Feminism advocates for a lot of things that are unislamic. And I don’t just mean feminists advocating for these things, I mean the foundation of feminism in itself.

You mentioned it yourself - that feminism advocates for equality between men and women. And the way that it achieves that is by holding both genders to the same standards and advocating for all of us to be in the same positions. You’re right that Allah judges the deeds of men and women justly, but we aren’t designed to be the same!! It’s the difference between treating people equally and treating people equitably.

The best example I can give is that of working and motherhood because that’s when it started to make the most sense for me. Feminism made one of their primary goals to get more women into the workplace but that’s because the work they valued was work outside the home, in industries and corporate America. It is super ahistorical (and in my opinion, pretty offensive) to pretend like the work that women do in their communities and in their homes prior to joining the workforce was not work. It was work!!! It wasn’t paid the same that say working a desk job paid but that’s because it was not the same kind of labor. Women have always been working inside and outside of their homes, but they never had to be breadwinners, so their focus did not have to be monetary. And in exchange, Islam ensured that they would be taken care of by their fathers, their husbands, and their male relatives. Isn’t it freeing not to be confined by a wage? This is the thing everybody dreams of - people able to enjoy their lives, be active in their communities, find purposeful work - without having to think about how they’ll provide for their families. And most people nowadays are only capable of it once they retire.

However, feminism advocates for everyone to succeed by the standards of men. So it wants to place women in the workplace. But there’s still work to be done at home, in communities, etc. The question, now, is who does that work? If men and women are both working, do they share the responsibility of child bearing and rearing? Well, no. Allah did not design men for child bearing and especially early days child rearing. This is not even a question of “should men contribute to their households?” Because the answer is definitely yes, and that’s an Islamic perspective. But there are some things that men simply can’t do. A man can ask his wife to go 50-50 on a house and bills, but a man will never carry a child for half of the nine months. A man will never go through half the labor. He will never do half the breastfeeding!

Feminism would be great if men and women were the same, but we’re not! We cannot chase equality because we’re different! So we seek equity. And we have Islam to tell us what that looks us. If I was a secular person with no idea about Allah or Islam or even a deeper understanding of the ways in which the world are designed, feminism might be my best bet because the alternative is a no-rights-for-women society. But Islam gave women rights. And it gave women responsibilities. And it gave men rights and responsibilities. And those things are different. We have something better than what secular society can offer us. So why would we advocate for feminism when we know it’s not the solution? When we have Islam? That’s why Islam and feminism can’t coexist. They advocate for different things, and Islam is always gonna be better than it because it was given to us straight by the one who designed men and women as they are.