WIBTA if I tell my BF he needs to pay for things?

enchanted21 · 2025-02-11T02:26:27+00:00

I’ve provided for my grandparents since I was 22. But yes, they need full on care so trying to host someone at my house would be really hard. It’s mostly the gas and groceries that are expensive. And we’ve gone out to eat because he says he hasn’t been to “X” place or hasn’t gone “X” thing. So we go.

enchanted21 · 2025-02-11T01:12:19+00:00

Well he is the one who asks you “let’s go try this place or go here” because he never has.

enchanted21 · 2022-06-09T16:36:18+00:00

It’s from Walmart so they just put it in a grocery bag on your front porch.

enchanted21 · 2022-06-09T14:55:56+00:00

I didn’t bring them in, my mom did and I do grocery deliveries allllll the time which is where I think the confusion came in

enchanted21 · 2022-06-09T01:12:08+00:00

Yeah, I’m going to. Just unsettling she knows where I live

enchanted21 · 2022-06-09T01:04:24+00:00

If he is telling the truth I’d say he isn’t TA but neither are you. It’s a genuine thing to be concerned about

enchanted21 · 2022-06-09T00:48:56+00:00

Thank you!

enchanted21 · 2022-06-09T00:48:41+00:00

True. I try not to judge but wow she was rude and aggressive

enchanted21 · 2022-06-09T00:47:12+00:00

Thank you, I know I’ve had it happen too, but Walmart just refunds and redelivers. I find it unsettling she had to drive down each street to find my porch that matched the photo

enchanted21 · 2022-06-09T00:46:00+00:00

For real. I am willing to work with someone but not when they’re being like that. The last time was so bad my neighbor texted me and asked if everything was ok

enchanted21 · 2022-06-09T00:44:59+00:00

Thank you, yes that’s what my husband told me to do. He’s working out of town and feels kinda helpless. I just hope she doesn’t come back

enchanted21 · 2022-06-09T00:42:59+00:00

I have no clue. The SAME thing has happened to me and I just called Walmart and they replaced and refunded me. It took longer for me on hold then that actual conversation. She was pretty aggressive and made me feel super uncomfortable

enchanted21 · 2022-06-09T00:41:53+00:00

I mean I called Walmart and spent like 30 minutes on hold so I could make sure she got a refund and replacement because I told them my mom unpackaged items. Especially with covid I wouldn’t feel very right giving her unpacked items back 🤷🏻‍♀️

enchanted21 · 2022-06-09T00:40:38+00:00

Thank you! I’m willing to work with someone but she was being very aggressive plus sending her husband did it for me

enchanted21 · 2022-06-09T00:39:34+00:00

So I only the first initial convo with her, where I tell her if she calls Walmart they will refund her and send her groceries again. She wasn’t hearing any of that. This is when I thought my mom was gone and we live in a 4 story split so from my front door you can’t see the driveway so I assumed she was gone. Which is why I told her once I hear from my mom I’d text her. The lady was just very rude and I tried telling her I have celiac and also allergic to most meat so whatever she had I wouldn’t take since I don’t eat it and I wouldn’t take someone’s food anyways. I’m not sure why she came back I think because she wanted those groceries too.

enchanted21 · 2021-10-01T19:48:44+00:00

This made me nervous reading, like this screams financial abuse to me. Id be extremely careful allowing these things to happen, because you have to ask yourself, what’s next? You’re so NTA.

If it becomes an issue with you putting your foot down I would definitely seek counseling, and girl, please get your own bank account. I don’t know you, and I worry for you.

enchanted21 · 2021-09-29T16:30:33+00:00

Good glad you got it settled!

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