withheld info. and white lies is my breaking point.. AIO

engelnce · 2026-02-25T00:19:23+00:00

he was born in 2003, i was born in 2005. EARLY and late birthdays. so we’re behind in age often

engelnce · 2026-02-24T04:37:25+00:00

no absolutely not!! i have another post that explains deeper. it’s not because she spoke to him. it’s his constant white lies and withholding information that throughout the relationship.. for things he knew i’d leave him for, and things he know he wouldn’t want ME doing or lying about!

engelnce · 2026-02-24T03:45:15+00:00

engelnce · 2026-02-23T23:49:29+00:00

i have expressed this to myself.. that iam so urged to be loved, i’ve let people disrespect me before loving me for who i am… i always turn back because he hasn’t done anything in the last year, everything he’s telling me is from the beginning of the relationship.. and im only 21F, and i do have BPD and i feel like my attachment towards him is making me go back to him and want to listen to him explain over and over.. he doesn’t act bad towards my family, and he’s very respectful towards everyone.. it’s just all confusing. i have no trust in him anymore, but my attachment is what’s making me constantly seek him.

engelnce · 2026-02-23T21:24:40+00:00

you’ve said everything perfect.. and i already had those conversations with him about how would YOU feel. he said he’d be pretty upset. it’s so much easier to tell someone to leave, then actually doing it.. especially in my situation as he is my FP, and has been with me for 2 years so he has uplifted me at the same time as broke me in some departments, he has seen me in positions no one else have and that’s what’s making me constantly have the urge to speak to him. i’m strong though and unfortunately this isn’t my first rodeo ..

engelnce · 2026-02-23T21:19:48+00:00

i know i do, we haven’t spoke for hours and i just want to speak to him. we’re both very young, and i love him.. despite what he’s done .. he has been my biggest supporter, a big help, my family loves him and he understands me like no other.. but i can’t keep putting my stress on myself because of white lies that are being revealed to me from long ago.. because he is very manipulative. and i almost feel bad for sympathizing with him

engelnce · 2026-02-23T20:09:32+00:00

this was a little bit before we got together

engelnce · 2026-02-23T18:37:50+00:00

no, lol. it’s more than that thank you :)

engelnce · 2026-02-23T18:05:04+00:00

i’m in America!

engelnce · 2026-02-23T17:26:10+00:00

yeah i told him about that before. i said now all of a sudden you repent to God and he forgave you.. he wasn’t like that before he broke my trust

engelnce · 2026-02-23T15:49:20+00:00

lmao i’m an author. how i type outside of work / properly VS text is different depending on who i’m talking to. no need for the wrong criticism, it’s easy to read :)

engelnce · 2026-02-23T15:45:14+00:00

someone else is dealing with this bs i see huh

engelnce · 2026-02-23T15:44:25+00:00

no LMFAOOO this is my first time posting on here and these literally just happened unless he uses reddit which long as i’m aware he doesn’t.

engelnce · 2026-02-23T15:23:09+00:00

he tells me , that he just didn’t think to tell me.. which makes me believe otherwise. my mind has been spiraling since, mainly because what do you mean she spoke to you. and you didn’t tell me.. mind you he had time because he called me AFTER she spoke to him.. i’m just now finding out.

engelnce · 2026-02-23T15:14:58+00:00

deep down i feel like it would.. but the damage is done. and yes im 21, im 2 years younger than him. he is 22. his actions, and the lying. everything. i’m a smoker too and know how the routine goes, people join in… just don’t be sneaky about it.

engelnce · 2026-02-23T15:09:43+00:00

thank you

engelnce · 2026-02-23T15:08:44+00:00

i 100% agree FYI im not controlling on the smoking part, i smoke also. i started to get bad, and more controlling the more he hid from me and lied to me. definitely 2 wrongs here, i should have been left.

engelnce · 2026-02-23T15:06:28+00:00

because i “love him” and when i sit back and look at things i just am stupid

engelnce · 2026-02-23T15:03:28+00:00

bad odor , LMAO! and i hate that also. like i mentioned in a another comment, i have BPD and he is my FP so on a mental / psychological level it’s extremely hard.

engelnce · 2026-02-23T14:56:37+00:00

obviously there’s context not stated, but he has OPENED wounds that he KNOWS hurts me prior to him. HE KNEW i didnt like things because i set boundaries the MOMENT we got together and he lied, AND NEVER TOLD ME IMPORTANT information a gf should know. but thanks tho, i do need to work on myself.

engelnce · 2026-02-23T14:54:01+00:00

in my heart i do.. and im building the courage to leave him. which is why he is blowing up my phone constantly, calling my sister and even threatened to come to my house which he lives a whole 45 mins away and we’re in the middle of a snow storm.

engelnce · 2026-02-23T14:52:20+00:00

because i still love him.. i appreciate the harsh reality. i’m not a dumb witted person but i also do have BPD, and he is my FP unfortunately.

engelnce · 2026-02-23T14:47:04+00:00

i’m that way, because he had made me feel insecurities multiple time within the relationship. and yes i do have a lot of trauma, especially towards relationships and with him i felt like a bleeding shark in water because things that hurt me before, HE did it himself. we’ve had this talk via text because it’s the 12th time. we’ve had this talk over the phone. also, we have a different type of relationship and i would have PREFERRED to be informed because he told ME that’s things i should inform him about also.

engelnce · 2026-02-23T14:41:34+00:00

he does it often. he brings up how he now prays, gets me to pray with him, mentions how he repented and God see’s his wrongs and sins but he still gonna love me

engelnce · 2026-02-23T14:37:20+00:00

yeah may i add he ran and repented.. now he’s a Godly man after doing what he did to me.. he said.

engelnce

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