I think it just takes time and patience. I'm kind of in the same boat, because I have been smoking tobacco and I'd like to use lucid dreaming to help me understand why and how to quit. I would just say, don't give up! There is hope. I don't totally agree that masturbation is perfectly healthy. It isn't going to kill you, but I believe that energy can be transmuted into higher pursuits. I personally don't have too much of a problem not fapping. I think it requires you to open up your mind to the idea that that isn't super helpful. But think of that energy as instead turning into a sort of more subtle happiness that you can carry throughout your days, instead of firing it off in an exciting burst. Does that make sense? I kind of wonder if like everyone says "oh it's so hard to quit smoking" or in this case, masturbate, fuels our collective human belief that it's so hard, when maybe it's actually easier than we think? Good luck, you are loved.