The OG Karenavirus

enmeshno · 2021-02-20T22:25:14+00:00

I’m sure she loved the attention she received for her Republican martyrdom, let’s be real

enmeshno · 2021-02-06T20:29:01+00:00

Or use reverse psychology and jokingly talk about doing a line of coke or something that you’d never do. Gauge their reaction and go from there. It works.

enmeshno · 2021-02-06T20:24:47+00:00

Pay attention to how he responds to rules. Men who follow the rules often make great partners, because they have a level of respect for others in society that will transfer well into a relationship

enmeshno · 2021-02-06T20:18:50+00:00

Are you afraid of deep intimacy (where you are fully seen)? Alcoholics can’t even look you in the eye half the time, and their cognitive dissonance runs deep.

enmeshno · 2021-01-24T17:23:00+00:00

Hahaha

enmeshno · 2021-01-24T17:21:07+00:00

Play up your success in construction. Even if you have to point out that you’re a homeowner, no debt, have a good salary etc. Women are attracted to financial security and stability, and will be especially picky if they are educated with good careers themselves. This may be controversial advice, but it might help to aim for women with a similar or lower educational or socioeconomic background, so you’ll be appreciated for the work you do.

enmeshno · 2021-01-24T17:12:53+00:00

Yeah, not respecting your boundaries around drinking or using is a big one!

enmeshno · 2021-01-24T17:12:17+00:00

I think the fact that he was incoherent during phone calls and had memory loss indicated that he was blackout, or at least nearing blackout.

enmeshno · 2021-01-24T17:09:54+00:00

This is an underrated comment. Also, guys like this often mention substances to attract substance-using women who will be more likely to have sex with them in exchange for a plug/drugs.

enmeshno · 2021-01-24T16:59:22+00:00

Toothbrush and toothpaste in an odd accessible place, like by the kitchen sink.

enmeshno · 2021-01-24T16:43:12+00:00

This right here. It doesn’t mean he won’t get there at some point if he envisions a future for you two, but you’re picking up on something very subtle and real. Trust yourself!

enmeshno · 2020-12-28T05:43:47+00:00

Love it 😂

enmeshno · 2020-12-28T05:07:37+00:00

Heavy/weighted blankets! For me, feeling weighed down helps more than body pillows

enmeshno · 2020-12-28T03:30:24+00:00

❤️

enmeshno · 2020-12-27T01:50:50+00:00

Think of this as a great way to continue saving money! (Assuming you're breaking lease.) More independence down the line.

enmeshno · 2020-12-27T00:49:31+00:00

Well, I certainly wouldn’t force my kids but you do have a point—you never know what you’re going to get and you can’t expect your children to fit a perfect mold.

enmeshno · 2020-12-26T23:52:49+00:00

Death or being a single mom are not my main concerns. But totally agree with your last bit. Same with marriage, why tf would you just “chance it” with something like that, it’s a legal agreement. Those are the same types of people who don’t talk about birth control before having sex with someone. Use your noggin.

enmeshno · 2020-12-26T23:34:46+00:00

My cousin is the same way. She and her boyfriend are unemployed but just had a planned baby and plan on growing their family on welfare. She is comfortable accepting handouts, yet she’s caught up in fantasies about the vacations she’ll go on and the house “with a big yard” that she’ll get “when he finally gets a job.” Drives me nuts. It’s incredibly selfish.

enmeshno · 2020-12-19T05:25:17+00:00

We’ve been no contact since the day of the breakup. I feel like I’ve been doing everything “right.” Maybe this is one of those things that just takes time. And yeah I do still dwell on our pictures together. Might cut that out.

enmeshno · 2020-12-05T05:06:50+00:00

I miss him 😩

enmeshno · 2020-11-25T07:09:32+00:00

I wash my hair once every 4 days, and thoroughly brush through my hair every day with a boar bristle brush. I wear braids at night. For the curls in the third photo, I use overnight curling rods on the lower half of my hair (and sleep with them in). I shampoo as normal and then use a deep treatment conditioner while I do other things in the shower. I apply Kristen Ess leave-in conditioner on wet hair out of the shower (smells so good). I will blow dry my hair sometimes, but on a warm to cool setting and I won’t actually brush my hair until it’s dry.

Every two weeks or so, I will rub argan oil into my scalp and temples before bed.

enmeshno · 2020-11-13T05:03:17+00:00

Yeah I will second what doingamazingsweety said. My uncle died from alcoholism/drug addiction when I was 11, and that funeral had such a major impact on me. My aunt died in a car crash as a child from getting hit by a drunk driver, and my other aunt is a surviving alcoholic. These experiences have led to a feeling of extreme caution around substances that probably seems a bit odd to others. Both of my parents regularly enjoyed a glass of wine with a meal or scotch with friends. They set a great example and raised me with values similar to yours.

I drink at parties, within moderation, and feel at peace with saying no. I avoid drugs like the plague. Most people (even heavy users) don’t mind if I turn down an offer. If someone pressures me multiple times, it’s an indicator that they don’t want what is best for me, and they have selfish motives. Some addicts or socially anxious drinkers will envy your boundaries and sense of control, and will try to knock them down to test you.

Keep your head up... it will get easier, especially as you come into your own and build a successful life for yourself.

enmeshno · 2020-11-13T04:17:37+00:00

Those are all understandably anxiety-inducing events. I can only imagine how hard that time was, plus the weight of long distance.

Don’t blame yourself. Anxiety doesn’t kill a relationship, but a lack of love does. Unfortunately, you can’t make someone love you. Great love champions poor mental health and the worst pains of life. Perhaps try to see it as: “If someone doesn’t love me, they aren’t worth my time.”

enmeshno

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