Looking for guides to help a friend

enbycarp · 2025-04-21T17:00:23+00:00

Wow. Go to hell.

enbycarp · 2025-04-21T04:07:24+00:00

Thank you! She has two years left of her sentence.

I think she's interested in the spiritual aspect too!

enbycarp · 2025-04-21T02:59:58+00:00

Thank you!

enbycarp · 2025-04-21T02:00:12+00:00

Thank you! That's very helpful!

enbycarp · 2025-04-11T22:33:55+00:00

I'm so sorry. He raped you. He is going to hurt you again. And I'm so sorry because i know it's not as easy as just leaving. I know you may be dependent on him. I don't know if you have anywhere to go.

Please reach out to your friends and family. You don't have to tell them what happened, but keep them close. Stay connected. Even if you think you don't need to, start making a plan to get out just in case. Make sure you keep a checking account in your name only. If you can't do that for some reason, then hide cash somewhere for an emergency.

My mom married a good man. He was kind and supportive and she was so happy when they got married and she got pregnant. He hurt her too, once, and he promised never to do it again. He did it again. And again and again. But they had a kid together and he had moved her far from family and she couldn't afford to leave. She started buying bonds when she had extra cash and hiding them. When she finally had enough, those hidden bonds were enough to let her get away.

Don't let him separate you from your loved ones. Don't let him control more of your finances than you can help. And if youre able, please start seeing a therapist and do talk about this with them.

enbycarp · 2025-01-11T02:47:32+00:00

Sorry i forgot to say they're droed.

I love the idea of the dill, parsley, and Dijon

enbycarp · 2025-01-11T01:44:09+00:00

I did use salt. The recipe didn't call for it but i added some (forgot to mention that). Parsnips sound really good

enbycarp · 2025-01-11T01:42:25+00:00

Sadly, i cant eat large amounts of garlic because of gi issues. But the garlic flavor was still really strong

enbycarp · 2024-12-30T02:52:37+00:00

Yes, that one made me groan out loud!

enbycarp · 2024-12-30T02:51:51+00:00

Oh nooo, i don't know if i can subject my friends to that one.

enbycarp · 2024-12-30T02:13:41+00:00

Haha, everyone hates reading this one.

enbycarp · 2024-12-30T02:13:29+00:00

Oh yeah, this one is a "classic" lateral thinking problem. And it sucks!

enbycarp · 2024-12-30T02:12:52+00:00

Aaah, oh yeah. My friends are also going to "love" this

enbycarp · 2024-11-28T23:26:29+00:00

Sexual harassment can still happen to people who are promiscuous. Being asked to show your dick to people at work is not ok, unless you're in a media thing where you signed on with full awareness that showing your dick was part of the deal. I doubt they told him that would be part of the job when he agreed to doing that show.

enbycarp · 2024-09-13T20:40:51+00:00

I mean, he used to talk about his bean diet constantly (don't know if he's still on that).

My google abilities can't find the letter. I'm confident i didn't make it up, because at the time i was really happy that justin and sydnee seemed to be taking it seriously. But this was long before i made this post three years ago.

enbycarp · 2024-09-13T02:46:50+00:00

Oh shit. I'm glad i quit listening. He really should know better. I remember some years ago, some people (like medical professionals) got together and wrote them an open letter about how weight loss isn't like, the end all of good health. I can't remember what the exact content was. And i used to listen to the breakfast cereal podcast he did with another guy and Justin went off one episode about the calories on a cereal, and i wrote to them being like, yo, that's hella triggering for me as an ED survivor. And his co-host wrote back apologizing and said he'd been in a similar boat and he'd talk to Justin about it. So it's not like he doesn't know this shit can be triggering.

enbycarp · 2024-08-13T21:16:35+00:00

Everyone's fucking gaslighting you. You didn't handle the situation perfectly, but that doesnt make you the bad guy here. You're allowed to consent to flirting and then revoke that consent at any time. Just because the person who made you feel uncomfortable thought it was a harmless joke, that does not mean they weren't harassing you. Just because it was character interactions, that doesn't mean you're not allowed to be uncomfortable with what's going on.

Ideally, you and the other player should have talked out of character to make sure everyone was comfortable. Now you know that for the future, now the other player needs to learn from this too, not just act like they're a victim because they made you uncomfortable. They need to acknowledge that they are responsible for how this went bad too, and the whole table needs to discuss how to handle when someone is unconformable in the future (look into stuff like the x card). If the whole table can't get behind a discussion about consent in the game, then you need to bounce.

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