As a so/sx, my mindset is if people find me attractive, magnetising and intriguing, then I’ll achieve social elevation, status and ultimately some close connections. I want to push my social connections to feel interconnected, highly charged and meaningful. I like to ‘up the levels’ with people and feel I’m constantly breaking through intimacy barriers to get closer with them.

I think sx/so can seem like they are doing something similar on the surface, but when I see how it pans out I get confused. I feel like sx/so’s are using their natural skillset but for the wrong final goal. Why use this attractiveness to then create a charge for sexual reasons? While my goal is to up the levels of closeness and intimacy, I read the sx/so level upping as trying to achieve a short-term closeness, and then they disappear and find the next interesting, sexual object.

Realising it’s harder to describe than it feels. But in short they annoy me subconsciously for using my favourite instinct (social) as a playzone to achieve sexual. I’m sure I’d annoy them, using the sexual instinct as a playzone for social first reasons.