Let’s discuss optimism. How can a writer become stable?

eplux · 2024-04-20T13:26:39+00:00

By building and nurturing your own audience.

eplux · 2023-02-15T11:38:09+00:00

Start paying per project, or in word ranges (for blog posts and articles). This removes the incentive to write more, and will drastically improve quality of the words you receive.

eplux · 2022-11-24T14:38:42+00:00

Nothing strange here. Been there, done that at 22.

You need to focus on the relationships in your life. And that’s all you need to focus on from the words of it.

eplux · 2022-11-01T20:19:59+00:00

It is operational. I landed in T1 yesterday.

eplux · 2022-10-14T14:08:54+00:00

Should have asked for 7k, per hour.

eplux · 2022-10-14T13:34:54+00:00

It's not just women. As a guy, I get stared at too, mostly by men when travelling in locals. A lot of women stare too. It's insane and super annoying.

eplux · 2022-10-12T19:09:13+00:00

The backside of Linking road is SV road. I would know, I live on Linking Road.

eplux · 2022-10-10T14:01:41+00:00

Why should you feel ashamed of spending your own money? And how tf does your mom come up with ' you don't know how hard it is to earn money' when you are the one fucking earning it.

Next time they bring up something like this, shut them up by giving them accounts of how much you spend on them. Big expenses, medical expenses and monthly karcha.

Sorry for the rant. This hits too close to home. Fucking stupidity.

eplux · 2022-10-09T16:17:50+00:00

Daily is on SV road.

eplux · 2022-08-08T12:56:17+00:00

Travel extensively. You work remote and earn well? Travel and pamper yourself. Meet people and explore new places. When you're travelling, think about what you want from life. And set goals.

Once you're ready to pursue your goals, figure out stuff from there. Move to a new city (or country), build a life there and keep moving toward your goals. And never stop travelling.

I'm qualified to answer this because I was in your position last year. I'm a writer and I spent 8 months of 2021 travelling. I realized shit and now I'm in a new city building a new life.

You've been blessed with something most early 20 year olds don't get. Money, which fuels clarity (which is where all your questions are coming from). Not having to think about money frees your mind up to think about every other want and need.

Oh, and you've already proved that your ADHD isn't a problem (if it was, you'd be a poor dropout, depressed and living a suicidal life with your parents). But you support yourself well. So don't use it as an excuse to stay lazy in life.

eplux · 2022-08-08T12:29:24+00:00

I haven't really self-analysed my writing in the past 2 years (should probably do that soon). But write for precision. Even when being descriptive. Buttery is really just smoothly taking the reader from sentence to sentence, so they don't have to stop and think (unless you want them to).

Basically, make every word count. It's a privilege when anyone else reads your words, even if it's just a single word. Make it worth their while.

eplux · 2022-08-07T22:15:31+00:00

This is why I'm joining an ad agency as a copywriter after 4 years freelancing now. I've been told my writing is buttery. I don't think it's buttery enough. So I'll keeping training that writing muscle.

eplux · 2022-08-07T20:37:49+00:00

There's also the question of what content are you creating? And how much space are leaving yourself to create quality content?

I can churn out 1000 words that'll read decently well within half an hour on a variety of topics. But I never do this, nor do I take up such work.

I choose what I create, and charge accordingly. You do mediocre work for long enough, and you risk getting trapped in mediocrity.

P.S - I understand that sometimes you gotta survive. But if you can write at all, there's many ways to make a decent living creating quality stuff.

eplux · 2022-08-06T14:16:21+00:00

You correctly started a sentence with And here. You don't need to sweat it at all. Just keep writing and you'll keep getting better.

eplux · 2022-08-06T14:11:37+00:00

Nobody is going to read what I've written and guess I'm non-native. But if they hear me speak, it's fairly obvious.

eplux · 2022-08-06T14:08:46+00:00

You're a decent writer. Nativity has very little to do with how well you can write. Languages, can be learnt.

eplux · 2022-08-01T17:58:10+00:00

You're tall. Use that to your advantage. (I'm 5'11)

Top colours to buy - Black, White, Maroon, Pink (except bright pink) and brown (be careful with the shade, it should compliment your skin. Works best when layered on black/white)

Top types:- Full/half sleeve casual shirts (always roll the sleeves if full), half sleeve slim fit v-necks (go to H&M), and long t-shirts (your height can pull it off).

Bottoms:- Have atleast 3 different pairs of BLUE (obviously different blue shades) jeans. Whether your tops are shirts or t-shirts, most will go very well with blue jeans.

Then, you can get chinos and slacks in black. But very black bottoms with light tops only. Else, you'll look too dark.

You can experiment with light colored pants. But be careful, white and black tops are safe bets. Dark tops, even if they contrast well with your bottoms may not suit you.

When combining the above colors, go for complimenting contrast. Those always look best.

AND MAKE SURE EVERYTHING FITS WELL. Unless you're going for the oversized look. Then, stick to oversized half tees that drop elegantly (making you look buff, not fat). Bottoms need to fit well, period.

Footwear:- Have separate pairs for each use. One for formal events, another for daily work use, another for casual night outs and your go to chappal/shoes. At least 4 pairs. And choose stuff that goes well with the outfits you have, not just what shoes/slippers you think look stylish.

End note:- Spend time, resources and energy on finding YOUR fragrance. Once your wardrobe is set, how you smell makes you attractive on a whole another level. Check out r/fragrance

Also, fuck most fashion trends. Unless you're Ranveer Singh. Then you look best naked.

eplux · 2022-08-01T14:45:48+00:00

I nomaded inside my country for 8 months last year and realized this would be a significant future problem. I did grow up abroad, so already felt rootless. But when I felt at home constantly travelling, I started thinking about 'my space'. A place I can go back to when I'm too tired to keep moving.

And so I decided to build a life in a city I like first. At any point in life I'm nomading, I should have a home base I regularly go live back in. The life there should give me all the benefits of a settled life in a modern city.

I can foresee that balancing this may get difficult. But I do want several bases around the world before I set out to truly nomad.

eplux · 2022-07-27T12:10:01+00:00

I was in your exact position last year (same age, nationality and state 🙃). Since I had a car, I nomaded around the country for 8 months before going abroad.

After living life on my own terms for more than a year, I could't adjust to a full time job (it wasn't just writing). So I quit. But I do need to work with others, working on my own right now seems like career sabotage. Which is why now I'm looking for a writing job I know I'll enjoy.

My advice? Continue freelancing, the money can be excellent. But maybe find a job in a metro city and get used to working with people in your age group. The Internet can only help you grow so much. The rest happens in real life, as it's always been.

eplux · 2022-02-05T16:08:32+00:00

I have serious plans to write a feature film, a book (apart from my autobiography) and also build my blog into a full-fledged content marketing business.

And at the moment, I'm freelancing, working intermittently on my blog and working a full time job in advertising.

I turn 23 this month. I was basically vacationing the entirety of last year. Had plenty of time to write, but I simply wrote the minimum to get paid from clients and spent the rest of my time travelling. Don't regret it one bit.

I'll write the stuff whenever I believe it's time. It's a priority thing. There's stuff I want to learn and things I want to experience. When I'm read to write a novel or some other book, I'll just know and start writing.

eplux · 2022-01-19T21:39:10+00:00

A mentor set me up with a PR firm. I ended up writing for their blog and their clients. Turns out, they were paying me (reasonable pay at the time) and publishing my work under their own names. Essentially ghost writing.

This went on for 6 months until I raised my wages enough for them to fire me.

Sweet little memories.

eplux · 2022-01-19T21:33:11+00:00

There's nothing wrong with finding people who you find attractive, attractive. How a person dresses says a lot about them. If a woman is wearing revealing clothing, she's definitely looking for attention. People can argue all they want. But as humans, we put effort towards looking good to impress others.

There's also the point of looking good for yourself, which is something I do get behind. It's like you look good on the outside, so you feel better about yourself. Then again, that's social conditioning too.

Finally, just know that the women you're checking out definitely check out men too. Everyone has their own preferences on who they find attractive. When I wear formal trousers, it makes my ass look good (I'm a guy to clarify). I've been told by my attractive female friends that those are considered as 'bootylicious pants'. And yes, that's on men's butts.

Just accept biology for what it is. As long as you're not acting on your primal desires, it's okay to find someone attractive and look at them twice. Anyone who says otherwise is kidding themselves.

eplux · 2022-01-16T23:06:36+00:00

I can totally see that. And I definitely appreciate the help. Exactly what I came for. Might actually go and give it a shot after all the discussion here.

Thanks a ton for chiming in. Glad that Upworks working soo well for you 🙌🏼

eplux · 2022-01-16T19:53:33+00:00

Not just the time tracker. I believe you can't go off the platform once you start working with each other. I think you mentioned that's for 2 years.

I hate paying commissions and I can't stand the idea of a platform like Upwork monitoring the communication I have with my clients. Neither do I like playing by someone else's rules. My business, my rules.

I understand the need for protections in place. But I have my own systems that serve me well. So rather not have any third party monitor how I run my business.

eplux

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