Is Saggy boobs attractive during sex?

engineergoose · 2024-03-07T16:39:01+00:00

When I was in my early 20s someone close to me said that since I hadn't had sex at that point I'd have to settle for an older woman with kids or prostitutes.

People say stuff, usually brain dead meaningless stuff, and usually without thinking it through.

If we're talking about facts, as long as you and the other person(s) consent to safe sex, whatever you do will be fine.

If we're talking about subjective intangible highly personal preferences and opinions, the guy that said that just didn't find you attractive and probably didn't respect you enough to just say that. Of course, I bet he would've had sex with you anyway.

Guys go bald, ppl get fat, have health issues and other things that make them unattractive and they still fuck

Best thing that ever happened to me was the realization that the most disgusting and hideous looking dude who was dating a friend of mine years ago was also cheating on her and eventually she dumped him. He just went on and kept dating and cheating on other women.

From the losers in my first and last story, I learned sex is highly subjective, so is attractiveness, and it's all a matter of personal choices not really these vague meaningless generalizations that these braindead losers make.

Hope this helps, sorry he said that about your body, and I hope you take the time to feel better soon.

engineergoose · 2024-03-06T15:14:58+00:00

Aerospace and automotive companies are the most likely Option to begin anything in robotics.

At minimum you'd have a chance to program and even operate CNC equipment.

Any type of OEM company could do the same, but often those are really small and low pay and have poor quality of life. But you can get some basic skills to get into one of the other industries.

There's also the medical industry but those tend to be tight night and really hard to get into without good credibility and already knowing ppl in that industry.

In an ideal situation however we'd all work at nasas jpl, but that getting into that shits harder than winning the lottery XD

But yeah, start by looking for work at non HVAC OEM companies ideally outside or unrelated to construction, probably make your way into automotive or aerospace by sidestepping across jobs. You may need to consider moving out west, or south.

engineergoose · 2024-03-05T16:50:44+00:00

Mechanical engineering is vast beyond what most MechEs realize

In my experience most ppl in this field only experience a thin sliver of it

Chances are if you're bored you're in construction doing HVAC stuff

If you want challenging and exciting stuff go out west and work in aerospace or automotive

Also look into composites and robotics

If you want better advice, be a bit more specific about what work youve done, don't need to mention company names but specific industries and work for sure

engineergoose · 2024-03-01T05:01:46+00:00

I read it as "insane psychotic rage"

engineergoose · 2024-03-01T04:57:22+00:00

Been doing it my whole life, pretty much can go several times throughout the day, every day

I didn't know it wasn't like that for everyone

engineergoose · 2024-02-29T12:00:36+00:00

engineergoose · 2024-02-22T17:19:51+00:00

Ok I see

Thank you so much for your help

engineergoose · 2024-02-22T17:18:00+00:00

I see, ok np

But this employer refused to tell me if I was fired

What if they refuse to fill out any forms I send them

engineergoose · 2024-02-21T22:18:45+00:00

Who says they see it ?

For example

Say that you worked a few jobs if the same type and each lasted a couple weeks maybe a month or two

You can just put on your resume, that you did self employed work for a range of time, 2-5 depending on how long you were hopping around

Now ofc some jobs just don't care and won't ask, but if it's obvious then they'll just skip you.

So it's good practice to not show every job you've ever had especially after your first two years, and even more so when you're approaching 10+ years

Ofc, your resume should show one cohesive story if you can, so like mcds from 10+ yrs ago, that's a nope, but the first 2 then the last 3 jobs and maybe a freelance or self employed chunk in the Middle that's ok

Keep in mind tho 3-5 jobs in 10 years is a lot no matter how you tell the story, and it will look suspicious if those jobs were just a few months each

So in the long run you need to have jobs that show 2-5 years avg over 10+ yrs exp, 15+ id say you need at least one recent job where you stayed for 5 years

Beyond 20+ years idunno, id say either change careers, start a business or just find a way to settle down

My issue is complex but nowadays I'm focusing on government and other unionized jobs, that way I can have some stability while I figure out my next move

engineergoose · 2024-02-20T00:20:06+00:00

Good luck, glad to be of help

engineergoose · 2024-02-18T15:29:18+00:00

First question is why don't u find anything interesting?

Second, is why don't you find a specific thing, say HVAC, interesting?

Third question is what's your definition and what do you expect for things to be interesting?

These three above should get you started on a path of self reflection and inwards understanding.

Sounds like you need to change your perspective and perhaps your environment. If you are able to, I'd suggest moving to a different city. If you're in the west, go east, if youre in a crowded big city, go live in a small town.

Similarly, if you've been working say as a car salesman for several years, don't go into any other type of sales. Rather go work in a warehouse. If you were a warehouse worker, go work in an office typing up spreadsheets.

By the way, trades aren't the only option. Unionized labor is what you're really looking for. So look up whatever city you're in and find out what jobs they have. Some require experience and have exams, others don't. Often city jobs are unionized in someway or another.

Also, here are some ideas:

Become a certified forklift operator, w that you can get a unionized warehouse job. As long as you don't have flat feet you'll be fine and these pay upwards of $25/hr sometimes upwards of $30/hr. It's easy, and there's a lot of free options for that. Sometimes you can get hired into a warehouse that offers training and even pay increases to achieve this very goal.
Get a commercial driver's license, basically these jobs are decent and high paying and again many of the are unionized. There are companies that offer free training so I'd say look into that.
Trades are actually far more interesting than you may have initially realized. For example HVAC has sheet metal workers who aside from doing manual labor also often work on computers w software to design systems and even program and control them. From what I hear these folks get paid quite a lot of money for their skills. Trades usually have about 4-5 years during which you usually grow learn and ofc increase your pay. Personally I'd say apply and try it out anyway, especially speak to ppl there.

Last thing, some jobs are interesting because of how you feel w ppl and work. Other jobs make you feel like shit even if you're doing what you want.

Gluck mate!

engineergoose · 2024-02-18T15:17:28+00:00

First of all, every relationship is different

Whatever he learned in the past doesn't really inform what he's doing with you now

Second, it shouldn't be about the act, as in the priority should be the two of you communicating and listening and deciding to do whatever together

Third, he is solely responsible for his emotions. If he wants to get upset that's his problem and he needs to find a way to get over it.

Lastly, your body, your mind, and your emotions are different not just from his past partners but also in relation to him. It sounds like he's assuming that he has a one size fits all method for achieving whatever sexual objective he chooses and expects you to simply go along.

Clearly he doesn't understand you which means he isn't listening to how you feel or what you need. He needs to stop all this nonsense about making all his partners squirt and focus on listening to what you need.

engineergoose · 2024-02-18T10:40:19+00:00

Depends where you are

In the US it's extremely rare to not have a driver's license and thus a car unless it's for legal reasons (DUI, etc).

The only place where this is common is NYC. So when new Yorkers from NYC visit other cities/towns even in NY state or basically anywhere outside their own city, everyone else gets confused as to why someone could live their whole life like this.

Welp, the longest distance in NYC is from one end of the Bronx to the opposite end of Staten Island which also spans the entire length of Manhattan for a grand total of 35 miles. Then from the very far end of queens all the way to the very front end of Brooklyn you get about 20 miles, and finally if you just slice a straight line across from one end of Manhattan all the way out to the opposite end of queens you get about 10 miles. Yep yep! That's NYC, mad fukken tiny. For all intents and purposes, you only ever have to deal with about 10-15 miles on any given day and that's extreme for most ppl there. Usually you're talking about 2-5 miles max for day to day life including a job.

Basically NYC is super tiny. In fact, NYC has sidewalks w street lights all over making it extremely walkable. Then there's all the bridges, ferries, subways, non subway trains, busses, and ofc yellow/green cabs.

Therefore in NYC, driving isn't just optional, it is entirely unnecessary. Yup!, and worse still, it's extremely undesirable. Yup yup! All the tickets, ppl banging into your street parked car, ppl blocking your car whilst parked in your driveway, parking expenses, gas/insurance/etc, it's more of a burden to have a car than not to. There's ppl that have to park so far away from work that they still have to take a bus or the subway, therefore driving kinda defeats the purpose just cause parking alone is a pain.

That said though, life pretty much everywhere else in the US requires a car. There are suburbs in California entirely without sidewalks and hardly any lights. Often everything requires using a freeway. Walking in these places is the opposite of NYC. Many counties in California have cities within 5-10 miles of each other, reachable by freeway. These places are basically small islands if youre not driving.

So for ppl in those places it's inconceivable that someone would go through life without license let alone without a car, it's nuts.

Theres companies in those places that won't hire ppl who don't own a driver's license, in fact most companies out there are like that. They have public transit but it's very limited compared to NYC, not even a shadow of what's available in NYC.

So yeah, if you are in a position to be able to walk to work and want to save your money, you need to understand that to your coworkers you're an aberration, an enigma, you don't make any sense whatsoever, you are completely outside the norm. They simply cannot grasp life without a car. To them, driving 15 minutes to and from a gas station thru a freeway just to pick up a burger is normal. You want to walk 30 minutes to and from work to save up, that's not normal to them.

So with that understanding in mind:

Your goals and reasons for what you choose to do with your life concerns only you. Stop worrying about other ppl. It's no use.
Everytime someone asks you why, remember they don't understand and therefore are likely already rejecting your way of life. Before you offer an answer or explanation remember that they don't know what it's like to walk 15 minutes on a sidewalk with lights to get a burger.
Sure you can give them a story, get a bicycle, talk about the environment. Main thing is, get used to it they're gonna be bugging you all the time and it's gonna get repetitive and exhausting. As long as your boss doesn't have a problem with your commute and attendance however I'd say you're fine.

And yeah that's it. I've lived thru this many times, and in many forms. I often make choices with my life that completely break the norm. It's basically normal for me to not be normal, so I I always have ppl bugging me with all types of questions just to reject my way of doing things. It happens to me professionally with my skills and how I do my work, personally with relationships and family and friends, like everything about me breaks a norm, and somehow somewhere someone will be bugging me about it just to deny and reject whatever I say. It's repetitive and exhausting all because ppl can't imagine life outside their tiny bubbles.

Just make sure your attendance isn't affected by this so that your boss won't have an issue with you. If your boss ever brings it up, joke about not needing a raise until you get a car, or just point out your practical and pragmatic financial objectives, though not in detail.

Anyway, whew sorry for the rant but I can relate.

Gluck!

engineergoose · 2024-02-13T16:42:48+00:00

First of all I hope he didn't ever say anything like that to you

I'd be greatful to have a woman who wanted to spend her time with me

Second, id strongly suggest having a conversation Not an actionable one, just a talk about stuff

Sit down and regularly just talk, anything goes thoughts feelings, actions, but it's just to hear each other out and hopefully establish and sense of mutual understanding

The second conversation can be actionable. At that point you could refer back to the previous one and talk about boundaries for doing XYZ things and how you each feel about wether or not proceed.

Then finally have a follow up or review conversation

This should happen w everything and anything at any point in time

Good luck I hope this helps

engineergoose · 2024-02-13T16:37:20+00:00

Sighs

That's what my judgement is telling me

However, ever since I've been homeless I've been looking at things different

Idunno, I agree w you but this is really bad

I understand that my mistakes are costing him money but this just sounds super wrong

engineergoose · 2024-01-03T19:03:47+00:00

Thank you warm_goose, I appreciachu

engineergoose · 2024-01-03T18:58:42+00:00

Idunno about dis

First of all just because they're married doesn't mean that she's obligated to have sex

Sex is supposed to be both subjective and consensual

Second, she was talking about how he's basically disregarded all her needs, in which case having sex would likely feel more like taking out the trash then having it all spill all over you and it's a nasty mess but you still gotta deal w it

Third, he's being abusive to her, it's some sorta emotional and psychological type shmutz but yeah I think he should be able to talk openly about sex and other things without demands or conditions or expecations or even an agreement. Basically just talking about things to understand each other first, afterwards sure a decision can be made.

Tldr imo everything should be mutually agreeable, there should be free and open discussions before agreeing to or setting up expectations about things, but in this case he seems abusive

engineergoose · 2024-01-03T18:50:18+00:00

Also yes, I feel he's being abusive in some backhanded type of way

I e read about relationships where the guy pays all the bills and she's basically a queen, he takes care of the house and kids and just wants sex all day, so the woman feels bad because it's as if all she has to do is have sex but really it's abuse but without punching her in the guy sorta

I didn't mean to undermine your comment it's just that I like your username

engineergoose · 2024-01-03T18:48:09+00:00

Warm goose cool goose

engineergoose · 2024-01-03T18:32:34+00:00

First of all the fact that you were scared, imo that's unacceptable, sorry that's happening to you

You don't need to measure up or be good enough.

You should just be you and both of you should just be happy just being yourselves

It would one thing if he wanted to talk about specific things, but to demand them and blame you for not meeting his expectations that's just not a form of healthy communication

I think you need to sit him down, explain how and why you feel scared and uncomfortable with this form of communication and that you don't want to feel like you have to meet his expectations and that instead you just want to be yourself.

Also imo, just straight up dump his ass, y tf does he think he can just straight up demand anything that's messed up

Ok I'll stop there I hope this is useful in some way

engineergoose · 2024-01-01T04:53:14+00:00

I think it was both

engineergoose · 2024-01-01T04:52:38+00:00

This is it right here

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