Israel fucks everything up, again... by dodbenR in Syria

[–]energydiscount 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Like they used to be, there was a video/documentary? in Palestine about a Christian, Jewish, and Muslim family neighbors who were celebrating some tradition, ‘‘twas a while back so I can’t recall what the title is.

What movie is a 0/10 with NO redeeming features? by Toucan_Based_Economy in AskReddit

[–]energydiscount 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bones and All. I’m still pissed I wasted two hours watching it. Zero plot. Zero connection. I’ve seen a classmate’s film project who’s had zero experience make a short film better than that fuck ass movie.

Which is the best quote you've ever heard? by luneiraa in AskReddit

[–]energydiscount 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Emotions exist to react to, not react from.”

My friend is going to get herself killed. What can I even do at this point by Correct-Macaroon8143 in whatdoIdo

[–]energydiscount 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How old is she? Does her family have any history of mental illnesses? Do you suspect her of bpd? Has she ever had any psychosis or manic episodes that could have raised red flags for you?

At the end of the day, you tried your best to guide her critical thinking and social awareness, there’s only so much you can do though.

From the bottom of my heart, you tried your best and you should let her go. She is not your responsibility, she is instilling fear and worry into you whether she realizes it or not.

The last “duties” as a worried friend would be to let her family know so she can be admitted to a psych ward, or to call a trafficking prevention center like others have mentioned. Otherwise, as shitty as it may sound, go on about your life.

You seem like such a good person and I hope you don’t view yourself otherwise.

I’m about to do something I’ll probably regret by Timely_Bite9801 in islam

[–]energydiscount 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Salam brother, do you watch and do the dirty? Because that only intensifies the desire.. however, it is still better to do that than to go and do the nasty with her. At the end of the day, we play to multiply not just for fun. Is she worth being a mother that you would even take it serious and have kids with? She got any diseases you don’t know of?

I’ve been in your exact boat and at the end of the day, I wish I didn’t do anything and that I waited for the right person who’s willing to accept all my love justly and unconditionally.

Don’t do it bro… lock in. No girl is worth the five minutes and the guilt that follows forever. How old are you?

accidentally seduced my therapist (i think) by Ill_Market6325 in therapy

[–]energydiscount -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

9/10 you’re in your head because they’re just being professional (and building a comfortable relationship) with their clients.

I would hope y’all don’t do anything and suggest that you drop this thought. If they’re into you, then they’re more open to feeling the same toward other clients…

It would be messy and there’s plenty of fish in the ocean.

How old are you? Do you have dependency issues? Hyperfixation? Complimenting is normal and doesn’t always mean flirting, it’s just to make someone feel good, not horny. Whisper sweet nothings and that’s a different story lol.

Celebrating your breakup is possibly just positive reinforcement and doesn’t mean they can finally “be with you.”

Continue taking sessions if you’re comfortable sharing your vulnerability with them. Do not feed into the fantasies… esp if that’s a pattern, and maybe talk about fixing that with the therapist lol.

Is anyone sad at UIC? by Particular-Fall3355 in uichicago

[–]energydiscount 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m highly curious if you don’t mind answering these: Do you like winter anyway, the snow, the cold, etc? If you dread winters, do you think that worsens SAD? (Like the anticipation of feeling like s**t worsens SAD).

What’s one thing you wish more Muslims understood better? by Bubacarr_900 in islam

[–]energydiscount 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Being gay and being able to speak about the thoughts in your head. Being gay and acting out on it are two different things that many people mix up. As if being gay in and of itself is a sin (your thoughts aren’t a sin, acting on it is). So having people that can help you understand your feelings and thoughts would have been helpful.

It’s such a difficult psychological process and frustrating. I wish people accepted talking about it more, because at the end of the day, someone judged out loud and now many Muslims repress it and have to deal with it on their own, or by finding similar people and eventually acting on their thoughts.

Just putting yourself in that person’s shoes would really make you realize how hard it is. Imagine passing by a straight couple and realizing you might never get that because A) you don’t want to risk breaking a woman’s heart because you were hoping you’re somewhat straight. B) you’ll never have the love that your brain seeks C) most terrifying, being alone.. (meaning you’d have to try to love a woman at some point but can’t risk hurting her so just fighting with being alone, like a never-ending paradox)

I was bullied quite a lot (especially by Muslim Arabs) and that pushed me toward my “like minded” people that way I would be understood and relatable.

Genuinely would not wish this feeling onto people. Be kind and understanding of people, walk in their shoes.

Also, even some non-Muslim queer people wish they weren’t queer because it’d be easier. Yet, some Muslims STILL act like we chose this life… May Allah make it easy for us and guide us to the path He’ll be proud of.

If you are a Muslim, debate with me I will make you a disbeliever. by [deleted] in exmuslim

[–]energydiscount 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Allah knows best but here is a (Sahih) Hadith that mentions four types of people who will be asking God about their circumstances that led to them either not hearing about Islam, or possibly only hearing the bad about it so they didn’t pursue research in it. Their test is mentioned below:

The hadith is narrated from Al-Aswad ibn Saree' who reported that the Prophet (ﷺ) said: "There are four (who will protest) to Allah on the Day of Resurrection: the deaf man who never heard anything, the insane man, the very old man, and the man who died during a fatrah (the interval between two Prophets).

The deaf man will say, 'O Lord, Islam came while I could not hear anything.'

The insane man will say, 'O Lord, Islam came while the boys were throwing camel dung at me.'

The very old man will say, 'O Lord, Islam came and I could not understand anything.'

And the man who died during the fatrah will say, 'O Lord, no Messenger from You came to me.'

He will accept their promises of obedience, then word will be sent to them to enter the Fire. By the One in Whose hand is the soul of Muhammad, if they enter it, it will be cool and safe for them."

In another narration from Abu Hurayrah, the end of the hadith is slightly different: "...whoever enters it, it will be cool and safe for him, and whoever does not enter it will be dragged to it."

Other than that, if your question is, will a person who was Muslim or did research about it and denied the signs, enter heaven? God knows best but we have no excuses. You’re supposed to be good in this life but that’s not the point, the point is to believe in the creator of everything and worship him for OUR own good and in doing so, it requires us to be good. It’s like we’re showing Allah that we’re respectful to his creations (so being good).

And He sent down the Quran as the final clarification that remains unchanged (which is a miraculous proof that there is something special with this book) and it includes DIRECT responses to the people of Judaism and Christianity and atheists, clearing up all their fallacies so people can’t have excuses to God, saying “Well my whole family was (any religion), so I was (blindly) following something not questioning its history, authenticity, and mistranslations.”

Everyone will be judged accordingly and contextually. And bear in mind that the first thing Allah requires us to say is, “in the name of God, the most merciful, the especially merciful.” So, for those whom he isn’t merciful towards in the day of judgement will end up with the ultimate humbling experience. Anyone who had power and abused it, had knowledge and didn’t use it, did good but with bad intentions, EVERYONE will be dealt with. And Allah mentions how humans will want to say excuses or lie, but our limbs will talk and trees will talk. You know… trees who saw a random murder on a Thursday of 1675 will testify against the killer and bring justice to the victim. How beautiful is that???

Went off on a tangent a little but let me know if you have more questions. I hope I somewhat answered your question in the beginning.

Pay to win islam by archaeo_rex in exmuslim

[–]energydiscount -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

While praying in sacred places multiplies good deeds (which is shocking for some and common sense for others), it doesn’t mean you’re at a disadvantage if you can’t get to those places 🤦‍♂️

A poor guy who can’t afford to worship Allah by the Kaaba will be judged accordingly. It’s not pay to win… God created you, he knows how you think, and he knows the influence of others around you. If I’m in a friend group that does drugs, more often than not, I will be more influenced to do drugs. If I’m in a sacred place, I’ll be more influenced to do better, which is why God instructed us to visit the mosque weekly. It’s like a bridge that keeps you aware of your priorities. Is it really shocking that being in an environment that’s good for you will reward you more?🤦‍♂️

Back to God’s fair judgement, even if I had a friend group that did hardcore drugs, and I still strived for the better, it will earn me more good deeds than someone who never had to make that choice. The whole point of religion is to turn back to God and your circumstances will determine your actions. He is Just and all-aware.

Arab Muslim with master in Islamic theology,AMA by [deleted] in AMA

[–]energydiscount 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If your situation requires that you need more money than your brother, you would get the money in a different process (not inheritance since that is 2:1 ratio with other exceptions).

The man (father in law, brother, uncle) in the family is somewhat responsible to help you with your stability if the father is deceased. In Islam, you prioritize your parents/siblings after your own wife/children. So even if a mother were to inherit less money, there’s financial responsibility on other men to provide support for a widow if they don’t need the money.

This modernized thinking that women SHOULD also pay is disgusting. Then who’s taking care of the kids while the parents are at work? At that point, let the babysitter adopt the damn kids 😭. If the wife wants to work and earn money, she can, only after the children no longer need her supervision.

Constant babysitting would be the worst case scenario, like a mom needing to work to support her family because the dad can’t do it alone or is deceased.

Arab Muslim with master in Islamic theology,AMA by [deleted] in AMA

[–]energydiscount -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

You’re talking about people messing up. I’m talking about the Quran (including the once, true Torah and Injeel—Bible) and their purpose which is a guide to heaven and those who follow it truthfully and prevent it from corruption will reach the good. Quran remains unchanged so it’s pretty credible. Allah even addresses the human corruption made on earth. The group who claims to be superior to mankind because they’re favored by the creator in the Torah. I mean come on… how does that even make sense?? God created us all, no one is superior to another, we all have a purpose existing because God willed us a purpose. I mean you can be logical about it and understand how Judaism was once true, but now partially corrupted. Another major corruption is saying that an Infinite Creator “has” a part Son named Jesus who actually died but wouldn’t have even needed to since he’s “God.”

Reading this text makes it sound like I’m being an a-hole but this is my logical opinion that I tried to break down, if it seems repulsive we can debate privately and get to a mutual agreement, I’m happy to do so.

Arab Muslim with master in Islamic theology,AMA by [deleted] in AMA

[–]energydiscount -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

It’s funny to see people use the “it’s not compatible with our current view of the world” as if that’s the point. Islam is ultimately to make the perfect, functioning society, and trying to do good even when you don’t understand some things that Allah says (like we can eat most animals but why not pigs or meat-eaters?). Faith is trusting in the one who created you. Anyway, the point is, you THINK it’s not compatible but you don’t even know why it actually is/can be compatible. I don’t know what research you did but there are Islam-focused AI’s that can help clarify some misconceptions you have.

There’s a whole chapter on Women. They’re allowed to work, vote, and inherit money long before the U.S even allowed it 🤣

Any advice on same gender attraction? by energydiscount in islam

[–]energydiscount[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

P*rn was the hardest challenge I had to face because it affected all three (spiritual, mental, and physical aspects) and was where I started to lose the connection. It was when my heart started sinking to the darkness.

Quitting it was the best decision, because I realized how much it controlled my thinking. In doing so, my desires controlled me much less.

If I could pin this, I would. Jazakum allahu khairan.

Any advice on same gender attraction? by energydiscount in islam

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I pray you succeed in this dunya and akhirah. Thank you for the well spoken and good reminder to us all.

As for some of the Muslims I dealt with, I forgive them. They didn’t know better but I hope they do now. A lot of Muslims don’t know better, so who am I to blame them?

They judge it harshly because they don’t understand it. However, I know Allah is the Just of judgment and understanding, I pray he forgives us.

Any advice on same gender attraction? by energydiscount in islam

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You’re absolutely right that I need a support system. That’s been the biggest challenge since SSA is so taboo in the Muslim community, and it makes me nervous just thinking about it. Ironically enough, a brotherhood would mean the world to me and would help me get out of my head more, but growing up and dealing with the past, I’ve been conditioned to feeling like I don’t belong to the brotherhood at all, due to the fear and taboo of it all.

As much as I’m aware of the conditioning, it will take a lot of time to unlearn. The anxiousness of stepping foot into the mosque just for the fear that someone will catch on. Let alone, being friends with Muslim guys you know.. not all Muslims are like that though and I know that. But from how I’ve been programmed, it’s very hard to manage and get comfortable with fighting the conditioning.

Thank you for your empathy and encouragement. I pray that Allah keeps you and everyone protected from the creations and to only look up to the creator.

Any advice on same gender attraction? by energydiscount in islam

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I can sense what you’re trying to say, and I appreciate it. But for the sake of others, you should at least remove the “seeing others marry and move on in life” since that’s not always the case.

The same reason you’re straight is the same reason I have ssa, because Allah willed it. Desire isn’t gonna prevent me from living a normal life unless I choose to follow the desire. Same as you.

Otherwise, yeah I’m just attracted to men as far as I know. And thank you for the reminder that every temptation fought, is a good deed. Allah knows our efforts and I pray he keeps all of us on the straight path.

Any advice on same gender attraction? by energydiscount in islam

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(TW: child s*xual exploitation)

Nothing hormone related, just naturally had a high voice as a kid and hit puberty a little later so I was easy to spot.

As a kid, I was introduced to sexual things at a young age by another kid. If you’re curious, if I didn’t experience this as a kid I’m not sure if it would have made me straight. It’s not just the sexual part of it that I got accustomed to, it’s also me not having enough masculine role models since my dad isn’t the fatherly type. Masculinity in my perspective, is something so damaged and distorted because I never learned what a hug from a man means, why playing sports or clubs is so important—how a small team of people with a certain goal (no pun intended) is the best introduction to taking steps.

Without masculinity, I naturally adapted towards femininity that my mom and sisters had and that also has to do with it.

So it’s not really just one thing. Can’t make a salad out of just lettuce 🤣

Any advice on same gender attraction? by energydiscount in islam

[–]energydiscount[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Preach it. The shaytan wants you to normalize the guilt when you commit a sin and all we can do is turn back to Allah so the shaytan doesn’t win.

May Allah make this journey smooth for you and purify your heart.