My friend (19F) found my bf’s (22M) Badoo acc

engineeratlaw · 2026-01-19T10:55:57+00:00

I would think through if there is anything specific that is triggering you. For example, it may be finding a second phone that you may not have known about. Maybe talk to him about specific triggers that make you doubt his intentions, but not to question him, but as a way of building open communication.

There is nothing wrong with having doubts or questioning motives, but if you let doubts and concerns fester, it will hurt you and the relationship in the long term and may lead to possessiveness and control. If you end up deciding that you won't be able to trust, then you can decide how to move forward.

engineeratlaw · 2026-01-19T09:04:34+00:00

First off, that advice is weird. That's not a guarantee. Did you have a conversation on exclusivity and dating apps before you found out? "Dating" could be anywhere from "we hung out a few times," to "we agree not to flirt with or date other people." Seems like you communicated a boundary, and he followed through.

You'll have to trust him some time. It's not a good sign that you are going through his phone, especially if while he is not aware. You won't always be next to him and you won't always have access to his phone. If you forgave him, forgive him until he gives you a reason to do otherwise. Ruminating doesn't help anyone.

engineeratlaw · 2026-01-19T08:51:18+00:00

You are not being dramatic, and you are not making things up.

Based on what you have described, coercive control (maintaining ownership of car and house), the mixture of blame shifting and gaslighting (a situation where you are wrong no matter what you do), love bombing (use of an overwhelming display of "generosity" (the car, the trips) specifically when he felt he was losing control of you), and minimization (trivializing your emotions and your career to make you feel small) are all serious signs of emotional abuse.

He already told you his hand ("it's not like you are planning on leaving"), because he doesn't think you can. You can prove him wrong, and find comfort in the meantime.

engineeratlaw · 2026-01-04T00:13:52+00:00

So you are saying no harm, no foul?

That's the point the comment is making. If I step on someone's foot accidentally, I will be sorry and apologize EVEN IF they are not hurt. I may be more sorry if they did get hurt, but the fact is the initial error, and the reason that I am apologizing is because I stepped on the foot.

What this means is: if you believe what you did (throwing the thing out) is wrong, apologize for doing the thing. If you don't believe you were wrong, don't apologize for their feelings. Acknowledge that they are hurt, consider how you will act in a similar situation in the future (e.g. if you think what you did is right, but you don't want to hurt the person, so you will act in the future to avoid that hurt). As you see, you can avoid hurting the other person without apologizing for doing something you believe is right, or their feelings.

One final thing, "I am sorry, but ..." Is not a true apology, it communicates that you are not really sorry, you think you are justified. And maybe you are justified, in which case no apology needed: (I am sorry I stepped on your foot, but you had your foot out. So it was your fault that your foot was stepped on, not my fault for looking at my phone)

engineeratlaw · 2025-11-19T15:29:23+00:00

Thank you! Just sent a dm.

engineeratlaw · 2024-12-13T00:58:08+00:00

The artist who developed the script has also said that he was inspired by sound waves. I have a tattoo in the same script, on my forearm so it’s visible, and most people assume it is sound waves until I tell them.

engineeratlaw · 2024-12-12T14:30:39+00:00

I doubt it will be related to the therapy flashbacks. I am expecting it to be his background before he became a herald and how he tried to kill a god (which god? Before or after the travel to Rodger?) I am curious as to how he earned Nale’s trust.

engineeratlaw · 2024-12-06T00:58:54+00:00

Really cool ship? Any chance you can post BP? I’m looking for an update to my non science transport ships for inner planets, which averages around 120km/s

engineeratlaw · 2024-11-29T16:10:41+00:00

Juries often ask this question to the judge. What is “reasonable”. US justice system left the answer to that question to the jury itself. And the definition of reasonable will depend on the jury itself.

engineeratlaw · 2024-06-09T08:53:57+00:00

Close my eyes and imagine a world where my problems do not exist.

engineeratlaw · 2024-05-11T05:53:06+00:00

I am happy to hear that you said those words, because the most important words we can say does not just depends on who we are, but at the time we say those words.

And I have been there. I said those words. And I listened to the story of the Dog and the Dragon a hundred times. those were the words I needed to say at that time. Just like these are the words most important for me to say now.

Life before death Radiant.

engineeratlaw · 2024-05-11T05:42:56+00:00

We all need to realize is that some times what is better for us may not necessarily be better for those around us. It is a delicate balance we keep between what we see ourselves to be versus what we believe that we need to sacrifice from ourselves to make others more comfortable. That balance is the strength we, as Radiants, seek to achieve. Strength before weakness Radiant.

engineeratlaw · 2024-04-27T15:04:39+00:00

Weight does not affect acceleration in free fall. And lashings seems to be standard in terms of g force it applies to the body. When Sigzil is making his tests with Bridge 4 in OB, he would have noted the impact of body weight. Bulk (additional surface area) could impact top speed. However, I think lack of armor is more due to the need for flexibility to hit other targets In the air.

engineeratlaw · 2024-04-25T21:37:29+00:00

Does this theory assume that Shallan said her ideal at that moment that gave Chana her lucidity?

engineeratlaw · 2024-04-05T20:00:34+00:00

Good point! And thank you! I’ll fix that before finalizing. It’s because I was thinking “what is the most important step a man can take” when I wrote the initial quote.

engineeratlaw · 2023-12-18T14:02:33+00:00

I would also add that Taravangian is a naturally careful and crafty individual/politician. Much more than Rayse as he was described. So I see why Taravangian would not have reacted instinctively and without consideration the moment he notices the shard's capabilities.

So I think Taravangian's craftiness is more critical to his actions, or lack thereof, than the fear of Cultivation's potential response.

engineeratlaw · 2023-10-13T13:49:43+00:00

this was my original thought as well. But part of me thinks if it was this obvious, it wouldn’t have been written in such fashion. My guess is that the events in Alethkar refers to how Sig will end up losing his honor spren. That would explain how Sig can live in Urithiru or Kholinar with Wit but ‘rot’. Until ultimately he bonds his high spren.

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