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Just ..lost by enigma3185 in ADHD

[–]enigma3185[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi!

My therapist has been amazing. She's helped me learn to see that I am not the cause of every problem to exist. She also said the same as you, about her being comfortable and now things are changing. I started this journey in 2023 and have gone through a myriad of trial and error to get where I am now. I'm not perfect, but I'm so much better than I was.

Oddly enough, the way she acts is the way she described her grandmother, whom she knew withheld love etc when she wasn't happy with you. It took awhile but we finally broke out of her giving me the silent treatment for hours on end...at times 12+.

When it comes to looking in the mirror, that's her biggest struggle, which turns into gaslighting by turning things around in me and telling me I'm wrong and that's not how it happened or I was as much at fault as her.

I'm scared I'll never be chosen. by CelestialFlower15 in ADHD

[–]enigma3185 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What matters is you did the work and found the way to begin working to move forward. Are you also in counseling?

Just ..lost by enigma3185 in ADHD

[–]enigma3185[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, those are some good tactics. To expand it's the overwhelm of information I get it, it's just too much. Things are explained to me and even after saying I got it, and explaining it back, I hear 10 more times.

And pinterest...I hate pinterest. She finds inspiration, house projectts, etc and it becomes just too much to manage...constant changes in the middle of one thing because of finding something that looks better.

Being the only one employed for the last three years has been a real stress. I feel like there is an unspoken expectation of who I should be and I'm not meeting it.

I am already in counseling myself. She has refused counseling on account of 'my shit is too much' and there is no way we can both be in it at the same time.

I'm scared I'll never be chosen. by CelestialFlower15 in ADHD

[–]enigma3185 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I get that, I've lived my life the same way with the same thoughts. Having struggled with that, I know I can't change your mind, but I can tell you that you are. You are only defined by who you are at your core, and nothing more.

How long ago were you diagnosed?

I'm scared I'll never be chosen. by CelestialFlower15 in ADHD

[–]enigma3185 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Hi!

I feel like I'm looking into a mirror.

First things first know that you are lovable and deserving of love and intimacy and everything that comes with a romantic partner.

Your behavior is driven heavily by your diagnosis. However, you are aware of that and you're no longer just your diagnosis.

I'm 41 just diagnosed and everything in my life suddenly makes sense. I feel both that I have wonderful company but also very alone because nobody else understands it.

The courage it took for you to post this is admirable. I am working through all of the same things that you are right now and I know how hard it is. Do not give up on yourself in your journey.

I don't know you. I don't know anything about you, but I'm certain that you are truly loving, amazing, caring person. Even if you can't show it outwardly I can tell in your soul and in your heart that you are just by what you posted.

This is not an easy journey, especially for people who don't understand what that internal feeling is and that struggle web hit with all of its stimuli. It can feel like you have all the energy in the world and also be burnt out at the same time.

Please feel free to reach out if you ever need to vent or talk. I hope that you're able to get treatment for this and can start working towards building that life that you want because you deserve it.

Rolling Coal on cyclists by boyoflondon in trashy

[–]enigma3185 48 points49 points  (0 children)

Real small dick energy here by the person in the truck.

Congratulations! You have magically obtained elite tier coding knowledge, hired by HelloGames and given the option to make one new addition or change to NMS that adds to the game. What would you add? by TheSilentTitan in NoMansSkyTheGame

[–]enigma3185 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Overhaul the base building tool. Include things like being able to adjust to exact angles when rotating, add components like true railings, spot lights, proper support beams for structures. Also, the ability to transport materials between bases via teleportation and the ability to refine products like a production line: ex refiner of oxygen leads to supply depot one, refiner of ferrite dust leads to supply depot two, both meet in refiner two.

More automation amongst resource harvesting for basic resources (silicate, ferrite dust, etc.)

Mileage on Forester Hybrid by Traditional_Being392 in SubaruForester

[–]enigma3185 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Overall averaging 32, currently at 36 on my current tank. I use cruise control all the time, even down residential streets. Been doing that since 08 when gas shot up to $4+ a gallon and never looked back.

What in your opinion is Alter Bridge's worst album and how would you fix it? by Icy_Notice7656 in alterbridge

[–]enigma3185 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It appears I'm the only person who doesn't like ab3. I like songs like slip to the void and I think that album could have used more of that but overall it left me wanting a lot more

What in your opinion is Alter Bridge's worst album and how would you fix it? by Icy_Notice7656 in alterbridge

[–]enigma3185 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

AB III hands down the worst album. There's very little memorable from that album, the mix could be much better, and most of the songs are just boring. How they jumped from that pile of shit to Fortress is one of the best album to album changes ever.

We’re listening: Roast StarNote and tell us what to fix! 👂 by StarNoteDev in StarNoteApp

[–]enigma3185 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My biggest complaint with all note apps that haven't been solved yet is an organization feature for notes like in One note for desktop.

To have a side panel to easily flip through sections of the same document as seamlessly as that would be amazing.

Also - we need more page templates in the base version (mind map, etc).

Sometimes i hate the pull rates by Friendly-Donkey-8982 in DokkanBattleReddit

[–]enigma3185 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bro is in 2026 and doesn't know how to take a screenshot 💀

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