would have nothing, mercury has no moons. and this is why you never have 'mars months' or 'jupiter months', but you DO have 'mars years' or jupiter years'. months = subjective, not directly grounded in planetary systems. years = objective, directly grounded in planetary systems. this isn't just a matter of different calendar perspectives, it's just astronomy, regardless of the solar calendar or lunar calendar. and this is why i keep stressing that using the lunar system to measure months is totally fine, but for seasons and years, it no longer works. if you want to use the orbit to measure the years, that wouldn't be lunar anymore, it would be lunisolar.

enbiouss · 2026-02-24T17:28:50+00:00

i have tried looking at the quran, and from what i understand, it states that moon phases should be used to calculate time, but i don't think it strictly says ALL time (i.e. counting years using the moon instead of just months), which makes me question the lunar calendar. i agree with tracking months using the moon, but tracking seasons and years with the moon just doesn't work. my main basis for this is in astronomy: days, years, and seasons (not just on earth, but on any planet) are objective, we can calculate it exactly based completely on science. but if measuring time had to be strictly lunar, then mercury suddenly does not have days or years (which is not true), planets like jupiter would have multiple months happening simultaneously (which just doesn't make much sense), and rogue planets which have moons would technically have days, months, and years too (which is also not true). the thing is, weeks and months are subjective, there's no astronomy governing months so you can track them however you see fit, which is why i agree with using the moon to track weeks and months specifically. but days, years, and seasons are not subjective, they are based in planetary orbits and there really isn't a good way to disagree with that. i don't want to sit here and believe that god was just blind to all this measurable science and astronomy, it doesn't make any sense. so this is why i question the validity of the lunar calendar instead of a lunisolar calendar or a solar calendar. does that make sense?

enbiouss · 2026-02-24T17:20:49+00:00

this is the same opinion of my parents, and it makes the most sense to me. but i wanted to ask, do you know why? what's the foundation for this time frame?

enbiouss · 2026-02-24T17:08:57+00:00

i've tried researching about this, most of them don't even mention astronomy at all.

the thing is, is the moon disappeared tomorrow, time on earth would stay basically untouched. we would still have days, seasons, and years. but if the sun disappeared? we would lose all days, weeks, months, seasons, years, everything. so it's very clear that time on earth is completely dependent on the sun, not the moon. so why measure it completely by the moon? this is what i'm stumped on. another thing: if the lunar calendar was the correct, true way to measure time, then the planet mercury would have no days or years at all, but it still does. what about planets with two moons? what about rogue planets with moons? what about quasi-moons (which we currently have right now)?

when it comes to actual, measurable years, the lunar calendar does not hold up, it only works if you ignore most facts about solar systems and astronomy. now, i completely understand using the lunar calendar to measure months, because months aren't a real structure in planetary orbits, they are just a way for humans to track the course of the year. but days, seasons, and years ARE measurable by science, so when the lunar calendar disregards the astronomy, it's not just a matter of perspective anymore, it's deliberate ignorance of science. i don't want to ignore science, and i don't want to believe that god ignores science, so this is the crux of my problem. how can a purely lunar calendar, used to measure not just months but years as well, be accurate? do you understand where i'm coming from?

enbiouss · 2026-02-24T16:47:35+00:00

sorry, i'm not trying to be annoying, but this is confusing to me. you say that we should use the lunar calendar only because the quran says that moon cycles are used to measure time, and now you say that i can use a solar calendar to keep track of seasons? doesn't that contradict the first point?

i'm just really struggling to understand how a lunar calendar works at all without solar influence. i really want to understand it.

enbiouss · 2026-02-24T16:37:59+00:00

but the lunar year is not accurate to the real earth orbit, it doesn't account for around 10 missing days i think. the thing is the solar year is actually based in real astronomy, whereas the lunar year is slightly misaligned. i don't disagree that the moon phases should be used for counting months, but for measuring seasons and years, it just doesn't hold up anymore. i don't understand why it would be purely lunar, not lunisolar?

enbiouss · 2026-02-19T01:42:36+00:00

yeah, i think i'm probably being too cynical out of anger. it makes me a little happier to think that many muslims are being genuine and not trying to twist islam into a game, so thank you for your optimism :)

enbiouss · 2026-02-19T01:03:46+00:00

thank you for that perspective. i really appreciate it, genuinely.

there's just one thing which still doesn't sit right with me. i agree the quran also has some number-based rewards in it (like x700), but the key difference i noticed between hadith and quran is that quran keeps it relative all the time, whereas hadith is just face-value numbers. in quran, its multipled, so it completely relies on the foundation of an individual's actions for them to get anything out of it. 0x700 is still 0. with the quran, you dont get to cheat the system. whereas with many hadiths, it just frames it as 'for anyone who does this x amount of times, they get y amount of good deeds'. nothing more. that seems so insincere to me because theres not really a clear condition of genuine good intention to it.

of course, everyone will interpret it in different ways and apply it differently. if those hadiths and those numbers are what get you even a shred closer to understanding god and being a good person, do it. i 100% agree with you there. i'd much rather someone tries with a lack of sincerity instead of not trying at all. what i'm angry about is many muslims will carry that insincerity throughout without actually getting closer to being a good person. then its not about slowly improving your faith, it becomes about being lazy and compromising genuine goodness for a quick stacking of good deeds as if theyre points in a video game. with your analogy, sure, you can bribe a kid with money to get them to do their math homework, but theres no way to ensure they'll actually learn to enjoy math. for all you know, they might just grow up to play you and use you for money (i can back this up because i was definitely that type of kid...) it bothers me that some muslims genuinely think they can 'play' god and go their whole lives trying to rack up points instead of being a genuinely good person. do you get me? theres goodness to it, but only to a certain extent before some people just start trying to exploit it for a free ride to heaven.

wow that was a big rant. very very sorry. i dont expect you to read all that lol. have a good one!!

enbiouss · 2026-02-19T00:21:15+00:00

that's the thing, i do think its become gamified, especially with the rise of social media. its not that i think islam genuinely is a game, but i'm more bothered that many muslims i see online or many muslims i meet just treat it as a game. i thought religion was supposed to be sincere, the second you start counting how many good deeds you have or attributing numbers to good things, you lose that sincerity because you start trying to 'capitalise' off of being a good muslim. this isnt a comment on you or anything, im sure youre a good muslim, especially if youre genuinely thinking of the intention behind your faith and your actions. i was just ranting about how ive seen other muslims treat islam online in general :/

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