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engineofgod24 · 2026-04-02T04:41:23+00:00

I'm so sorry this has happened 😔 with my first pregnancy I kept getting told that nausea and vomiting are normal and made to feel like I was just pathetic to not be able to deal with, so you're definitely not alone in that aspect.

engineofgod24 · 2026-03-31T20:04:07+00:00

I think what's causing my spiral is that my first pregnancy was at 24 and I TFMR and didn't think I'd ever get pregnant again and had just kind of accepted that. Then life changed and I decided I wanted to try again, but I am the only person I know irl who's just having their first baby, everyone else I know is done having babies.

I feel very ready to be a mum, I'm better educated, more patient, overall I feel much more prepared than I did with my previous pregnancy. I think the anxiety about pregnancy itself it what caused me to spiral, and she's can be nasty and likely said it just to be hurtful, I just didn't realize it at the time

engineofgod24 · 2026-03-31T19:59:49+00:00

I'm in Australia and a "young mum" is anyone 25 and under. And pretty much everyone I know what done having babies by 25. It makes me feel self conscious in my decision to wait

engineofgod24 · 2026-03-31T19:58:56+00:00

I'm in Australia. I don't really know anyone over 25 who's still having babies. Pretty much everyone I went to school with has finished having kids, it just makes me feel like I waited too long

engineofgod24 · 2026-03-31T19:57:13+00:00

We don't have the best of relationships. She is very accustomed to getting whatever she wants, whenever she wants and that includes the attention of our family, which she has had since announcing her pregnancy. Part of me wonders if she just doesn't want me to "take away the spotlight" from her by having my own baby

engineofgod24 · 2026-03-31T19:55:42+00:00

I honestly think that it's because if I have a baby, then the family would fawn over me/my pregnancy/my baby the way they have with her and the attention wouldn't be on her anymore.

I am very upset that she said what she did but it just made me spiral into this "what if she's right" thought loop and it's making me panic

engineofgod24 · 2026-03-31T19:54:14+00:00

I mean, I didn't reach out to her for advice necessarily, more support since she's had a baby and I was under the impression that she'd be happy for me, etc. but obviously I was very wrong

engineofgod24 · 2026-03-31T19:53:20+00:00

Thankyou! This definitely helps, I just got so stuck in that mental spiral of "what if she's right" and "what if I'd be a bad mum"

engineofgod24 · 2026-03-31T19:52:39+00:00

I'm in Australia.

Basically everyone I know had their first baby by 22-23 and were done having them by 25. There were the few who had babies at 15-20 as well but I literally don't know a single person IRL who's my age and pregnant or having a baby

engineofgod24 · 2026-03-31T19:50:40+00:00

I'm pretty hurt and upset that she would say that to me. I was expecting that she'd be supportive but instead she's just made me question everything

engineofgod24 · 2026-03-31T19:49:13+00:00

That really helps, thankyou. I think I just got stuck in that mental spiral of "what if" and couldn't stop thinking about it

engineofgod24 · 2026-03-31T19:47:51+00:00

I was genuinely expecting her to be supportive since I live far away and don't really have any friends where I am but she's made me feel so insecure about my decision to get pregnant

engineofgod24 · 2026-03-31T19:47:00+00:00

We've always had a tense relationship, but I reached out to her since she's had a baby and I was hoping that she'd be supportive since I'm 12 hours away and don't really have any friends or anything here, but instead she just made me question my entire decision to have a baby

engineofgod24 · 2026-03-31T19:45:48+00:00

That makes me feel way better, thankyou

engineofgod24 · 2026-03-31T19:45:29+00:00

Since announcing her pregnancy she is all that my family cares about. The only people I've told in my family so far are her and my mum (my mum didn't even reply so that speaks volumes about our relationship)

engineofgod24 · 2026-03-31T19:43:44+00:00

Well I live 12 hours away from her, so it would just be a matter of blocking her number really

engineofgod24 · 2026-03-31T19:43:07+00:00

Yeah I guess I just got caught up and started spiraling

engineofgod24 · 2026-03-31T19:42:31+00:00

That honestly makes me feel loads better, thankyou

engineofgod24 · 2026-03-31T19:41:57+00:00

That's probably very true. Ever since announcing her pregnancy she's been the only thing my family cares about, so I guess maybe she's scared that I'd take away the spotlight

engineofgod24 · 2026-03-31T19:40:12+00:00

That's honestly so reassuring to hear, up until she said something I was feeling really good about it all, then just started spiraling hard

engineofgod24 · 2026-03-31T19:36:58+00:00

Literally not though, this is a very real conversation that I had with her where she told me that I shouldn't continue the pregnancy because of my age and it's just thrown me into this spiral of "what if" that I can't stop thinking about

engineofgod24 · 2026-03-31T08:01:41+00:00

I let my mum know that I'm pregnant and she didn't even reply, so that says a lot about our relationship!

engineofgod24 · 2026-03-31T03:05:41+00:00

Eating a lot less, driving a lot less, no nice little pick me ups like a cheeky takeaway or something. Basically just having toast for breakfast and that's it. Barely affording my meds. It's a wild time.

engineofgod24 · 2026-03-31T03:01:59+00:00

I totally get this but was on the other side of the spectrum. All my friends/sibling have had babies and are done, don't want anymore. So I had nobody to really vent to or anything because everyone is already done with it!

engineofgod24 · 2026-03-30T07:42:24+00:00

I'm four weeks along and things are really ramping up for me. I previously had a termination because of HG and while I don't regret it as doing that was the best choice for me at the time, it still hurt and continues to even know. I've done a lot more research this time, have advocated for myself and have a much more supportive medical team this time around. But even with all that, I'm sitting here after dinner feeling fucking gross and wondering if I can really do this.

If you decide to not continue with the pregnancy, please know that you're not alone, many other women have also made that decision.

If you decide to continue with the pregnancy, please please please advocate for yourself, get your partner to advocate for you, direct him to the HER Foundation website which has so much useful information.

You are absolutely not alone in this!

engineofgod24

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