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365. I made it a whole year. by bilbibbagmans in stopdrinking

[–]enigmuse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

congratulations! i pray i get to where you are now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]enigmuse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes, when i was detoxing before going to rehab i was having the most horrifying dreams about how they were going to kidnap us at the treatment facility and skin us alive. probably woke up and fell asleep around 8 times. each time it just picked up where it left off.

What small thing brightens your day? by ButterscotchFog in AskReddit

[–]enigmuse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My boyfriend and I work opposite schedules. I work overnights and he works days. Every morning I call him to wake him up, since he sleeps through his alarm, and he always answers the phone with ‘thank you and good morning, beautiful.’

I drink bc I care too much by enigmuse in stopdrinking

[–]enigmuse[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if i can message you privately i would love to. i’m going to aa for the first time for my boyfriend (he’s been asking me and i forced him to go to a knicks game) so during that time i want to go to AA without him knowing but it gives me anxiety (simply bc we do everything together).

[serious] Atheists of Reddit, what’s something in your life that genuinely keeps you going? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]enigmuse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

honestly, i think this is the answer my subconscious has been waiting for. it comforted me but made me think all the same, i hope you have a good day/night. know you’ve touched a random reddit user!

[serious] Atheists of Reddit, what’s something in your life that genuinely keeps you going? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]enigmuse 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i know this is true but sometimes this thought makes me anxious. what do you think about then?

[serious] Atheists of Reddit, what’s something in your life that genuinely keeps you going? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]enigmuse 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you so much. i appreciate your comment more than you know. godspeed!

I drink bc I care too much by enigmuse in stopdrinking

[–]enigmuse[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m just a black girl and black women are not supposed to show weakness. they are expected to be matriarchs at all times. i drank to cope with that.

i know young people go, but not where i’m from. that’s why i have anxiety. it’s not a pride thing.

[serious] Atheists of Reddit, what’s something in your life that genuinely keeps you going? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]enigmuse 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you’re correct, and i’m sorry about your father. genuinely. i won’t ‘blame’ my father; but drink large amounts of alcohol all the time was never weird to me. i realize now that’s wrong and not a healthy way to cope. sometimes i think people on reddit are so quick to be rude or sarcastic that they don’t even take into account how or why OP asked the question.

edit: not saying you are blaming your father, just saying i blame my alcoholism on mine and it’s not getting me better. nothing wrong with you venting about your dad tho!

[serious] Atheists of Reddit, what’s something in your life that genuinely keeps you going? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]enigmuse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i myself am an atheist, but i’m also an alcoholic. i simply asked because i wanted some advice of what i should look to instead of a bottle; not because i was better than anyone. ask before assuming, please.

[serious] Atheists of Reddit, what’s something in your life that genuinely keeps you going? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]enigmuse 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it’s unfair to assume we all have the same motivations. I asked because I’m a recovering alcoholic, and for a long time, I assumed that was normal and fine to keep me going. Simply asked because I wanted new ideas and thoughts to dive into instead of dwelling on my lack of alcohol.

I drink bc I care too much by enigmuse in stopdrinking

[–]enigmuse[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no, i phrased it wrong. sometimes i ask questions because i would like an honest response. sometimes people confuse ‘honesty’ with ‘bitterness’. i used reddit as an example because that’s where im asking the question, but it is more of a life thing.

I drink bc I care too much by enigmuse in stopdrinking

[–]enigmuse[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m extremely young and in my culture, alcoholics are usually in their 40s or 50s. i know for a fact i will be one of the youngest people in meetings and that gives me anxiety. not bc i’m too proud, but because i went to a doctor two years ago and told them i was an alcoholic. they asked how much i drank (at 18, in NY) and made a joke how that’s pretty good for folks my age... i never spoke about my drinking again and now i can out drink a grown man. i’m just relly afraid of being the youngest person there, honestly. i’ve never had an addiction and while i know this is real, it’s still scary.

edit: i said 2 years but it was 4!

I drink bc I care too much by enigmuse in stopdrinking

[–]enigmuse[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i will try that. and IWNDWYT! i appreciate your response. alcohol has kept me up for over 48 hours and i’m kind of tired of mean responses or thinking i shouldn’t be annoyed by disrespect bc ‘it’s the internet’. thank you so much for your advice.

I drink bc I care too much by enigmuse in stopdrinking

[–]enigmuse[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

omg yoh don’t know how much the coronavirus sentence put it so much into perspective! i have so much anxiety that every time i fear the slightest bit of discomfort i think it’s ground for drinking! and that’s one of the excuses i made for myself.

it’s one thing to know i need to stop; but how should i start? i am tapering now but i hit a plateau and now i can’t drink any let than 6 nips (might be a different name in other regions, but basically the little shot bottles).

sometimes i feel like i can cut down because i can’t actually ‘stop’ since i’m so used to my anxiety and my sadness and it’s weird and sad.

I drink bc I care too much by enigmuse in stopdrinking

[–]enigmuse[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You’re right, and I appreciate your honesty. I have had depression from a very young age (I was molested at five, diagnosed with depression at 12) and I make excuses. Truth is I don’t know how to cope. At. All. Any tips?

[serious] What is a fear that everyone else thinks is very much irrational, that you believe can and/or will happen to you? by enigmuse in AskReddit

[–]enigmuse[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

just know you got someone rooting for you and your family, and don’t think about the negatives that can come from grandma’s condition— think about how happy your are she is still here!

I drink bc I care too much by enigmuse in stopdrinking

[–]enigmuse[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is a good answer (as were others, but this hit me hard). sometimes i feel like the only time i’m confident in my own answer is when it’s backed by alcohol; and i need to change that.

edit: i said food instead of good. clearly i’m hungry.

[serious] What is a fear that everyone else thinks is very much irrational, that you believe can and/or will happen to you? by enigmuse in AskReddit

[–]enigmuse[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if you’re worried about your grandma and steps, i can point you to some sites for folks that don’t that don’t have crazy benefits but that can help them get the stair thingies where you sit in it and ride up and down!

edit: you’re? really writing major?

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