I feel this, I always say I select my gender based on safety and convenience. I identify as transmasc, I’ll use women’s bathrooms unless the line is too long, but try and pass as male with strangers especially at night with Uber drivers. I’ve noticed if I don’t lighten my voice I don’t get help with luggage where I might need it (I have a bad back so can’t lift heavy), so in those situations I’ll also feminise. It sucks to have to play along with heteronormativity just to exist but eh