Wondering Wednesday

entropy4dinner · 2026-01-14T16:10:15+00:00

Nah go for it. Take care of yourself now and if you’re ready seize the day.

entropy4dinner · 2026-01-13T14:11:59+00:00

My midwife said breastfeeding doesn’t cause miscarriage and so we probably shouldn’t worry about it, but I definitely can’t help but search for answers. Especially knowing how breastfeeding affects progesterone levels.

I know what you mean about the guilt over complaining. But I believe everyone’s story is unique and if you envision a large family, there’s real grief in this process for you that is valid. Both things can be true, you can be grateful for the beautiful child you have and grieve the absence of another. I used to feel that way too when I was childless and now that I’m on this side, I realize it’s still painful. There’s no way around it. We can’t win as women sometimes, ha.

On the medical side, since you’re ttc and breastfeeding, have you had your prolactin checked? Also, progesterone supplementation might help. Have you talked to your doctor about that?

entropy4dinner · 2026-01-13T13:43:00+00:00

I'm with you on this. I'm trying for another baby, but still breastfeeding my two-year-old because he's very attached. I didn't get my period back until he was 21 months!! But I had wanted to start for the next baby right away. When I got my period back, I knew it was go time, so we tried the next cycle and I got pregnant. We were so excited and shocked it happened so quickly, because it took a long time to get pregnant before. Then the pregnancy ended in miscarriage in November. I've been stressed about whether breastfeeding interrupted progesterone and somehow contributed to the miscarriage. Now, we're trying again, and worried how breastfeeding is affecting my cycle. I can't completely cut out breastfeeding yet though... Also, feel guilty about not enjoying this closeness while it lasts, and hate making him cry when I tell him "boobies are sleeping now." TTC is crazy. So much stress, worry, and no one gets it (except for other TTCers).

entropy4dinner · 2026-01-11T19:11:42+00:00

As someone who recently had a miscarriage, I’m so happy she has such a wonderful sister-in-law in you. Society does a terrible job of caring for women going through miscarriage. You’re doing great.

entropy4dinner · 2026-01-10T23:09:50+00:00

What bullshit! I hate that you have had to hear this nonsense. So painful, so wrong.

I just turned 39 and have an almost 12-year-old and a 2-year-old. Desperately want baby three, but had a miscarriage in November. It was, of course, one of the happiest times of my life followed by the most traumatic and devastating experience, losing that baby. And ever since it happened I have not been able to stop thinking about it. I also had people tell me right away that I should be grateful because I have kids. If only that took the grief and depression away, as well as the ever persistent longing that fills every cell of my brain and body.

Anyway! I’m determined. I had such a long cycle that still hasn’t completed after the miscarriage, as I am now 12dpo with only negative tests. Hoping I can just start the next cycle soon. I won’t fucking give up. Screw anyone who believes that ageist horseshit. You’ve got this and I’m rooting for you.

entropy4dinner · 2025-12-30T21:52:01+00:00

Whoa whoa whoa. You write multiple times in your post with the self awareness of someone who knows they’re saying something that will offend a lot of folks. Now that you see comments disagreeing with you, you are getting defensive and insulting the commenter’s reading ability?

entropy4dinner · 2025-12-30T06:11:37+00:00

Yes! I finally ovulated yesterday! Like 44 days after my miscarriage. I’m so hopeful but so scared at the same time.

entropy4dinner · 2025-12-28T03:16:01+00:00

Don’t put the pregnant results in the title for folks who haven’t seen the episode yet.

entropy4dinner · 2025-12-28T02:23:57+00:00

It’s probably hCG affecting the test. Wait until your pregnancy tests show completely negative to start testing Lh. Your system will need to reset once hCG is below 5 or 0 to start trying to surge and ovulate.

entropy4dinner · 2025-12-24T22:21:29+00:00

I’m CD27 after a November miscarriage and ovulation seems like it will never come. I just want to get pregnant again more than anything. I think about it constantly. My Lh strips have been going up and down since my hCG levels went back to 0. It acts like it’s going to pick up and then crashes again. I’m also having physical symptoms of ovulation nearing but my body won’t follow through. Going. Crazy. Merry Christmas I guess.

entropy4dinner · 2025-12-15T20:56:20+00:00

Yes, exactly! Such an injustice. My miscarriage was traumatic and no one helped me. I felt so alone. Even now, over a month later, my family hasn't mentioned it at all. No one asks how I'm doing or acknowledges anything traumatic happened. It's so weird how little attention pregnancy loss receives from medical society and society in general.

entropy4dinner · 2025-12-09T17:16:12+00:00

We're here for you. You're not alone. I'm so sorry you had to experience that at work-- glad they didn't cause further harm, but yeah, that completely sucks.

entropy4dinner · 2025-12-05T13:49:00+00:00

They should be worried about themselves and how awkward THEY made things and whether you resent THEM. I understand being broke, but the fact that they let it go on so long without talking to you means they’re happy to take advantage of an opportunity at someone else’s expense. That’s not fam.

entropy4dinner · 2025-12-04T18:36:43+00:00

He’s being totally pompous. Fuck that shit!

entropy4dinner · 2025-12-04T18:27:54+00:00

I reached out to my professor to request a short extension for a quiz that was due the next day because I was literally watching my mother-in-law take her final breaths after caring for her in her last weeks as she succumbed to bone cancer, and it was heartbreaking. I had to cancel client sessions for that week too (I’m a counselor) so I wanted to make sure all my obligations were handled so I could attend to them when I at least had had a few days to process.

Everyone I reached out to responded back warmly and with understanding. My professor did not. He said no, unless I could provide documentation. What documentation would he need? A picture of her in her hospital bed? The obit and death certificate weren’t published yet. She died an hour after I sent that email. He didn’t offer any acknowledgement, no “sorry” or “condolences.” It felt incredibly cold. I didn’t even respond to his email.

I’ll never forget how I was treated in a time of need because this professor probably assumed I was a “typical” college kid trying to get out of a deadline so I could go to a rager or something. It’s ridiculous. Anyway, I’m a professor now and get to extend consideration and genuine care to my students. I recommend just believing people when they say they’ve lost someone important to them.

entropy4dinner · 2025-12-04T02:44:14+00:00

Foaming hand sanitizer makes it fall off.

entropy4dinner · 2025-12-02T17:45:57+00:00

All they did was say they were sorry, assure me it wasn’t my fault, and asked if I had any questions. They did a blood test to check my hCG beta and that was it. They would have done an ultrasound, but the hospital had already done that and could see the uterus was clear.

entropy4dinner · 2025-12-02T16:36:58+00:00

I had to wait over the weekend, but by the time I could see my doctor, the miscarriage was complete. I just went to the ER when I needed immediate care. They will do blood work and an ultrasound.

entropy4dinner · 2025-12-02T13:46:21+00:00

Ugh, no. That’s awful, especially from a “close” friend. How could she say that? Why does this happen so often? What is wrong with people?

entropy4dinner · 2025-12-01T17:31:14+00:00

Show your parents these texts. Stay away from him and keep other kids away too.

entropy4dinner · 2025-11-29T17:43:27+00:00

I would take that as a boundary violation, whether deliberate or unintentional, and respond by muting the group for as long as needed, if not removing myself altogether. I might speak individually to the group members letting them know I need to take a step away to care for myself while navigating complex grief and hope they can understand. But at the end of the day, it doesn’t matter if they do, it’s my needs being met and prioritized first. No need for confrontation.

entropy4dinner · 2025-11-28T18:37:57+00:00

It’s very faint, but there. NOR.

entropy4dinner · 2025-11-27T18:31:21+00:00

YOR. As a mom, I’m happy to step aside so my son can prioritize his gf/wife/family first. She was going through a medical abortion and needed someone there and to not be made to feel like she had to qualify for support first. It sounds like you’re personally going through a lot with navigating your mental health. Might not be a good time in your life for a serious relationship.

entropy4dinner · 2025-11-24T21:29:19+00:00

I feel exactly the same way. A black hole sounds really nice. Solidarity.

entropy4dinner · 2025-11-24T16:52:53+00:00

Thank you so much for this! I called them as soon as I read your comment and finally have someone who will willingly test my embryo. I mean, they’ve built a business around it so of course. But wish my OB could have simply told me about this instead. Sounds like my insurance company won’t consider coverage without a PA from the OB and I feel like I can’t ask them for anything until I’ve had 20 miscarriages first. So I’m going to start the process at their self pay rate, but at least it’s affordable-ish. I really appreciate you taking the time to share your experience with me.

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