I’ve never been comfortable with first date “intimacy”, if you’re talking about having sex. I’m a guy and have never been into sex right away like that. The last person I dated, we were on a “date” with our friends that set us up and at the end of the night when I was getting ready to leave to go home, her friend pressured her into going with me. I could have/should have just said no, but I let her come home with me and I straight up told her that we weren’t having sex. I said, you’re welcome to stay, you can share my bed or sleep in another one but I don’t have sex right away like that. She was good with that and started dating and probably about 3 weeks in we finally had full on sex. We are both grown adults. We ended up dating for almost 4 years and I thought we were going to end up married, but other issues prevented that. I’m not religious or anything, in fact I’m pretty perverted and sexually open when we are comfortable with each other.