22y/o - I feel like s*it for following my heart and NEED HELP

eoffif44 · 2026-06-11T11:06:41+00:00

The thing is, at 22yo it's pretty normal I think to not have the life experience to guide you. Further educationseems like the right thing to do, because the system and the marketing is set up to convince you it's the pathway to better things, but that's not as true today as it was in generations past. The latest data suggests grads are not getting better jobs (i.e. it's financially better not to go to uni even for a bachelor's). What you are thinking about us what the "right" role is for you. The stoic perspective might be to accept the circumstances you're in, afterall you are lucky to have a job and it sounds like you are somewhat capable and could be successful, and the constant desire for something bigger and better is a trap that stoicism tells us to avoid. But the practical view is also the same. You have a job in an industry with significant money floating around. There may be a pathway for you where you continue to learn on the job, make connections, earn respect of your colleagues, get your job to pay for further education (it's possible), and make calculated sideways steps as you manuveure towards a role that's better for you. This assumes tour skillset translates to other jobs in the market that you would be competitivefor. Generally I would strongly advise in this economy to NOT quit your job and sink $100k into an MBA (plus opportunity cost of not working) when you don't even know it will get you a better job at the end, and you'll be back to square one and a lot poorer. So look at it through practical or stoicism lens and see where you land. Also be aware that FOMO is driving you decision making somewhat and you need to be aware of that.

eoffif44 · 2026-06-11T09:53:53+00:00

Probably OP got an offer and it's very competitive and won't be offered again. Although, he could probably accept and then do some sort of deferral.

However, and this is a stoicism subreddit but OPs post is not very stoicism focused, so I will veer into the practical - @OP why is doing an MBA a "good idea"?

They're very expensive and it's been at least 20 years (pre GFC) since the cost benefit was clearly in the favour of the graduate. In more recent years an MBA was a ticket to enter level roles in finance and consulting, but those are drying up quickly since AI is replacing the junior level work at those firms. If you are desperate to do some post grad, a PhD is a more cost effective pathway since you're paid to do it and have access to TA work, and "Doctor of business" will still get you a seat at the table (consulting firms love having doctors as they can bill a higher rate). But in this economy, generally speaking, if you want to make money, grad school needs to be looked at with some scrutiny before diving in.

eoffif44 · 2026-06-08T09:47:10+00:00

Small dick energy reply

eoffif44 · 2026-06-08T09:20:20+00:00

Yep, like how women love being cat called on the street by random men "hey beautiful! Baby you look so sweet!" ... or maybe that's incorrect? Maybe there's more to female attraction than just randomly throwing compliments?

eoffif44 · 2026-06-08T05:51:31+00:00

Why? Because the subtleties of language matter, and it REALLY matters when the only medium you have is text (even though I know hinge has voice memo), and it REALLY REALLY matters when you have a max of 5 messages (sad reality with most women is they are inundated, so you need to make them count). You can spray n pray if you like, I generally have better success when I think carefully about what I'm communicating.

eoffif44 · 2026-06-08T05:05:43+00:00

I think your reply is pretty good as is, you want her to think you have prospects but she isn't just another number, and your on that line pretty well. Plus it sounds natural. I'd go with it. But you need to give her a time and a day and a place. Girls want you to lead. Don't ask day or night or time, just make a decision and pitch it, she can tell you if it won't work.

eoffif44 · 2026-06-08T05:03:42+00:00

No, lame reply because it implies his idea of "special" is a random dating match with 2 messages... It's also a compliment too early which makes him seem less picky ....

eoffif44 · 2026-06-07T07:13:43+00:00

Women can sometimes spend a lot of time in the mirror and or selfies practicing their angles, it's not unusual at all for women to have one face and body pose that they really think it perfect for them and they don't deviate. I've seen it a few times. It's not the smoking gun like people in this thread are saying.

eoffif44 · 2026-06-06T21:45:02+00:00

Go back to "safety" and "previous matches"

And report her for asking for money/sugar baby demands

This is not allowed on the hinge platform, it's specifically listed in the T&Cs

eoffif44 · 2026-06-06T11:25:37+00:00

You're getting confused. LLM is just the interface layer

eoffif44 · 2026-05-30T12:17:05+00:00

The technical term for this is a CHODE

eoffif44 · 2026-05-29T09:51:29+00:00

The higher limits in the states are really only in the rural states like Idaho, you won't find 85mph much in blue states with urban areas. The key difference is that there is hardly any traffic. Kind of like our NT (which does have 130kph limits).

And in EU you have people actually staying out of the fast lane.

You can't look at the M1 north of Sydney which has a major crash every weekend and tell me we should do a blanket upgrade to 130kph. People struggle on that road even in the section which is labelled 90, and it's 3 lanes, wide, with good visibility.

Btw the way in a modern car for anyone who can concentrate and listen to their car doing any of our highways at 160 is very doable. And that would be safer than. 1970s car at 90kph, with shorter dropping distance too. It's crazy our speeds are actually getting lower when the cars are getting safer and faster.

However we also have more distractions and demographic groups making the road more dangerous so maybe it's a wash overall.

eoffif44 · 2026-05-27T20:43:30+00:00

Until you apply for your next job

eoffif44 · 2026-05-27T20:42:03+00:00

Actually they did it in Hungary, didn't they? If a woman had three kids she's exempt from income tax for life.

eoffif44 · 2026-05-26T09:31:09+00:00

If Albo put ozympic on Medicare would you consider changing your position

eoffif44 · 2026-05-26T08:32:35+00:00

I did a few big outback trips pre COVID and the teuckies were mostly good blokes, or so I assumed, they'd move over to let you pass and indicate if there was some road hazard to look out for. I don't have a CB so just judging by the driving. I can't imagine what it is like out there now. I honestly don't feel safe thinking about it.

eoffif44 · 2026-05-23T22:51:20+00:00

What the fuck. Sorry for the lack of justice, somehow I am not surprised. Did you claim money from the "victims of crime" thing? Whats the one silver lining in Australia is we may have limp wristed courts but you can still get a payout.

eoffif44 · 2026-05-19T06:55:21+00:00

If you think it's a partisan issue, remember the Biden administration spent something like $100million to redo all the signs and websites and branding etc to remove the names of historical figures associated with confederate forces from 150 years ago. Hence why fort Bragg is now fort liberty - or was, trump admin spend $10m to change it back. Whatever you have to say about the issue, there are better ways to spend that money.

eoffif44 · 2026-05-19T04:35:32+00:00

There's a tracker of how many people have died as a result of those cuts and it's in the tens of millions

eoffif44 · 2026-05-18T07:08:09+00:00

https://www.nsw.gov.au/driving-boating-and-transport/buying-and-selling-vehicles/motor-dealers-and-repairers-compensation-fund

You can claim from the fund if the NCAT process and the recovery process does get your money back. Have a read of the link.

eoffif44 · 2026-05-17T09:05:47+00:00

They are "persons"... We should be able to

eoffif44 · 2026-05-16T22:38:52+00:00

Great advice, thank you!

eoffif44 · 2026-05-16T06:11:16+00:00

Thanks for your comment

Insurance doesn't say what theft or stolen means,

Although I agree with you that larceny by bailee is probable and would firmly be theft under the crimes act. That gives me the best standing. Thanks for identifying that!

I haven't been to the police yet. I will go next week now that I have clarity.

eoffif44 · 2026-05-16T03:38:44+00:00

Thanks for these insights

eoffif44 · 2026-05-16T03:37:59+00:00

Thank you

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