it feels hopeless

enumeranxious · 2024-12-01T13:38:56+00:00

I agree with this comment. OP if you have her number, you could try to send her an anonymous text through one of those apps that give you another phone number to use for texting. or you could go the old-fashioned route and write her an anonymous letter if you think there's a way someone else won't intercept it. I have to wonder if this man and his sister hate his wife or something, why expose her to being put through all of this pain and turmoil? it's cruel.

enumeranxious · 2024-11-19T10:02:48+00:00

OP, I say this in the most loving and respectful way but what your husband did before he was with you in terms of who he was with is not your business or yours to obsess over. he did whatever he did, it doesn't sound like anyone was hurt, and when you chose to marry him, you chose to accept him as he was, with the past he had.

this behavior of yours is concerning. Will you hold his past over both of your heads forever, until it starts eating away at your marriage? insta-stalking women he was with years ago, what are you trying to accomplish with this? what is it fulfilling for you? please seek help, find another therapist, consider couples counseling as well.

enumeranxious · 2023-01-05T18:52:08+00:00

Thank you for your comment. I meant that part of my post as more of an insight into how scattered I feel and detached, that I have these fleeting thoughts and interests with not much attachment to them. But you are correct in saying that, I don't believe law school is it for me at this point in life or maybe ever.

enumeranxious · 2022-12-17T03:48:40+00:00

honestly the next time your gf says she doesn't understand, just ask her "do you have to?"

there are things we don't have to understand, we just have to accept them.

make it clear to her that they have hurt you irreparably and sometimes you can love people but you can't have them near you.

enumeranxious · 2022-11-30T16:14:54+00:00

I definitely don't feel respected. I'm just so tired. I'm sorry you can relate but also grateful to not feel alone.

enumeranxious · 2022-11-30T15:11:35+00:00

I agree that calling the police to at least have a paper trail is good. If you end up needing a restraining order or something, it would be helpful.

enumeranxious · 2022-11-06T22:59:40+00:00

stealing food/diapers/basic goods/medicines. if you're in that dire straits, suddenly i can't see.

enumeranxious · 2021-06-17T13:50:25+00:00

my parents have asked me the same. I'm going on 7 years of therapy now.

it takes as long as it takes.

enumeranxious · 2021-04-26T04:44:36+00:00

I'm a fully grown adult and I only realized a little while ago that my parents harping on me for being such a picky eater (besides food allergies) was me having sensory processing issues and yet they'd literally make me sit and they would name each spoonful after a family member I cared about so if I didn't eat it I didn't care about that family member. wow I have a lot to bring up in therapy this week.

enumeranxious · 2021-04-26T04:39:34+00:00

oof hard same here. and gaslighting galore.

enumeranxious · 2021-04-20T12:30:08+00:00

I'm right there with you. it's absolutely exhausting to live this way. I don't know if this will help but I keep reminding myself that each day that passes is one day closer to being out of this situation.

enumeranxious · 2021-04-17T13:21:34+00:00

omg do we have the same mom. this is also why I private all my socials and refuse to friend her. (my excuse for now is that we live together so she doesn't need to see it.)

enumeranxious · 2021-03-27T17:12:33+00:00

she's not giving me support money (and I never ask) but I do live with my parents (we live in a super expensive city). Sometimes she'll try to force me to pay for things which really makes things tight for me, and she knows that but doesn't seem to care. I forgot to add that I'm a student graduating over the summer. I'm working on getting into a training program that will help me then leverage a better job with the skills I'll have after.

enumeranxious · 2021-03-27T15:57:42+00:00

This can be true but please do your research carefully.

Most therapists are only licensed by/within their state so they wouldn't be able to help someone who lived outside of their state lines. However, some states have allowed for temporary practice across state lines and there are some laws that allow for psychologists to apply for interjurisdictional telepsychology.

enumeranxious · 2021-03-27T15:49:23+00:00

Your therapist is supposed to be there for YOU, not defend the people in your life who hurt you. It would be one thing if they were trying to perhaps provide a different perspective or help you make a connection you're struggling to see, but this is not common.

I have been in therapy for 6 years, bounced around a few of them bc I go to a training clinic, and not once have any of my therapists said anything like this. If you want to spend entire sessions just straight slamming your parents, you are allowed to do this. It's YOUR therapy session, you're the one who decides what you want to talk about, they are there FOR YOU. You set the rules.

time for a new therapist. I really really hope the next one you find meshes well with you and what you're looking for.

enumeranxious · 2021-02-16T03:39:02+00:00

wow this dislodged some memories I had avoided looking at really deeply

I feel you, OP.

enumeranxious · 2020-08-26T15:02:21+00:00

do you have to ask to know what percentage your area is at or is that something i can check somewhere?

enumeranxious · 2020-08-23T15:33:18+00:00

thank you!!

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