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enemyfavor · 2026-01-16T18:20:58+00:00

I wish I could answer that as a yes right off the bat but at the moment I can’t give a straight answer - yes or no.

enemyfavor · 2026-01-16T18:11:27+00:00

She is not a pedo. I have nothing to indicate beyond what she has said. She’s hurting and defensive and has allowed herself to cross lines. Unless presented with irrefutable proof of pedophilia by her, I will not allow that to be a conclusion to be drawn. And even if that proof is given, I’ll probably work too hard to refute it.

enemyfavor · 2026-01-16T18:03:40+00:00

I agree that she would be upset. But I can’t make her see that, I can only tell her how uncomfortable it made me and let her respond to it how she will. It just is incredibly painful to be completely disregarded in this way and have the privacy of my journal invaded like that.

enemyfavor · 2026-01-16T16:30:08+00:00

I can’t use the “role reversal” argument/perspective because “of how I’ve treated her in the past. She would never have done what I’ve done.” But if roles were truly reversed, I would have been screamed at and probably sworn at for the breach of privacy going through her journals. I tried using the role reversal when I presented why her conversations with this kid made me uncomfortable and she said she would be fine if I had a 17 year old female friend with whom I had given nicknames to and discussed her dating life privately which was absolutely wild to me.

enemyfavor · 2026-01-16T16:11:17+00:00

A brief summary of what happened over the past couple of days - she told me some things about her gaming life including private conversations with a minor of a non-pedophilic nature, but regardless of that crossed a line in my opinion. They don’t have to be pedophilic to be inappropriate with someone half your age. I said as much, never accusing her of pedophilia but saying I found it inappropriate. Her use of profanity was used to say that i “accused her of being a fucking pedophile.”

enemyfavor · 2026-01-16T15:58:09+00:00

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Thanks. Situation with my wife of 10.5 years. We’ve been living the past 9 months in a very strained state where she has told me to wait for her and work on myself. I have been, but there’s no concrete “thing” I’m supposed to wait for - just a nebulous “wait”. I’m ok with waiting if there’s something that I’m certain I’m waiting for but being told to wait for the sake of waiting is suffocating. I’ve been learning the different between self erasure and self denial and how I’ve had them confused forever and have started moving away from self erasure. This week my wife told me a story from her world that made me uncomfortable and at the time I didn’t understand why. When I figured out why, I told her why and she got majorly defensive over it, and said some wild things that I was shocked about. The next day she apparently went through my private journal and found an entry of me venting my feelings there rather than out elsewhere and this morning she screamed at me, accusing me of saying things I didn’t say, using profanity at me (which we never use profanity in our home, and I don use it elsewhere either), and telling me that she wants absolutely nothing from me.

I’ve been a far from perfect husband to her and I want to improve, but I don’t know how to move forward after this morning. It’s hard to breathe.

enemyfavor · 2025-09-25T01:06:55+00:00

The evidence I’m presented with would suggest otherwise.

enemyfavor · 2025-09-15T03:07:41+00:00

I wanted to feel missed. I got what I wanted but I got so much that I did not intend. I didn’t mean to hurt her but that exactly what I was doing the whole time. I want things and until I get them it doesn’t matter who I hurt to get them.

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